Transfem-friendly Kink/ENM-focused dating apps for London/UK
I've found dating apps to be an absolute minefield, regularly getting my profile pictures (very tame and appropriate pictures) reported on HER for example, presumably by transphobes, before I left it.
Beyond that, I feel invisible on the more mainstream apps because I'm ethically nonmonogamous and I suppose that understandably shrinks my dating pool even further.
Does anyone have any app/site suggestions for an ENM lady who is tired of having to fight for my right to exist as a gay woman on a dating app?
lazyneet @programming.dev - 6mon
Grindr is full of kinky people. It's also full of ad spam and bots. Scruff is a little more dignified but it's mainly for bears, and the more attractive of them sometimes put things like "no fem" on their profiles. The only one I wouldn't recommend is Recon, which is kink-focused, and only because I've never even come close to getting a date through that, though I am in the US.
Apps I haven't tried: I hear Barq is good for furries. Feeld is a kink-focused app but I think it's mostly straight people.
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apotheotic (she/her) - 6mon
Thank you! I have tried grindr and I was not enjoying the vibes at all. I'm only really into fems which I should have put in the OP so I think scruff may be a bad fit too. I'll give recon a look, just for curiosity's sake. Feeld, too!
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RavindraNemandi @ttrpg.network - 6mon
You could try Fetlife! Its not a dating app specifically, but rather a kink focused social network/forum. You can find communities for your area and interests, and a lot of people on there are poly.
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ianhclark510 - 6mon
has Fetlife cleaned up thir act? it was a data scraper cesspit last lime I logged in
apotheotic in mtf
Transfem-friendly Kink/ENM-focused dating apps for London/UK
I've found dating apps to be an absolute minefield, regularly getting my profile pictures (very tame and appropriate pictures) reported on HER for example, presumably by transphobes, before I left it.
Beyond that, I feel invisible on the more mainstream apps because I'm ethically nonmonogamous and I suppose that understandably shrinks my dating pool even further.
Does anyone have any app/site suggestions for an ENM lady who is tired of having to fight for my right to exist as a gay woman on a dating app?
Grindr is full of kinky people. It's also full of ad spam and bots. Scruff is a little more dignified but it's mainly for bears, and the more attractive of them sometimes put things like "no fem" on their profiles. The only one I wouldn't recommend is Recon, which is kink-focused, and only because I've never even come close to getting a date through that, though I am in the US.
Apps I haven't tried: I hear Barq is good for furries. Feeld is a kink-focused app but I think it's mostly straight people.
Thank you! I have tried grindr and I was not enjoying the vibes at all. I'm only really into fems which I should have put in the OP so I think scruff may be a bad fit too. I'll give recon a look, just for curiosity's sake. Feeld, too!
You could try Fetlife! Its not a dating app specifically, but rather a kink focused social network/forum. You can find communities for your area and interests, and a lot of people on there are poly.
has Fetlife cleaned up thir act? it was a data scraper cesspit last lime I logged in
Oh good idea, thank you!