This is when you break out the magic wand and let the machines do the work.
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Sundray - 16hr
😵💫 🥴
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Iheartcheese @lemmy.world - 1day
I thought you just had to be some overly horny fuck
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Berengaria_of_Navarre @lemmy.world - 23hr
That's certainly the case as far as I'm concerned.... Spread 'em!
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Iheartcheese @lemmy.world - 20hr
My heavens
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socsa - 15hr
You can be horny and hate IRL men and yearn exclusively for throbbing anime waifu dick. Or like, particularly handsome bed posts.
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Iheartcheese @lemmy.world - 14hr
To the surprise of no one who has seen the shit you people post.
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socsa - 14hr
Oh, I am no femcel. I do not want to be accused of stolen valor. I am just a fan.
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djsoren19 - 1day
I feel like the only requirement is owning or wanting to own a pair of striped thigh-highs!
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superfes @lemmy.world - 1day
Isn't that software developers?
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UnculturedSwine @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 1day
Arch users
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Holytimes @sh.itjust.works - 20hr
Why not both?
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Canonical_Warlock @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 18hr
Wait... y'all hate men? That's news to me. The worst I've seen here is the ocasional lesbian "men eww, girl pretty" meme.
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FerretyFever0 - 11hr
Not here, but some of the reddit communites are a bit less friendly. Supposedly as a joke, but if it is one, they're pretty into the bit. Idk, that could be the case.
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VerilyFemme - 17hr
I thought it was "be lesbian (optional)"
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sp3ctr4l @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 15hr
It would seem to me that we could add:
"be cute (unavoidable)"
and also
":3"
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sp3ctr4l @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 19hr
New proposal for a functional definition of femcel:
I'll be real with ya'll, 95% of people I encounter outside of this comm (which I love) use the word femcel as if it basically just means 'socially awkward and/or romantically unsuccesful or disinterested cishet woman who has never had a serious relationship or sex, who is also potentially a misandrist'.
Basically, just a cishet inversion of incel, over into a cishet girl/woman.
Whereas the understanding that this community seems to have, is, as best I can tell, is that femcel means basically 'hikkikomori/permaonline transwoman / femboy / nb + feminine expression, etc.'
I'm really not trying to be mean, but it is somewhat difficult to manage the dissonance between how this comm seems to understand 'femcel', and how seemingly everyone else uses the term.
Like, if I am wildly off base here, please correct me... I am confuse.
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Canonical_Warlock @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 18hr
I've never actually heard femcel used outside of comms like this one.
If anything, the only derogatory term I've heard for refering to misandrist permanently single women is "legbeard".
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sp3ctr4l @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 17hr
Welp, I've never heard of 'legbeard' before.
Damn.
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TotallynotJessica - 15hr
You're not entirely wrong, but that's kinda the point. It's more of a vibe than a hard and fast definition; one that seeks to reject the most toxic elements of the inverted male incel. It's more about being a "loser" in the eyes of the rest of society than it is grievances about relationships and sex. While inceldom is centered on their relationship to women, this place is rarely about that. Being a weirdo is far more important than being a virgin.
Also, by virtue of this comm being fairly gay, we don't need to worry as much about men. Unlike MGTOW who can't escape their obsession with women, sapphic girls can actually go their own way.
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sp3ctr4l @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 13hr
Ok, I am glad that it just is kinda the point to claim or reclaim or distinctly have your own understanding/usage of the term, or however you would phrase that.
I fear I am too autistic to fully comprehend 'the vibe', but... thats's ok, lol.
That's the part I think I get, being a hikki weirdo, lol.
But I am also a cis, generally masc-presenting, bi (trans inclusive) guy, so, there are elements at play that I don't have direct lived experience with...
... though I have had a good deal of transwomen, gay, lesbian, bi friends and such, and spent a good deal of time in just generally queer spaces, both online and in meatspace.
Which I guess is just me overexplaining my weirdness.
derp.
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lurch (he/him) - 18hr
I think this meme is wrongfully gendered or at least implying so. An INvoluntary CELibate does not just mean "with women" (even if often the case). It can be with any potential partner, regardless of gender.
On another note, I would expect femcels and masccels to be subgroups of incels, but I understand it's used differently, which I find irritating.
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sp3ctr4l @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 15hr
Thats... the extremely literal understanding of incel, which perhaps would have worked 5 to 10 years ago.
But we are now in the future where 5 to 10 years of massive association between the term 'incel' and 'redpill' and 'misogynist' and all kinds of other things has occured, so, its a very loaded term beyond its more intial meaning.
I'm trying to say I understand your frustration, it... isn't as simple as strict categories... depending on context, incel or femcel is or could be basically a slur, but some incels also wear the term as a kind of badge of honor...
KawaiiBitch in femcelmemes
it's a lifestyle ♡
too horny to sleep, but too sleepy to horn 😭
The paradox of ska.
This is when you break out the magic wand and let the machines do the work.
😵💫 🥴
I thought you just had to be some overly horny fuck
That's certainly the case as far as I'm concerned.... Spread 'em!
My heavens
You can be horny and hate IRL men and yearn exclusively for throbbing anime waifu dick. Or like, particularly handsome bed posts.
To the surprise of no one who has seen the shit you people post.
Oh, I am no femcel. I do not want to be accused of stolen valor. I am just a fan.
I feel like the only requirement is owning or wanting to own a pair of striped thigh-highs!
Isn't that software developers?
Arch users
Why not both?
Wait... y'all hate men? That's news to me. The worst I've seen here is the ocasional lesbian "men eww, girl pretty" meme.
Not here, but some of the reddit communites are a bit less friendly. Supposedly as a joke, but if it is one, they're pretty into the bit. Idk, that could be the case.
I thought it was "be lesbian (optional)"
It would seem to me that we could add:
"be cute (unavoidable)"
and also
":3"
New proposal for a functional definition of femcel:
It has to include everyone on...
https://www.reddit.com/r/MyBoyfriendIsAI/
I'll be real with ya'll, 95% of people I encounter outside of this comm (which I love) use the word femcel as if it basically just means 'socially awkward and/or romantically unsuccesful or disinterested cishet woman who has never had a serious relationship or sex, who is also potentially a misandrist'.
Basically, just a cishet inversion of incel, over into a cishet girl/woman.
Whereas the understanding that this community seems to have, is, as best I can tell, is that femcel means basically 'hikkikomori/permaonline transwoman / femboy / nb + feminine expression, etc.'
I'm really not trying to be mean, but it is somewhat difficult to manage the dissonance between how this comm seems to understand 'femcel', and how seemingly everyone else uses the term.
Like, if I am wildly off base here, please correct me... I am confuse.
I've never actually heard femcel used outside of comms like this one.
If anything, the only derogatory term I've heard for refering to misandrist permanently single women is "legbeard".
Welp, I've never heard of 'legbeard' before.
Damn.
You're not entirely wrong, but that's kinda the point. It's more of a vibe than a hard and fast definition; one that seeks to reject the most toxic elements of the inverted male incel. It's more about being a "loser" in the eyes of the rest of society than it is grievances about relationships and sex. While inceldom is centered on their relationship to women, this place is rarely about that. Being a weirdo is far more important than being a virgin.
Also, by virtue of this comm being fairly gay, we don't need to worry as much about men. Unlike MGTOW who can't escape their obsession with women, sapphic girls can actually go their own way.
Ok, I am glad that it just is kinda the point to claim or reclaim or distinctly have your own understanding/usage of the term, or however you would phrase that.
I fear I am too autistic to fully comprehend 'the vibe', but... thats's ok, lol.
That's the part I think I get, being a hikki weirdo, lol.
But I am also a cis, generally masc-presenting, bi (trans inclusive) guy, so, there are elements at play that I don't have direct lived experience with...
... though I have had a good deal of transwomen, gay, lesbian, bi friends and such, and spent a good deal of time in just generally queer spaces, both online and in meatspace.
Which I guess is just me overexplaining my weirdness.
derp.
I think this meme is wrongfully gendered or at least implying so. An INvoluntary CELibate does not just mean "with women" (even if often the case). It can be with any potential partner, regardless of gender.
On another note, I would expect femcels and masccels to be subgroups of incels, but I understand it's used differently, which I find irritating.
Thats... the extremely literal understanding of incel, which perhaps would have worked 5 to 10 years ago.
But we are now in the future where 5 to 10 years of massive association between the term 'incel' and 'redpill' and 'misogynist' and all kinds of other things has occured, so, its a very loaded term beyond its more intial meaning.
I'm trying to say I understand your frustration, it... isn't as simple as strict categories... depending on context, incel or femcel is or could be basically a slur, but some incels also wear the term as a kind of badge of honor...
Its a mess, basically.