Guys disappearing after you tell them you're asexual is so funny.
They'll be pretending that they're so interested in knowing you but once you tell them their mask falls off.
I hate that most guys are hypersexual, chill, be a normal person and not a wild animal for some time.
Zer0_F0x @lemmy.world - 22hr
The vast majority of people aren't asexual. Better to be honest and leave than be in a relationship you're uncomfortable with
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Katerina - 22hr
I know, but don't pretend to want to know me or be my friend when you're actually not.
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eskimofry @lemmy.world - 41min
unfortunately that's how the "game" is setup so a lot of dudes think they're just doing the right thing.
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the_riviera_kid @lemmy.world - 17hr
If they are looking for a sexual relationship then they are doing you a favor by leaving you alone. Would you rather they stick around and try to pressure you into sex?
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Katerina - 17hr
It's not even just relationships, it's friendships
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the_riviera_kid @lemmy.world - 16hr
Yeah that one is a bit fucked.
Not that it will make you feel any better but if they are leaving as soon as they know they can't get in your pants then you know their intentions were never honorable any way. So by being shitty they are accidentally doing you a favor.
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FrowingFostek @lemmy.world - 22hr
I imagine these are guys that you've encountered in the wild.
It'd be really funny if you were on a dating app and simultaneously making this post.
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Katerina - 22hr
Both, I don't get what dating apps have to do with this
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TwigletSparkle - 21hr
Meeting with people irl and matching with someone on a dating app have different different expectaions, depending on where you're meeting people irl.
If I went on a dating app expecting a sexual relationship and the other person revealed they were asexual then obviously I'd look elsewhere. It's not a read of you as a person, you just have different goals and that's ok.
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FrowingFostek @lemmy.world - 20hr
Yeah I agree with this.
In my experience it's hard to gauge sometimes, IRL, if someone wants a platonic/physical/romantic relationship.
Where as on a dating app one would expect people to state their interests plainly.
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CluckN @lemmy.world - 15hr
Apps are for dating/hookups. Don’t hate the players hate the game. If you’re ace you gotta make it obvious on your profile instead of dropping it mid conversation.
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Jakeroxs @sh.itjust.works - 5hr
As a dude, hyper sexual dudes suck and make us all look worse, I blame society somewhat for either literally promoting it or at the very least looking past it.
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Cass - 14min
It bothers me that most of the replies are trying to argue with you. It sucks to not be able to just be friendly with guys. Even if it's an ace-but-not-aro thing, it's understandable but still frustrating.
choihanna in asexual @lemmy.world
Guys disappearing after you tell them you're asexual is so funny.
They'll be pretending that they're so interested in knowing you but once you tell them their mask falls off.
I hate that most guys are hypersexual, chill, be a normal person and not a wild animal for some time.
The vast majority of people aren't asexual. Better to be honest and leave than be in a relationship you're uncomfortable with
I know, but don't pretend to want to know me or be my friend when you're actually not.
unfortunately that's how the "game" is setup so a lot of dudes think they're just doing the right thing.
If they are looking for a sexual relationship then they are doing you a favor by leaving you alone. Would you rather they stick around and try to pressure you into sex?
It's not even just relationships, it's friendships
Yeah that one is a bit fucked.
Not that it will make you feel any better but if they are leaving as soon as they know they can't get in your pants then you know their intentions were never honorable any way. So by being shitty they are accidentally doing you a favor.
I imagine these are guys that you've encountered in the wild. It'd be really funny if you were on a dating app and simultaneously making this post.
Both, I don't get what dating apps have to do with this
Meeting with people irl and matching with someone on a dating app have different different expectaions, depending on where you're meeting people irl.
If I went on a dating app expecting a sexual relationship and the other person revealed they were asexual then obviously I'd look elsewhere. It's not a read of you as a person, you just have different goals and that's ok.
Yeah I agree with this.
In my experience it's hard to gauge sometimes, IRL, if someone wants a platonic/physical/romantic relationship.
Where as on a dating app one would expect people to state their interests plainly.
Apps are for dating/hookups. Don’t hate the players hate the game. If you’re ace you gotta make it obvious on your profile instead of dropping it mid conversation.
As a dude, hyper sexual dudes suck and make us all look worse, I blame society somewhat for either literally promoting it or at the very least looking past it.
It bothers me that most of the replies are trying to argue with you. It sucks to not be able to just be friendly with guys. Even if it's an ace-but-not-aro thing, it's understandable but still frustrating.