I just provably passed for the first time since starting my transition. Got a match on Taimi and after an initial compliment (apparently I have a nice smile 🥹) I got a "you aren't a woman?!?" "I am a woman, but I'm trans". <unmatched>. I'm not a fan of the passing culture, but it still felt damn good.
HuntressHimbo @lemmy.zip - 1mon
Passing culture might not be the best, but take your gender euphoria where you get it. It's not worth second guessing your elation 😊 Not only did you pass, but they thought you were hot!
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katja - 1mon
Yeah, I've been on cloud nine since it happened. 🏳️⚧️
Didn't even think to thank him for possibly the biggest compliment I've ever received, and I don't mean the nice smile one.
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decipher_jeanne - 1mon
Are you Marilyn Monroe?
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katja - 1mon
No, I'm just camera shy. We look very much nothing like each other though.
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FloMo @lemmy.world - 1mon
I mean this as a sincere compliment when I say I thought I was scrolling past a photo of Marilyn for a moment - or someone doing a fabulous impersonation.
Either way you look amazing and like you’re living your best life - absolutely love that for you!
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TJA! - 1mon
That is a photo of Marilyn. Op said she did not want to upload a photo of herself
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FloMo @lemmy.world - 1mon
Looks like I need to pick up a book and practice reading more LOL thank you for the clarification!
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katja - 1mon
That is Marilyn. I just got so damn euphoric about some hick dude failing to clock me that I had to make my first post here and didn't think too hard about what pic I used.
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FloMo @lemmy.world - 1mon
Totally understandable and still very happy for you! <3
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katja - 1mon
Thanks babe 🥰
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hodgepodgin @lemmy.zip - 1mon
I would advertise you’re trans so you don’t surprise the other person tbh
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katja - 1mon
Yes, I realize that now. I assumed that it was blindingly obvious and I did indicate I'm trans, both in the text and as my gender. Seems the freeloaders don't see any text or even info before a match so some visual aid is probably warranted, like a trans pride flag or something.
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Snot Flickerman - 1mon
They actually just changed this. I have been on Taimi for a year as an unpaid member and I could see things like gender, location, actual profiile info and such and as of last week all that info is now hidden...
But I am not even entirely sure that it only applies to unpaid members because I had a gold membership for a week and that info stopped showing up about three days before the gold membership ended and two days before I cancelled the membership.
I want to like Taimi more but god damn they are pricey just to see basic ass info about each other.
And for what it's worth, yes, you absolutely are a woman, and would be even if you didn't "pass." I am glad however that it helped boost your self confidence.
Finally... If you're entirely straight and on Taimi what the fuck are you even doin (not you-you, but the guy who had the audacity to say something as stupid as "you're not a woman")? I'm only "straight" in the sense that I am attracted to women and transwomen are women so you get the idea.
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katja - 1mon
If that change is permanent, I'm leaving. Platinum is way too expensive and gold just became completely worthless.
They're going to lose a lot of customers on this.
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Snot Flickerman - 1mon
Do you have any suggestions for a Taimi replacement? I tried Hinge but nobody is on it in my area except "non-political" Christians and it makes me want to die. On the plus side unlike Taimi, Hinge actually has a "gynesexual" option for sexual preferences.
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katja - 1mon
I've had more luck on Hinge than on Taimi, but that may be a regional thing. I'm on greed too, but that is about as dead as it gets. I paid for six months right off the bat without even checking the app too closely first. Mistake. Also, greed is such a bad name.
I'm on "Her" too, but I've drifted more towards guys lately so I'm not using it much.
katja in onehundredninetysix
First pass rule
I just provably passed for the first time since starting my transition. Got a match on Taimi and after an initial compliment (apparently I have a nice smile 🥹) I got a "you aren't a woman?!?" "I am a woman, but I'm trans". <unmatched>. I'm not a fan of the passing culture, but it still felt damn good.
Passing culture might not be the best, but take your gender euphoria where you get it. It's not worth second guessing your elation 😊 Not only did you pass, but they thought you were hot!
Yeah, I've been on cloud nine since it happened. 🏳️⚧️
Didn't even think to thank him for possibly the biggest compliment I've ever received, and I don't mean the nice smile one.
Are you Marilyn Monroe?
No, I'm just camera shy. We look very much nothing like each other though.
I mean this as a sincere compliment when I say I thought I was scrolling past a photo of Marilyn for a moment - or someone doing a fabulous impersonation.
Either way you look amazing and like you’re living your best life - absolutely love that for you!
That is a photo of Marilyn. Op said she did not want to upload a photo of herself
Looks like I need to pick up a book and practice reading more LOL thank you for the clarification!
That is Marilyn. I just got so damn euphoric about some hick dude failing to clock me that I had to make my first post here and didn't think too hard about what pic I used.
Totally understandable and still very happy for you! <3
Thanks babe 🥰
I would advertise you’re trans so you don’t surprise the other person tbh
Yes, I realize that now. I assumed that it was blindingly obvious and I did indicate I'm trans, both in the text and as my gender. Seems the freeloaders don't see any text or even info before a match so some visual aid is probably warranted, like a trans pride flag or something.
They actually just changed this. I have been on Taimi for a year as an unpaid member and I could see things like gender, location, actual profiile info and such and as of last week all that info is now hidden...
But I am not even entirely sure that it only applies to unpaid members because I had a gold membership for a week and that info stopped showing up about three days before the gold membership ended and two days before I cancelled the membership.
I want to like Taimi more but god damn they are pricey just to see basic ass info about each other.
And for what it's worth, yes, you absolutely are a woman, and would be even if you didn't "pass." I am glad however that it helped boost your self confidence.
Finally... If you're entirely straight and on Taimi what the fuck are you even doin (not you-you, but the guy who had the audacity to say something as stupid as "you're not a woman")? I'm only "straight" in the sense that I am attracted to women and transwomen are women so you get the idea.
If that change is permanent, I'm leaving. Platinum is way too expensive and gold just became completely worthless.
They're going to lose a lot of customers on this.
Do you have any suggestions for a Taimi replacement? I tried Hinge but nobody is on it in my area except "non-political" Christians and it makes me want to die. On the plus side unlike Taimi, Hinge actually has a "gynesexual" option for sexual preferences.
I've had more luck on Hinge than on Taimi, but that may be a regional thing. I'm on greed too, but that is about as dead as it gets. I paid for six months right off the bat without even checking the app too closely first. Mistake. Also, greed is such a bad name.
I'm on "Her" too, but I've drifted more towards guys lately so I'm not using it much.
We take the euphoria with the bad 💕
Phobes gonna phone.