For real, if you have a chance of picking your own name, workshop it.
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DimlyLitFlutteringMoth - 8mon
Mildred is a fucking great name. Airyn is a bit rougher, but in general I feel that us trans femmes have absolutely nothing on trans mascs who really do go wild with their names or end up as one of the 75% of trans guys called Ryland, or a variation thereof.
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PM_Your_Nudes_Please @lemmy.world - 8mon
It’s funny because I’ve seen almost the exact opposite; Trans femmes are choosing beautiful gorgeous names that fit them perfectly. Then trans mascs are just like “oh hey, I’m Steve.”
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Whats_your_reasoning @lemmy.world - 8mon
To be fair, when someone's a Steve, they're a Steve. There's just no faking it. Good on those trans-men for recognizing it.
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Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In @lemmy.world - 8mon
I know several females who should definitely be called Dave
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DimlyLitFlutteringMoth - 8mon
I would love to know a trans masc called Steve. I do know multiple Haydn and Rylan though! Most of the trans femmes I know either pick a perfectly fine normal name or they are a flower. So many Rose.
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zippo @lemm.ee - 8mon
"I... Am Steve."
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tigeruppercut @lemmy.zip - 8mon
Is Mildred old enough to make a come back yet? In my mind it's lumped in with names from about 70-100 years ago, along with Gladys, Ethel, and Phyllis. I guess Millie sounds ok, but Airyn sounds way better to me
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aeshna_cyanea @lemm.ee - 8mon
There's a very famous (in certain circles) trans singer named ethel
(I personally chose a name that I thought of as a bit old-timey, but it turned out that it's been a fairly popular baby name the last few years.)
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MBM @lemmings.world - 8mon
75% of trans guys called Ryland, or a variation thereof.
Not Kai?
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DimlyLitFlutteringMoth - 8mon
Ahhh, I knew I was forgetting the third in the trinity of trans guy names
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Walk_blesseD - 8mon
This is *ayden erasure
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DimlyLitFlutteringMoth - 8mon
Trans guys please stop bullying me because of your taste in names 😭
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snugglesthefalse @sh.itjust.works - 8mon
I think Mildred is too much like mildew to be a great idea buuut that's my opinion so do what you want with it
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DimlyLitFlutteringMoth - 8mon
Mildew is clearly a trans femme non-binary name though
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DimlyLitFlutteringMoth - 8mon
(I know this because it strikes me as neat - swamp witch vibes)
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rooster_butt @lemm.ee - 8mon
Their birth name is Aaron. She clearly wanted to keep it similar.
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TheDoozer @lemmy.world - 8mon
Like... Erin?
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StarlightDust - 8mon
I think its actually quite cute but I do suspect its going to get annoying when she is trying to tell a cashier her email.
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Zorsith - 8mon
You use your name in your email address???
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Of the Air (cele/celes) - 8mon
WTF?! Why get judgy over other's names? Also Mildred is a great name.
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Chip_Rat @lemmy.world - 8mon
I took that as tongue and cheek supportive. As in, the friend is totally cool with their friend coming out as trans, but cants get over the choice of name.
Is there a name for that type of swap humour? Where you set up a joke and the punchline plays off the less obvious point in the lead up?
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RedAggroBest @lemmy.world - 8mon
Bait n switch
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Chip_Rat @lemmy.world - 8mon
Yeah. I guess that probably covers it. Seems almost mundane now....
Thanks.
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EmptySlime - 8mon
The actual type of play on words is called paraprosdokian. Where the in this case punchline is surprising in a way that makes you reinterpret the setup.
In this case "I wanna be supportive but," is kind of priming the reader to expect they're gonna say some transphobic shit then you read "fucking Mildred?" and those expectations are subverted by the actual point being essentially "Why you taking names from 2000's obituaries?"
To my knowledge there's not like a widespread name for this as like a comedic genre because it's just one of the basic ways you can structure a joke. I've seen some comics call it a swerve or an anti-climax but nothing widespread.
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Chip_Rat @lemmy.world - 8mon
Thank you. That is so much more accurate than "bait and switch", which another user helpfully provided, but they didn't realize how unsatisfying that would be for me.
I use this form of humour alot so now I have words for it!
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pyre @lemmy.world - 8mon
it's a bit of a meme that trans people pick weird ass names. this one falls on the better side imo; usually it's a name you'd only hear in a bingo game
I think it's cute. I'm cishet so don't have authority here but I do think the joking about it is fine because this particular joke usually comes from a place of understanding, as opposed to the attack helicopter joke that's clearly made from a place of ignorance and othering.
It's like Jewish comedians making fun of themselves vs what nazis think a "joke" about Jewish people is.
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TriflingToad @sh.itjust.works - 8mon
LMAO I'm sending that to my fellow trans friends
Atleast when you let people pick their own names it's actually interesting and isn't just "Jeff" or something (no hate to Jeff tho <3)
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red_bull_of_juarez @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 8mon
So sad when just common decency counts as good news.
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Chip_Rat @lemmy.world - 8mon
Right
"Supportive father continues to be supportive."
Riviting stuff....
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Yerbouti - 8mon
My respect for the guy took a huge bump in 2016, when he vocaly stated that trump was racist bully and a huge piece of shit. Great guy.
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Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In @lemmy.world - 8mon
My respect for the guy took a huge bump
Uh oh. This could go either way.
Great guy.
Phew
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Leaf (she/her) - 8mon
Every parent needs to be like this!
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ploot - 8mon
Many of us are, but we don't make the news because it's just ordinary parental love. It's good to have high-profile examples for the media to report on, or people may only hear about the bigotry of terrible parents like Elon Musk.
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elucubra @sopuli.xyz - 8mon
Antivaxer DeNiro, sometimes enabler of Robert Fucked-up Kennedy, complicit in putting I don't know how many thousands of children in peril, lauded for supporting one...
Five in trans
Robert De Niro Shows “Love & Support” For Daughter Airyn After She Came Out As Trans: “I Love All My Children”
https://deadline.com/2025/04/robert-de-niro-love-support-daughter-airyn-trans-1236381859/https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/df4d8eb8-26ea-4ac4-bd83-4aa57664df0d.png
For real, if you have a chance of picking your own name, workshop it.
Mildred is a fucking great name. Airyn is a bit rougher, but in general I feel that us trans femmes have absolutely nothing on trans mascs who really do go wild with their names or end up as one of the 75% of trans guys called Ryland, or a variation thereof.
It’s funny because I’ve seen almost the exact opposite; Trans femmes are choosing beautiful gorgeous names that fit them perfectly. Then trans mascs are just like “oh hey, I’m Steve.”
To be fair, when someone's a Steve, they're a Steve. There's just no faking it. Good on those trans-men for recognizing it.
I know several females who should definitely be called Dave
I would love to know a trans masc called Steve. I do know multiple Haydn and Rylan though! Most of the trans femmes I know either pick a perfectly fine normal name or they are a flower. So many Rose.
"I... Am Steve."
Is Mildred old enough to make a come back yet? In my mind it's lumped in with names from about 70-100 years ago, along with Gladys, Ethel, and Phyllis. I guess Millie sounds ok, but Airyn sounds way better to me
There's a very famous (in certain circles) trans singer named ethel
Airyn sounds like Aaron though.
Or Erin
Looks like not yet.
(I personally chose a name that I thought of as a bit old-timey, but it turned out that it's been a fairly popular baby name the last few years.)
Not Kai?
Ahhh, I knew I was forgetting the third in the trinity of trans guy names
This is *ayden erasure
Trans guys please stop bullying me because of your taste in names 😭
I think Mildred is too much like mildew to be a great idea buuut that's my opinion so do what you want with it
Mildew is clearly a trans femme non-binary name though
(I know this because it strikes me as neat - swamp witch vibes)
Their birth name is Aaron. She clearly wanted to keep it similar.
Like... Erin?
I think its actually quite cute but I do suspect its going to get annoying when she is trying to tell a cashier her email.
You use your name in your email address???
WTF?! Why get judgy over other's names? Also Mildred is a great name.
I took that as tongue and cheek supportive. As in, the friend is totally cool with their friend coming out as trans, but cants get over the choice of name.
Is there a name for that type of swap humour? Where you set up a joke and the punchline plays off the less obvious point in the lead up?
Bait n switch
Yeah. I guess that probably covers it. Seems almost mundane now....
Thanks.
The actual type of play on words is called paraprosdokian. Where the in this case punchline is surprising in a way that makes you reinterpret the setup.
In this case "I wanna be supportive but," is kind of priming the reader to expect they're gonna say some transphobic shit then you read "fucking Mildred?" and those expectations are subverted by the actual point being essentially "Why you taking names from 2000's obituaries?"
To my knowledge there's not like a widespread name for this as like a comedic genre because it's just one of the basic ways you can structure a joke. I've seen some comics call it a swerve or an anti-climax but nothing widespread.
Thank you. That is so much more accurate than "bait and switch", which another user helpfully provided, but they didn't realize how unsatisfying that would be for me.
I use this form of humour alot so now I have words for it!
it's a bit of a meme that trans people pick weird ass names. this one falls on the better side imo; usually it's a name you'd only hear in a bingo game
"Oh yes?" hides our names behind our back "you don't say." "Interesting..."
I think it's cute. I'm cishet so don't have authority here but I do think the joking about it is fine because this particular joke usually comes from a place of understanding, as opposed to the attack helicopter joke that's clearly made from a place of ignorance and othering.
It's like Jewish comedians making fun of themselves vs what nazis think a "joke" about Jewish people is.
LMAO I'm sending that to my fellow trans friends
Atleast when you let people pick their own names it's actually interesting and isn't just "Jeff" or something (no hate to Jeff tho <3)
So sad when just common decency counts as good news.
Right
"Supportive father continues to be supportive."
Riviting stuff....
My respect for the guy took a huge bump in 2016, when he vocaly stated that trump was racist bully and a huge piece of shit. Great guy.
Uh oh. This could go either way.
Phew
Every parent needs to be like this!
Many of us are, but we don't make the news because it's just ordinary parental love. It's good to have high-profile examples for the media to report on, or people may only hear about the bigotry of terrible parents like Elon Musk.
Antivaxer DeNiro, sometimes enabler of Robert Fucked-up Kennedy, complicit in putting I don't know how many thousands of children in peril, lauded for supporting one...
Robert the Hero.