Real talk though that was something I had to work through. Accepting that to the majority of people I'm going to look strange/odd/offputting and realizing that that's really not what's important. As long as I like what I look like, it doesn't matter what others think.
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TotallynotJessica - 1w
Also the struggle of realizing you look like your own mother
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Zorsith - 1w
Better than looking like my dad but with hair 🙃
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TotallynotJessica - 1w
exactly
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Zorsith - 1w
(Plus i consider my mom to be pretty, and to have aged well. I'm very okay with that as a possibility)
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tracelr402 - 1w
I actually had a bit more of a jolt in catching a glimpse of my long passed grandmother. But most people probably need a few more years on them to get that one
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Camille @lemmy.ml - 1w
Yeah! I used to look like my father. Like, it seemed like I stole all his genetics. But now, I'm a textbook clone of my mom. Their faces have some similarities, they are not like total opposite do to say. But going from one to the another is wild.
Meanwhile my brother has always had his own personal 100% authentic face. Bro has so much personality. I'm just mom and dad's clone lmao.
(I'm fine with it, my face is cute)
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blaze - 1w
Um actually estrogen makes us way prettier lol.
I agree with pixeltree though, I'm definitely looking more like my mom 😆
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TotallynotJessica - 1w
It's not that looking like your mom is inherently bad, it just feels freaky when you're not used to it.
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southsamurai - 1w
Legit, that idea always bugs me. On multiple levels.
For one, a person's value isn't in looks to begin with. Then, there's the misogyny of it, reducing women, yet again, into objects of the gaze (it isn't just the male gaze, and it isn't always a sexual thing when it is, and my objection to the idea goes beyond that part).
Like, damn, how shitty someone has to be to even think that thought, much less speak it.
But there's also the smugness that their idea of beauty must be the right one, and the only acceptable one. Fuck off with that shit.
The old adage of beauty being in the eye of the beholder is more than an adage. Just because their punk ass can't see beauty doesn't mean it isn't there to be seen. Yeah, there's ranges of features and traits that are going to appeal to different percentages of the population, but that still doesn't mean any given person' opinion of those traits is inherently superior.
People can really suck
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🦄🦄🦄 - 1w
I had that thought in my head for a long time, which postponed my transition at least another year or two.
Turns out I was completely wrong. Not only do I like myself in the mirror now waaay more than before I even have people that... desire me?? That is such a weird and novel feeling.
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Melissa - 1w
It is! That was SO unexpected to me. I thought I was choosing to be alone :( Nope, more love in my life than there has ever been!
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grue @lemmy.world - 1w
I feel like that's a bad-faith argument because the same assholes want y'all to not have access to puberty blockers etc. and (if I understand correctly) not having those masculine facial features develop in the first place is the best way to avoid that outcome.
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TotallynotJessica - 1w
Insulting attractiveness is just a tried and true way of discounting and undermining women they don't like. Feminists are just fat catlady blue haired sjws or whatever, while conventionally attractive women in media are seen as a victory over "woke" even if the media itself is explicitly goes against their fascist ideology.
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BeeegScaaawyCripple - 1w
i miss when "blue hairs" referred to little old ladies
TotallynotJessica in transmemes
bros can't help themselves 🙄
No I'm transitioning into my mom
Real talk though that was something I had to work through. Accepting that to the majority of people I'm going to look strange/odd/offputting and realizing that that's really not what's important. As long as I like what I look like, it doesn't matter what others think.
Also the struggle of realizing you look like your own mother
Better than looking like my dad but with hair 🙃
exactly
(Plus i consider my mom to be pretty, and to have aged well. I'm very okay with that as a possibility)
I actually had a bit more of a jolt in catching a glimpse of my long passed grandmother. But most people probably need a few more years on them to get that one
Yeah! I used to look like my father. Like, it seemed like I stole all his genetics. But now, I'm a textbook clone of my mom. Their faces have some similarities, they are not like total opposite do to say. But going from one to the another is wild.
Meanwhile my brother has always had his own personal 100% authentic face. Bro has so much personality. I'm just mom and dad's clone lmao.
(I'm fine with it, my face is cute)
Um actually estrogen makes us way prettier lol.
I agree with pixeltree though, I'm definitely looking more like my mom 😆
It's not that looking like your mom is inherently bad, it just feels freaky when you're not used to it.
Legit, that idea always bugs me. On multiple levels.
For one, a person's value isn't in looks to begin with. Then, there's the misogyny of it, reducing women, yet again, into objects of the gaze (it isn't just the male gaze, and it isn't always a sexual thing when it is, and my objection to the idea goes beyond that part).
Like, damn, how shitty someone has to be to even think that thought, much less speak it.
But there's also the smugness that their idea of beauty must be the right one, and the only acceptable one. Fuck off with that shit.
The old adage of beauty being in the eye of the beholder is more than an adage. Just because their punk ass can't see beauty doesn't mean it isn't there to be seen. Yeah, there's ranges of features and traits that are going to appeal to different percentages of the population, but that still doesn't mean any given person' opinion of those traits is inherently superior.
People can really suck
I had that thought in my head for a long time, which postponed my transition at least another year or two.
Turns out I was completely wrong. Not only do I like myself in the mirror now waaay more than before I even have people that... desire me?? That is such a weird and novel feeling.
It is! That was SO unexpected to me. I thought I was choosing to be alone :( Nope, more love in my life than there has ever been!
I feel like that's a bad-faith argument because the same assholes want y'all to not have access to puberty blockers etc. and (if I understand correctly) not having those masculine facial features develop in the first place is the best way to avoid that outcome.
Insulting attractiveness is just a tried and true way of discounting and undermining women they don't like. Feminists are just fat catlady blue haired sjws or whatever, while conventionally attractive women in media are seen as a victory over "woke" even if the media itself is explicitly goes against their fascist ideology.
i miss when "blue hairs" referred to little old ladies
I'm transitioning into your mommy, actually