37- My spouse realized they were nonbinary, which made me do some self examination and realize I wasn't as cis as I thought I was.

~30. I can't be more precise, It was a long process realizing that what I am falls under LGBTQ. Maybe. I'm still afraid of being excluded.

I always thought I was "a little bi." Growing up in the '80s in a religious household, I repressed tons. I didn't realize that I was fully bisexual, or consider myself really "LBGTQ" until my forties.

I discovered I was good at flirting at 17. I also discovered that as soon as a girl starts making out with me or getting handsy I lose interest. My brain is like “yay, validation, we won, okay let’s go get a snack.”

Took me over a year to learn that asexuality is a spectrum and that there are other people who like sex in theory but can be repulsed by (or indifferent to) it in practice.

12 or 13. but it took until I was 18 before I admitted it to myself and came out.

the 90s were a different time.

I realized I was bi around 21, and probably around 25, I knew I was something other than a cis man. I didn’t know quite what, and examining that question too deeply was scary. Nonbinary felt right, but I actually started presenting more and more masculine, I guess as a way of covering up and trying to deny what I realized just after I turned 29 - I’m actually a trans woman. It’s been such a relief to understand that and be able to start my transition

6 or 7 - I experimented with kids my age, and it 'clicked'. But I would struggle with that concept until I was about 12, when I decided 'fuck this religious bullshit'. I started dating guys when I was 13, I was out to my friends the same year, the general population when I was 15, and finally my family at 21. Though for my family it wasn't how I planned. I thought I was going to die soon; my original plan as a teen was to tell them on their death bed, mostly because of fear of physical violence. My family was very not-accepting growing up and through my teens. I lived in fear for all of my teenage+ years, many times not sleeping to make sure I wasn't attacked in my sleep.

But yeah, at a very young age I was like 'boys are cute' and 'wait a minute...'

I'm LGBTQ+? Oh good.

Around 15-16. I used to browse 4chan during it's heavy trap phase and realized I don't mind if they have a penis as long as they look like a girl

I was 18 when I realized I felt the same way about Ro Laren and Maria Hill as I did about any men I thought were attractive but it wasn't for several more years that I realized that when most people were attracted to someone they actually wanted to do something about it

25 when my therapist at the time helped me realize what LGBT actually fucking was and not what the media betrayal of it is.

Basically when someone told me what It actually is instead of a "disease" or "disorder"

I was 17 I realized I was trans. A revelation that helped me better understand my sexuality as well. Turns out I'm bi/pan. I did spend several years just assuming I was ace because the idea of sex didn't interest me until I realized I was a woman.

9ish? Although due to bullying, homophobia, culture, I wasn't "ok" with a label until I was in my late 30s.

17. I stopped denying that being attracted to femboys was gay.

Really I should've recognized I was bi when my first boner to a man was the same year as my first boner period.

At 15 I was fantasizing with people my own gender.

Somehow until 25 or something I wouldn't realize I was bi.

11 and the revelation was delivered by a wet dream. I mean I looked at dicks online before "to compare" but did not realize I was attracted to it. After realizing that it just took about 5 years to start sharing that with my closest friends and another 8 years to share with my family and other friends. Started dating with 26 and have been in a happy relationship ever since (though I would love more fuck buddies, as I am still rather inexperienced there).

30s no, I won't elaborate

Always. I was confused when my parents tried to tell me I was only allowed to like boys.

Depends; looking back at things as a kid, probably as early as 5, based on my hobbies and interests.

But that was subconsciously before I knew what being gay or trans meant.

It was closer to 14 or 15 when I really discovered I was probably bisexual; thank you David Bowie, Brian Molko, and Velvet Goldmine.

I was 26 when I realized that romantic attraction is even a thing. It was a year later before I realized that I am ace as well as aro.

Hard to say. On one hand I've always known though I didn't have the words for it. But I also grew up in a fundamental church, so it was a sin and I denied it. Didn't formally admit it until 24 though.

I thought everyone was sexually attracted to all genders at least a little bit until I learned that no, straight people are actually straight.

13

I had a severely long cross-dressing and denial phase since like 2000s ish. It is all a blur. Somewhere around 2008 I lived by myself and had the freedom to explore and experiment in private. And then somewhere around 2021 I realized that I'm trans, possibly before then but denial is a hell of a drug. And then on Nov 2022 I finally started hormones. And now I'm 2 years into hormones and happy!

I started hormones at the age of 36 and now I'm 38.

I was a teen when I found the word asexual and knew what was "wrong" with me. I had known way before though, I just didn't have a word for it. On the other hand I was over twenty when I finally figured I was trans too. In hindsight the signs were already there when I was six years old or so, it just wasn't a thing people understood back then

I was around 20 when I first started browsing trans subreddits "as an ally", and I also made a few jokes to some friends about how "I'm probably non-binary lol".

I was 23 when I finally actually came to terms with my gender and sexual orientation. Those three years were rough :P

Don't know what I am yet, but definitely confident enough to consider myself LGBTQ last year at 30

I'm just turned 40.

14ish when I started having those kind of feelings for other boys, and idk probably 19-20 the first time I said it out loud

I should have realized it when I was experimenting with friends but I had my first real inkling at 13. Tried opening up to someone who said "ew" which scared me into full denial for a good long time.

16 or 17, when I first had openly queer friends. But thinking back, there definitely were signs before, I just never have had thought about it.

Roundabout 27. I consider myself barely under the umbrella even to the point of calling myself "Diet Queer" as I'm a heteroromantic demisexual. I've always been around people that are much more queer presenting than I am so I seemed straight as fuck in comparison.

Mid 20s! It all worked out.

Early teens, around 13-14. I didn't come out and transition until about age 25 though.

I think I was around 13. Repressed it about as much as I could.

15, I was too sacred to come out and gay marriage wasn't legal in my state yet

Early teens:

D'Angelo's video for Untitled (How Does It Feel)? made me realize I like dudes too. Round the same time I remember blushing heavily watching the male gym teacher do pushups.

Knew I liked women earlier when some kid snuck a stack of porno mags and a bunch of kids flipped thru em ogling the titties etc.

For a lot of my adolescence I suspected I'd transition eventually. At 18 though I accepted I wasn't cis. At 19 I accepted I was a binary trans woman. And at 20 after starting hormones I accepted that I had been attracted to men after estrogen made me not attracted to them. So yeah 18, because even when nonbinary is a stepping stone identity it's still queer.

Hard to say. I'm bi and I had an undercover boyfriend when I was 12 or 13. Although neither of us really called it that it, it's pretty clear that's what it was in restrospect. Then growing up in the environment that I did, I stayed closeted until I was in my 30s and married.

Somehow even though I didn't admit it to myself for most of that time, it still didn't keep me from enjoying guys in porn, so IDK what kind of cognitive dissonance I had going there.

Roughly 14 or 15, I realized pretty early on I'm Asexual but took until I was 17 to realize I'm trans :3