How many of you young adults here still live with parents/relatives?
This is a judgment-free zone, no poor shaming pls.
u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org) - 1day
Unfortunately I do. No way I can make enough money to live alone during college. Hell, I am extremely slow at everything, I feel like I need at least 30 hours a day and 10 days a week to do what I need to.
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FinjaminPoach @lemmy.world - 1day
Same.
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Ryanmiller70 @lemmy.zip - 1day
30 here and live with my parents. I never had a chance to move out on my own since the job I worked for a very long time only paid $27k before taxes. I recently got a new job that pays $50k before taxes, but need to work on my insane levels of anxiety that comes with the thought of doing something that might let someone else down or cause someone I care about to have to do more work (I help out A LOT at home to the point my parents tell me to calm down sometimes).
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slazer2au - 1day
I lived with my parents until I was 21.
My nephew at 20 is still living with his parents.
My brother in law lived with his dad until he got married at 40, he lived and worked on his family farm.
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Sarie @lemmy.world - 1day
Your brother in law is nasty.
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slazer2au - 21hr
That will teach me to not proof read my comments.
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iAmTheTot @sh.itjust.works - 1day
I lived with my mother until I was 25, and only stopped at the time because she passed away.
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jellyfishhunter @lemmy.world - 1day
I'm 32 and live with my mother again. I lived in other places for about 10 years. Got a remote job, wanted to move closer to family and friends, and failed to find a proper apartment for an affordable price. Luckily I have the privilege of my parents possessing a fairly big house, so we moved in and live rent free.
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YappyMonotheist - 1day
In many (most?) non-Western cultures people live with their parents until they get married and move out. Just saying, it's not a thing to "judge" a person for regardless.
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partial_accumen - 1day
Considering OP has a Taiwanese flag in his username as well as a Japansese anime character name (with the kanji as well as the romaji, and a Chinese name (the hanzi as well as the pinyin), I'm guessing OP is at least moderately aware of non-Western cultures practices on the topic and I don't immediately suspect OP is judging people for their answers either way.
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YappyMonotheist - 1day
Didn't say OP was, just that it doesn't even fit the framework for "judgement", it's not a moral failing or developmental hangup, that's all. 🤷👍
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Gonzako @lemmy.world - 1day
This is a mainly American thing I believe
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seathru - 1day
Moved out as soon as I was 18. Kinda wish I hadn't have, little bro is still living there at ~35 and has it pretty nice.
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Una - 1day
Me, 20 years old. But I do plan to get a job and save some money to be able to live by myself be independent and move out.
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ceoofanarchism - 1day
28 me and my mom still live together more like roommates than anything else split bills and so on.
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baduhai - 1day
I'm 26, still live with my parents.
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angstylittlecatboy @reddthat.com - 1day
I live with my mom and brother. If I could live on my own I would, but this is better than the alternative for any of us.
Mostly I wish that we all had our own bedrooms, that I could do anything without either of them noticing, especially leave (I have perception anxiety and I don't like being questioned about what I'm doing if I do something unusual.)
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[object Object] - 1day
Unless you count the dorm, yeah I do. It's pretty normal to live with your parents.
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Rhynoplaz - 1day
To me, living at your dorm and crashing at your parent's house during breaks is pretty much living on your own with training wheels. It counts until you're out of school.
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[鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] - 1day
living at your dorm
You don't know how non-independent you are until the separation anxiety sets in.
Yes, the separation anxiety is still a thing even if your parents are emotionally abusive.
The wonders of being trauma-bonded with your abusers lol.
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wirelesswire @lemmy.zip - 1day
I lived with family until I was 29. Around that time, I got a new position at work that roughly doubled my salary, so after saving for a few months, I was able to move out and get an apartment.
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kubofhromoslav @lemmy.world - 1day
35 still living with my mom. After university I lived abroad for some time but then get into serious crisis of meaning and was like a living zombie for 2-3 years. Then found a nonprofit organization for which I needed some serious work and time to put it on the ground (similar to starting a business, but with a different goal). Now it pays off, but I am into very serious saving for big thing for future, so rather stay here still. I also love my mom so I enjoy the family life.
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missingno - 1day
33, still living with my parents. Stuck in a dead-end part-time job that's not nearly enough to be able to live on my own any time soon.
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AliasVortex @lemmy.world - 1day
I'm in my late 20's and while I have a good job and enough cash on hand that I could make a down payment and move out, I'm not sure that I want to... As a US-ian The economy is in pretty rough shape and I'm not sure I want to be tied up in a mortgage when the bubbles start popping. Plus, if I were to uproot myself and move away from my family and friends, I'd almost rather full send it and emigrate to somewhere walkable, where the wrong medical diagnosis isn't a financial death sentence.
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Gonzako @lemmy.world - 1day
Well, I either get a house or I start a family. Houses already covered so I'm looking to get a family working
DeathByBigSad in asklemmy @lemmy.world
How many of you young adults here still live with parents/relatives?
This is a judgment-free zone, no poor shaming pls.
Unfortunately I do. No way I can make enough money to live alone during college. Hell, I am extremely slow at everything, I feel like I need at least 30 hours a day and 10 days a week to do what I need to.
Same.
30 here and live with my parents. I never had a chance to move out on my own since the job I worked for a very long time only paid $27k before taxes. I recently got a new job that pays $50k before taxes, but need to work on my insane levels of anxiety that comes with the thought of doing something that might let someone else down or cause someone I care about to have to do more work (I help out A LOT at home to the point my parents tell me to calm down sometimes).
I lived with my parents until I was 21.
My nephew at 20 is still living with his parents.
My brother in law lived with his dad until he got married at 40, he lived and worked on his family farm.
Your brother in law is nasty.
That will teach me to not proof read my comments.
I lived with my mother until I was 25, and only stopped at the time because she passed away.
I'm 32 and live with my mother again. I lived in other places for about 10 years. Got a remote job, wanted to move closer to family and friends, and failed to find a proper apartment for an affordable price. Luckily I have the privilege of my parents possessing a fairly big house, so we moved in and live rent free.
In many (most?) non-Western cultures people live with their parents until they get married and move out. Just saying, it's not a thing to "judge" a person for regardless.
Considering OP has a Taiwanese flag in his username as well as a Japansese anime character name (with the kanji as well as the romaji, and a Chinese name (the hanzi as well as the pinyin), I'm guessing OP is at least moderately aware of non-Western cultures practices on the topic and I don't immediately suspect OP is judging people for their answers either way.
Didn't say OP was, just that it doesn't even fit the framework for "judgement", it's not a moral failing or developmental hangup, that's all. 🤷👍
This is a mainly American thing I believe
Moved out as soon as I was 18. Kinda wish I hadn't have, little bro is still living there at ~35 and has it pretty nice.
Me, 20 years old. But I do plan to get a job and save some money to be able to live by myself be independent and move out.
28 me and my mom still live together more like roommates than anything else split bills and so on.
I'm 26, still live with my parents.
I live with my mom and brother. If I could live on my own I would, but this is better than the alternative for any of us.
Mostly I wish that we all had our own bedrooms, that I could do anything without either of them noticing, especially leave (I have perception anxiety and I don't like being questioned about what I'm doing if I do something unusual.)
Unless you count the dorm, yeah I do. It's pretty normal to live with your parents.
To me, living at your dorm and crashing at your parent's house during breaks is pretty much living on your own with training wheels. It counts until you're out of school.
You don't know how non-independent you are until the separation anxiety sets in.
Yes, the separation anxiety is still a thing even if your parents are emotionally abusive.
The wonders of being trauma-bonded with your abusers lol.
I lived with family until I was 29. Around that time, I got a new position at work that roughly doubled my salary, so after saving for a few months, I was able to move out and get an apartment.
35 still living with my mom. After university I lived abroad for some time but then get into serious crisis of meaning and was like a living zombie for 2-3 years. Then found a nonprofit organization for which I needed some serious work and time to put it on the ground (similar to starting a business, but with a different goal). Now it pays off, but I am into very serious saving for big thing for future, so rather stay here still. I also love my mom so I enjoy the family life.
33, still living with my parents. Stuck in a dead-end part-time job that's not nearly enough to be able to live on my own any time soon.
I'm in my late 20's and while I have a good job and enough cash on hand that I could make a down payment and move out, I'm not sure that I want to... As a US-ian The economy is in pretty rough shape and I'm not sure I want to be tied up in a mortgage when the bubbles start popping. Plus, if I were to uproot myself and move away from my family and friends, I'd almost rather full send it and emigrate to somewhere walkable, where the wrong medical diagnosis isn't a financial death sentence.
Well, I either get a house or I start a family. Houses already covered so I'm looking to get a family working
26 here