As an AMAB them-fatale who found out they had male pattern baldness the day they came out, I, uh, I needed to hear this. 😭
EDIT: I really do appreciate the ideas and help, everyone, but I think we all misunderstood the assignment given the quote: "...femininity doesn't have to come from hair or any of those traditional female archetypes of appearance..."
😂 Thank you all though, I have happy tears reading your replies.
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blackstampede @sh.itjust.works - 5mon
Copy black women's homework and start buying wigs.
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Aviandelight - 5mon
If it helps if your lucky enough to rock the bald look go for it. Bald is dead sexy regardless of gender.
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Cethin - 5mon
Yeah, as a straight man who is generally attracted to more feminine features, there's a number of bald women I've find who rock the look and look amazing. Pretending like you're not balding is also one of the ugliest looks you can have. You know you are, and so does everyone else. You just have to accept it and make the best out of it, not fight it. This may mean wigs, or going bald, or both. The "comb my hair to try to hide it" look has tricked literally nobody and generally just looks like you haven't come to terms with it yet (which is fair, just not a good look).
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psycotica0 @lemmy.ca - 5mon
I don't know what your plans are, and I don't want to give you false hope, but if you're otherwise planning on taking hormones as part of your journey, you may find as others have that blocking testosterone, especially early into thinning, can reverse thinning. Because it's actually a testosterone problem.
But! There are lots of other side effects of this, so if it wasn't part of your plan, then nevermind!
And importantly, I'm sure you're lovely just the way you are, but I figured I'd mention it in case it's relevant.
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SippyCup @feddit.nl - 5mon
My pal, that sucks!
As it happens male pattern baldness is not exclusive to men. Female pattern hair loss is also a thing, AND they make all kinds of very neat wigs for women. There's all kinds of options out there.
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drolex @sopuli.xyz - 5mon
That's a good story! But you know who's got a better story? Bran the legless.
Too soon?
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RaivoKulli - 5mon
Bran the "oh right this guy"
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merc @sh.itjust.works - 5mon
I also love that they didn't give her "boob armour". She was one of the most interesting characters on the show, and her own views of femininity probably fed into her character's struggles with it.
I also think Tormund being obsessed with her was great. Her whole life she'd been mocked for being too tall and not feminine enough, then along comes this wild man who is completely obsessed with her just the way she is. But, I'm glad they didn't do the easy thing and just make her fall for him, and then the two live happily ever after.
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Pieisawesome @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 5mon
Probably one of the few “realistic” (or somewhat realistic) feminine sets of armor in modern TV/movies
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ChickenLadyLovesLife @lemmy.world - 5mon
Her whole life she’d been mocked for being too tall and not feminine enough, then along comes this wild man who is completely obsessed with her just the way she is.
It's Brigitte Nielsen vs. Flava Flav.
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Björn - 5mon
And then she got cast as genderless Lucifer.
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cyan_mess - 5mon
She did an amazing Lucifer too!
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ThePyroPython @lemmy.world - 5mon
We stan a tall queen!
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Uriel238 [all pronouns] - 5mon
I've become bitter, but...
... given our current examples of IRL men being masculine (Donald Trump, Matt Walsh, Ben Shapiro and Joe Rogan...
...and, in SoIaF, masculinity as Joffrey Baratheon perceives masculinity, and Gregor Clegane is seen as a paragon of masculinity...
Having human decency, or character integrity are feminine, or at least the opposite of masculine.
There are plenty of guys that have these features (though considering the gender breakdown of the 2024 general election, many that do not), but I wouldn't attribute them to what makes these guys men, rather what makes them mature or adults.
Just as truth and facts are left-leaning, maturity and character are feminine-leaning. It is why I am no longer a man (though I don't take offense at he, him pronouns).
StarvingMartist in 196
Rule of Tarth
As an AMAB them-fatale who found out they had male pattern baldness the day they came out, I, uh, I needed to hear this. 😭 EDIT: I really do appreciate the ideas and help, everyone, but I think we all misunderstood the assignment given the quote: "...femininity doesn't have to come from hair or any of those traditional female archetypes of appearance..." 😂 Thank you all though, I have happy tears reading your replies.
Copy black women's homework and start buying wigs.
If it helps if your lucky enough to rock the bald look go for it. Bald is dead sexy regardless of gender.
Yeah, as a straight man who is generally attracted to more feminine features, there's a number of bald women I've find who rock the look and look amazing. Pretending like you're not balding is also one of the ugliest looks you can have. You know you are, and so does everyone else. You just have to accept it and make the best out of it, not fight it. This may mean wigs, or going bald, or both. The "comb my hair to try to hide it" look has tricked literally nobody and generally just looks like you haven't come to terms with it yet (which is fair, just not a good look).
I don't know what your plans are, and I don't want to give you false hope, but if you're otherwise planning on taking hormones as part of your journey, you may find as others have that blocking testosterone, especially early into thinning, can reverse thinning. Because it's actually a testosterone problem.
But! There are lots of other side effects of this, so if it wasn't part of your plan, then nevermind!
And importantly, I'm sure you're lovely just the way you are, but I figured I'd mention it in case it's relevant.
My pal, that sucks!
As it happens male pattern baldness is not exclusive to men. Female pattern hair loss is also a thing, AND they make all kinds of very neat wigs for women. There's all kinds of options out there.
That's a good story! But you know who's got a better story? Bran the legless.
Too soon?
Bran the "oh right this guy"
I also love that they didn't give her "boob armour". She was one of the most interesting characters on the show, and her own views of femininity probably fed into her character's struggles with it.
I also think Tormund being obsessed with her was great. Her whole life she'd been mocked for being too tall and not feminine enough, then along comes this wild man who is completely obsessed with her just the way she is. But, I'm glad they didn't do the easy thing and just make her fall for him, and then the two live happily ever after.
Probably one of the few “realistic” (or somewhat realistic) feminine sets of armor in modern TV/movies
It's Brigitte Nielsen vs. Flava Flav.
And then she got cast as genderless Lucifer.
She did an amazing Lucifer too!
We stan a tall queen!
I've become bitter, but...
... given our current examples of IRL men being masculine (Donald Trump, Matt Walsh, Ben Shapiro and Joe Rogan...
...and, in SoIaF, masculinity as Joffrey Baratheon perceives masculinity, and Gregor Clegane is seen as a paragon of masculinity...
Having human decency, or character integrity are feminine, or at least the opposite of masculine.
There are plenty of guys that have these features (though considering the gender breakdown of the 2024 general election, many that do not), but I wouldn't attribute them to what makes these guys men, rather what makes them mature or adults.
Just as truth and facts are left-leaning, maturity and character are feminine-leaning. It is why I am no longer a man (though I don't take offense at he, him pronouns).