Corvids! - Trans Megathread for June 29th through July 5th, 2026
Corvids refers to birds belonging to the family Corvidae. Typically associated with birds in the genus Corvus, which includes crows, ravens, and loyalist primarchs, these "true crows" only make up 47 of the 135 current species. Corvids have native habitats in almost every place on Earth, and cover a wide variety of birds from the aforementioned crows and ravens to magpies, jays, and nutcrackers.
I'm gonna try and update the thread with a new corvid each day of the week, there's a lot of beautiful plummage on some corvids and also a lot of just like little gremlins, so hopefully that'll be kinda fun.
I hope everybody has a lovely week!
::: spoiler Monday: Little Crow (Corvus Bennetti) - Western and Central Australia
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::: spoiler Tuesday: Hooded Crow (Corvus Corone Cornix) - Western Asia and Northern, Eastern, and Southern Europe
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::: spoiler Wednesday: Azure-Winged Magpie (Cyanopica Cyanus) - Central and Northern China, Northern Japan and Mongolia, Southern Siberia, and Korea
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peanutbuttercupola [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler bad news
The supreme court has ruled that the constitution does not protect trans women's civil rights, thereby proving that we are in fact women.
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
Hello everyone! Been a while, but I finally finished my second thesis, and now I graduate this week. So I'm back to posting as before.
General updates:
Being gay with my partner is still very nice.
Holy shit when the fuck did I turn into a girl I bought a swimsuit the other day and it looked perfect on me???? I never imagined it would happen.
I got addicted to fountain pens and started another warhammer army. Help.
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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2w
Congratulations! Great to hear from you again.
Holy shit when the fuck did I turn into a girl I bought a swimsuit the other day and it looked perfect on me??? I never imagined it would happen.
Pretty sure you always as long as I've seen you on here. At least that's the vibe I got.
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
It's mostly just like, swimsuits were a huge source of dysphoria for me early transition. Wearing one now and straight up just looking like a cis woman in it feels just, incredible. Like the last bit of dysphoria I have around my body shape is pretty much gone now. Even my tuck was flawless.
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
Yayy congrats! We gotta get a cute swimsuit some time too, thinking something w a cute skirt piece so we hopefully dont have to tuck
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
Oooh swim skirts are so cute! Originally I was thinking if I'd ever get a swimsuit it would be one, but all the ones I can find irl go more for "sexy" than "cute" and that's not my thing. The swimsuit I ended out getting is a competitive one-piece swimsuit, so no skirt to hide, but I find tucks comfortable enough that I don't mind.
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
Yess, hopefully we'll find a more cute one, "sexy" isnt what were looking for either^^
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
From what I've seen online a lot of the cuter designs are swim dresses, so that might be worth looking at too. There's even one lolita swim dress that is very, very tempting for me to buy
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
Ooh, well totally look into that too
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Been a while, but I finally finished my second thesis
o(^o^)o🍾
Edit: fixed the emoji
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
I'm seeing a girl, T4T, it's early but it's so nice.
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
I can't see her again until tomorrow. She's so cute.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 3w
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Alisu [she/her, they/them] - 3w
Con a rich man out of his fortune and fund the revolution
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WellTheresYourCobbler [ey/em, they/them] - 2w
Just scheduled my first appointment for starting HRT!! It’s a couple months out but I’m so excited to finally be brave enough to commit :))
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Soft tender breasts with no one to hold them
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lilypad [she/her, it/its] - 2w
::: spoiler transfemme specific advice
My ex showed me a wonderful thing: when youre anxious or down or just need some emotional support, hold ur titties. Its reassuring and they're lovely little stressballs.
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MusicOwl [comrade/them, sie/hir] - 2w
jesus christ hexbear has been really showing its ass with misogyny of late. literally the only worthwhile things i am finding on this damn site are the trans mega and the news mega.
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shallot [she/her] - 2w
Sometimes I wish we had our own private instance that was just for trans folks, but then I remember that admin stuff exists and mostly just feel tired.
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shallot [she/her] - 2w
Hm, trans bear dot net appears to be available
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
Always has tbh, it's why I only interact with the trans mega
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Busgirl [she/her] - 2w
What happened
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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 2w
if it's about something specific i assume it's this thread
Oh shit, new one for me. I saw some pretty blatant transmisogony erasure the other day. And two weeks before that...
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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 2w
i keep regretting straying beyond the trans mega and a quick check of the news mega but i have been in a major depression scrolling pattern and can't really help myself often
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shallot [she/her] - 2w
Wow this
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tactical_trans_karen [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
Jeeeezuuuuus! Some sick shit in there.
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kristina [she/her] - 2w
What happened
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
Going to see and kiss the cutest girl very soon.
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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 2w
Oh? Well, I'll be expecting you
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
Technically every trans person is tied for cutest in the world, but I like this particular one's cuteness.
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
wore a dress to dinner tonight, first time in public. felt very cute 🥰 highly recommend
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RION [she/her] - 2w
kind of weird to think that in about a week and a half I won't have to boymode anymore. and then in a week and a half after that I'll be actively girlmoding at a job where no one will know me as having been anything other than a girl.
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
It's so nice just being a girl publicly. Even you know with all the awful stuff. I could never go back.
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RION [she/her] - 2w
Yeah I don't think I'll be able to either. I know I'll be pretty clocky initially but it can only really get better right?
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
I found it got so much better, I would watch cis women realise literally in front of me that I was a trans woman and not a man, and become so much more friendly and welcoming.
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Dispossessed [none/use name] - 2w
Omg it's the best feeling ever right?
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
An incredibly healing experience.
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2w
realizing you are poly like 9 years deep into a relationship with someone who is 100% monogamous
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 2w
elon's daughter is like the funny shitposter he wishes he could be. she's an endearing nerd instead of a gross one. her politics are cool and good for someone that young
somebody tell me what this means
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GenderIsOpSec [she/her, kit/kit's] - 2w
being trans makes you cool?
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 2w
maybe (yes)
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Women are better then men?
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 2w
i want to agree with this but don't want to get myself in trouble
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I've hated a lot more people without getting in trouble
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 2w
i sometimes think im just legit guyaphobic (from some trauma) but i like feminine men even if i had to navigate a lot of crushes that i could never reciprocate
i resist the urge to want to build some femme supremacy sapphic cult because that would be bad right
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
If a bit of misandry gets u in trouble ur not in the right crowds
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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 3w
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SerialExperimentsGay [she/her, she/her] - 2w
somehow reminds me of when i read the Dungeon Meshi world guide and at some point in the elf chapter it just says out of nowhere "some of the more remote communities still practice cannibalism"
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RION [she/her] - 2w
have friend over
Have a good time
They leave
I immediately burst into tears
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Look. Playing with my boobs is fun but I want someone else to play with em
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Me too, me too.
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Bolshechick [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I wish I could post my cool makeup looks and fits on here. I've been having a ton of fun with bold and unorthodox makeup.
I love being trans and non binary and just looking however I want.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
The things I would do to look however I want
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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 2w
You could post a drawing of your makeup and fits
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Bolshechick [it/its, she/her] - 2w
That's not a bad idea, I'll see if I get around to it
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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 2w
Hell yeah. I wanna see what my fellow hexbear transfems are doing with their looks.
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tactical_trans_karen [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
Gay wrath month begins today!! Don't forget to take it out on as many cishets as you can to keep them in line! Here's a list of ideas:
Kick them in the shin
Throw rotten food at them
Hiss every time they try to speak
Cut in line in front of them
Jug of piss (use your imagination)
Throw their phone in a microwave when they're not looking
Lure them to the park where the most aggressive geese are
Pepper spray
Get them a wrapped present, but leave the box empty
Spring snake in a can prank
Slash their tires
Have fun unleashing your wrath this month folks!
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
On a more serious note, july is disability pride month!
was outside tonight doing some clandestine water canning of my potted plants and prepping for the heat. plenty of bugs about. little jumping spider by the hose nozzle and a big grass spider by my feet.
i gave them both a little spritz of mist. the jumper was too small to track but that grass spider ran around for a second before stopping to slurp slurp slurp.
just make sure you don't hit them with too cold water, preferably filtered if possible, and spray far away as possible but close enough they can feel the drops. some spiders will "lick" the water off their own bodies if they are thirsty. you can tell if their abdomens look a little like a deflated balloon. so yeah don't forget about the littlest things in this heat
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
crow i saw today
also proof i’ve touched grass
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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 2w
post feet (on grass) or i don't believe you
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
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Disaster_of_Passion [kit/kit's, she/her] - 2w
a fantastic corvid, thank you for your contribution
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
thank you, the timing was perfect!
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insurgentrat [she/her, it/its] - 2w
I watched 'I saw the TV Glow' finally. Honestly devo that's gonna leave a mark. I think it's the first time I've felt like a character's life is relatable in a film. Not everything, but the like lying to parents to sneek time with friends where things make sense, the exploration and shying back, alienation from your own life.
It was good, I had a really solid cry after, for what might have happened if I didn't meet my wife, what happens to so many people, and I guess the confused grief of child me that I don't ever really take out of the "don't open" box in my head.
Solid film, I really recommend it.
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
It's the 4th of July in Australia. I've got 10 transfemmes in my lounge. We ate vegan hot dogs. We're drinking tstingtao and soju. We're watching battle ship Potemkin and listening to RATM.
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PraiseCorn [they/them, comrade/them] - 2w
Just got a hrt prescription in 95 degree weather on 4g connection, my np probably hates me now for being a nervous overly apologetic glitchy ass .5g connection ass patient but I finally got drugs now. Now I just need to order my prescription and hope I feel better.
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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 2w
i did my first shot! (been on gel for a few years). I've had the vial sitting around for a bit but inertia/being scared of needles the normal amount made me delay. it wasn't so bad at all! really pleased with myself and i think it'll be a lot easier next week
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Huh.
I got a decent grade.
Wow. I'm free now ...
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Dad misgenders me on the phone as I inform him of my good result.
I almost start crying in the middle of the street. Sigh.
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
Ugh, bullshit, parents that refuse to gender you are fucking awful, you deserve better 🫂
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I'm sorry Sodium :meow-hug:
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Do be. This is your fault. /jk
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
Congrats!!
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ShimmeringKoi [comrade/them] - 2w
Behold my second favorite corvid, the scrub jay:
Despite the name they're actually quite proficient
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soyaEnjoyer [they/them, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler dysphoria, terf island
A "fun" effect of getting more laser is that I can't use tweezers or a facial epilator for the next year so I have bits of beard shadow again. I'm already visibly trans the timing (which I chose tbf) is extremelynotgood.
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
i hate this shit so much i want to tweeze so bad
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soyaEnjoyer [they/them, she/her] - 2w
solidarity. we will get through this.
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
it’ll all be worth it in the end, we got this
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SwitchyandWitchy [she/her] - 2w
I'm becoming so much more secure in my transition as my body keeps changing and I lean how to present the way I feel on the inside. This won't be even slightly surprising to younger me, but I'm a tomboy. I'm so much happier and hopeful for the rest of this process as I've learned to accept that and the fact that I'm still a beautiful woman even if I do prefer minimal makeup, frequently wear band t-shirts and pants, and love getting dirty outside or by wrenching on something.
Now I just have to start voice training >.<
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MusicOwl [comrade/them, sie/hir] - 3w
down with cis
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Alisu [she/her, they/them] - 3w
DOWN WITH CIS
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SerialExperimentsGay [she/her, she/her] - 3w
DOWN WITH CIS
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GenderIsOpSec [she/her, kit/kit's] - 3w
DOWN WITH CIS
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SwitchyandWitchy [she/her] - 2w
DOWN WITH CIS
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SwitchyandWitchy [she/her] - 2w
So my cousin is transphobic I'm like 99% sure, and I think she knows the way she dances around the questions she's trying to ask me. Pretends to be positive and an ally but is secretly concerned about how many trans people there are nowadays.
Kinda wanna force femme/masc/andro the entire population into being trans now /s
It's not surprising tho, she's said eco-fascist shit too in the past but again, knows it's bad I think and keeps it subtle.
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LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves] - 2w
I shaved my face with a brand new razor and it left me with such bad razor burn, my skin hasn't burnt this bad from shaving in a long time. And this is a brand of razor I've used for a while, I've never had this issue, but this brand usually gets the closest shave I can find for the price. It was an okay shave today, but damn if it doesn't hurt
Curse the sober living for stealing all my shaving foam 😭
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2w
o u c h
(conditioner works in a pinch)
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
i can’t justify using shaving cream on my whole body so i’ve been using conditioner
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2w
saaame i've been doing it for years
it's also nice to have a wider variety of scents available since a lot of shaving stuff is kinda migraine-inducing for me
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LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves] - 2w
I should use some of the cheap conditioner I get from my case manager for that. I'm not in sober living so I can't just add it to the donation pile, I have to find a use for the cheap cleaning products they bring me
Idk, I buy nice conditioner, it lasts for months and makes me smell nice so I always go for it. I want to be a pretty girl as cheap as I can be.
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2w
oh definitely use the cheap shit, i actually have some i keep on hand just for that (though I usually just use water anymore post-laser)
just make sure you moisturize after bc it can be fairly drying
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peanutbuttercupola [she/her] - 2w
Oof I haven't had to dry shave in a while but I remember it being rough.
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RION [she/her] - 2w
Listened to my cis coworker jawing about her mental health and how it's hard to know if it's just a normal reaction to a sucky society then she makes the aside that "dysphoria wouldn't exist if we didn't have gender societally" and it just made me mad... Is that bad
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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 2w
My new friend called me "love", which is not the same thing as saying, "I love you" but still feels significant
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Alisu [she/her, they/them] - 2w
Fucking uni isn't using my social name and there is no place on the forms for me to put it god dammit, I'll need to email them
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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 2w
I think I got a job where I'm gonna work on hvac systems provided the other candidates aren't more desperate than me, I'll know by next week. They got walk in freezers, a huge ac unit, and a lot of PTACs and I'll have to do a lot of other things too unrelated to hvac that I at least studied like some plumbing and maybe some boiler stuff. I still wanna try union stuff in october but even if I get in this time I might be on a waiting list for work anyway so this can be a good chance to put all my theory to the test.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler Pronouns people used on me in support group:
They 2x
He 1x
anyway fuck my life. No one struggled with the trans guy's pronouns if you were curious (who doesn't pass any better then I do, also if you're curious [also also, who doesn't pronouns in his name but I do]).
They did suggest he take prog though so
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peanutbuttercupola [she/her] - 2w
Bit idea: recommend prog to cis men.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
See but cis men should be feminized
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peanutbuttercupola [she/her] - 2w
You're hearing this more and more, especially in the vicinity of St. Almsworth.
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
Especially at that hall with all those talk gorgeous women coming and going from it
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queermunist she/her - 2w
Progesterone helps with muscle recovery!
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shallot [she/her] - 2w
They’re loving the rainbow dome musick what now
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Jizosoxu [they/them] - 2w
I can't believe that goofy aah rabbit from TADC has been the thing leading to so many people coming out as trans. That episode was like repper 9/11.
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30_to_50_Feral_PAWGs [she/her] - 2w
I have come here to eat pickles and attack and dethrone god, and I'm all out of pickles.
Edit: Wait, found some more pickles. Carry on.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Have to go help my stupid dad with something later because I'm his stupid son so I have to put on my stupid mask that I'm doing okay. God I hate him and I hate pretending and I hate feeling dysphoric.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Okay update, he doesn't need me to go with him, but I am still miserably dysphoric. I guess that's as good of a win as I can hope for.
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NPa [he/him] - 2w
I've been feeding a pair of jackdaws for two years now, they come to my balcony to hang out when I'm out there for a smoke.
Yesterday, they brought their chick along and taught it how to scam humans out of food by being cute
my monkey ass handing over literal kilos of peanuts and oats to a birb because it looks cool
::: spoiler spoiler
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
TERFs can't transphobicly call me a "man in a dress" because I'm neither a man nor wear dresses
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segfault11 [she/her, any] - 2w
chat, are these egg thoughts
I find it disrespectful to develop crushes if you are below a certain threshold of holistic attractiveness as a man, but it's also pretty hard to shake off 250,000 years of evolution as a cis male and even the worst examples of my gender still feel some degree of yearning.
I have kind of a stupid crush on my coworker... I feel bad that I find her attractive. She is very bubbly and so adorable that sometimes when I talk to her I feel like I am talking to a cartoon character. Sonetimes I look at her and think about what a fucking actual bum I am... I don't really even like her that much or anything because we don't have much in common... but IDK, I'm thirty and it keeps dawning on me that I will probably never really have those kinds of interactions again.
I have a non specific, generalized low grade crush on basically all women. That sounds creepy, and I guess it is, but being 30 and never having had a girlfriend you start to come to some really painful realizations, and I just feel like I have to do something to become good enough to be worthy of a partner, but I know in my brain that nothing I could do will ever be good enough.
despite all this, this person also says a lot of sex negative things
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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 2w
tfw you get gendered correctly by the lesbian-looking woman with a cybertruck
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GenderIsOpSec [she/her, kit/kit's] - 2w
i was told that hyperpop is the transgender genre of music and it does speak to my soul ngl
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
love to leave the room and immediately hear my mom misgender and deadname me in the same sentence. definitely doesn’t make me feel like they’re only catching themselves because they don’t want the embarrassment of me correcting them, for sure makes me feel like they take me and my decisions seriously. thank god i don’t live with them anymore, our neuroses don’t mesh well
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
Moths have ruined a bunch of my old woollen boy sweaters that I didn't store properly I guess. I was rolling them out because it's cold and I was cosy-maxxing.
I guess my options are either be annoyed or see this as a sign from the moon goddess I need more feminine sweaters
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
I remember when my dad told me before I left that I should always carefully consider my choices because there are some decisions you can't overturn.
It's obvious that he kinda suspects that I am lying about detransing/not transitioning.
Maybe he isn't even as bigoted about it all as my mother. Wouldn't be too surprised. Someone of his profession should know better. But as long as he doesn't even stand up for his beliefs, what do those beliefs count as? Forget taking a bullet for his beliefs. He won't even accept his daughter.
As for the "advice" itself? It's such a nothing burger platitude that it's insulting. Yeah no shit do you think I don't know about the concept of consequences? Why do you think I haven't thought enough? Have you thought enough? Have you weighed the price of your inaction? Assuming you aren't a bigoted piece of shit (major benefit of the doubt here).
It's funny. He's already paid the price. He just doesn't know it yet. don't want to be his son or daughter or anything.
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RION [she/her] - 2w
Today my close friend has:
Said "[coworker] heard we were leaving our jobs at the same time and thought we were involved" and laughed
Had me poke and feel her bare thighs, like a couple inches from her ass (demonstrating the difference between a hematoma that's stuck around versus normal flesh)
I legitimately think she doesn't know what she's doing to me... Just gals being pals!!!
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RION [she/her] - 2w
Is it cope to think being moderately to heavily overweight during my late teens and early twenties might have helped estrogenize me a bit?
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TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 2w
Where's the cope though?
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RION [she/her] - 2w
Well I just don't know if that would really have much of an effect. Just grasping at straws hoping to find ways that those years weren't a complete waste
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TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 2w
Ooooh, I see. I dont think they're a waste. I get why people do, I've fantasized the same fantasy lol where I transition at 5 or 11 or whatever. There's parts I liked and wouldn't have had otherwise and there's parts where being a trans girl in the 00s could've been quite bad. I've never struggled with reconciling myself living as a boy and man with also being trans woman who's really happy she's both of those.
I do get the lost time feeling, I suppose in the abstract. Even with my ex, I don't consider any of that time lost or not worthwhile even though we were together a very long time.
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RION [she/her] - 2w
I don't mind so much my younger years as a boy, really until high school. Just frustrated at all the changes to me physically that make what I'm trying to do now harder. After 18 or so the anguish of lost time does start to kick in pretty hard tho
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TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 2w
I transitioned at 27! I don't same feel the anguish but I do understand it.
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queermunist she/her - 2w
Same. I kind of feel developmentally stunted? Like, I spent so long not wanting anyone to look at or touch me that I kind of forgot how to be anything different.
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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2w
Same (except I was slightly older). I feel like rather than stunted (which I feels implies it was something I never had), I sorta feel like parts of me have been broken as a way to get by during a time where that was temporarily beneficially? Still working on trying to undo some of those old mental habits.
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
I did it at 35! I've had regrets but therapy helped a lot, (integrated family systems) in particular led me to understand and appreciate myself in those years before as a woman who worked really hard and actually achieved a lot, especially with this enormous unfixed hormonal issue.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Real, for me too.
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moss_icon [any, comrade/them] - 2w
I’m not sure if I want to do a Master’s degree anymore. My BA major was Fine Art and I feel massively underappreciated as an artist in addition to having completely lost motivation to continue.
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
It feels so nice finally just having a day to do nothing again
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Me reading every comment about sex and relationships "damn I hope this finds me one day"
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
How I feel being two and a half years in, on hrt, still never having put on a stitch of women's clothes (not counting bralettes)
Maybe getting some kind of really basic outfit would make me feel better about pictures, because I do want to show people my progress and how I look but wearing my clothes that specifically do not flatter my feminine traits for that sucks.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Was laying in bed admiring my tits (getting ever more noticeable in a shirt) and then
::: spoiler reproductive dysphoria
Started crying thinking about how they'll never actually feed a baby :doggirl-cry: I don't even want kids wtf
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But I am quite happy with how they're coming along, hoping to be a b at one year, kinda stupid to set myself up like that when I have literally no control over it. Pretty sure I'm close right now but I don't have a ton of faith I didn't fuck up measuring.
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler CWsex
There are decades where no transfem sucking and fucking happens, and there's weeks where decades of sucking and fucking happen.
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inTheShadowOf [she/her] - 3w
I love being trans
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MusicOwl [comrade/them, sie/hir] - 3w
me too
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SerialExperimentsGay [she/her, she/her] - 3w
hell yes
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 3w
Samesies
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meler [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2w
Hell yeah me tooo
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SwitchyandWitchy [she/her] - 2w
It's wonderful
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rattlethatlock42 [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
The complete best
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RION [she/her] - 2w
So I know the dating apps are bad
But are any of them less bad, especially for our ilk
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SerialExperimentsGay [she/her, she/her] - 2w
i have no idea, literally every date i had since cracking started over discord
weirdly enough, only one of them was really long distance
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inTheShadowOf [she/her] - 2w
Queer discord servers are kind of peak for meeting trans people to hang out with. Even if it just ends up as friends, you never know who your friends might introduce you to in the future.
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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 2w
it really depends on your location but also they have gotten uniformly much worse in the last decade. i have one big tinder success story but a lot of people on there are looking for very casual stuff. i've had many more cases where people just drift away after a bit.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Starting off the day right with my dad making fun of my hair
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 2w
all the AC discourse on my feed I keep seeing stuff like things like AC systems blowing out fire to the inside and I think heat pump also it being that efficient is awe inspiring, heat pumps have a much lower capacity for heating than cooling
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
I have seen crows before at various points in my life ( ≧∀≦)ノ
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Always a W animal
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lilypad [she/her, it/its] - 2w
My multimeter has a clacky jaw ive never used and never will cause when will I need to measure amps AC? But Its cool and fun to play with and pretend its a clickyclackycreackture eating things.
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Shaleesh [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
I am trying to set up a scanner.
I am running linux mint.
This is a nightmare.
Praying that I can do this from my phone.
Update: Okay that worked, took me 2 hours before I gave up and went with the mobile app route. Why do I even have a printer holy shit.
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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2w
Printers/scanners are a nightmare no matter what you're operating them with.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Don't let the employers see this but I could be paid in hugs and it'd make me work harder than money ever could.
I mean I'd still need food and rent to stay alive but that's all.
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DragonBallZinn [he/him, they/them] - 2w
And we lost the culture war even harder. Great!
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I really just can't wait for a couple more things to fall into place and be living my gay city life in my own place.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler cw drawn cannibalism
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
There ya go.
I'm getting back into my depressive thing again
It's been 4 hours lol
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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 2w
She said I had swag sorry to blow everyone else's post out the water with that
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
::: spoiler suicide
I want to kill myself. Why do I have to feel so awful. To feel this much pain. Fuck me. And fuck (nearly) everyone else too.
I don't know why I'm suddenly so miserable again. Maybe I was wrapped up in fantasy before. Fuck my stupid shitty life. Fucking awful. Whyyyy am I back to this.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
My anxiety is so bad what the hell. Even though my diagnosis has anxiety on it I've always felt more depressed the anxious but it's hitting me bad. I can't sleep.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Ignorance is not bliss. If I was ignorant I would still be stuck in a body I hate.
Only by struggling and understanding could I break out of that wretched condition.
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peanutbuttercupola [she/her] - 2w
Sodium's post about Guinness reminded me that for a while I had been wondering if hrt would change my taste in food (because I feel like estrogen made my senses of smell and taste a bit more sensitive), but I don't think that's really happened - I just appreciate the same foods even more than I used to.
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Better_with_Gender [pup/pup's, she/her] - 2w
I went swimming for the first time in literal ages and also after first transitioning. There's a local trans swim group that I found and the good thing is that it seems to be more or less weekly; I can go as often as I like (Yay).
Being in water is fun apart from my hair getting in my face because i didn't bring a hairband.
::: spoiler Important Discovery
I NEED my boobs to be bigger!
They were hardly noticeable under my swim top, Well, not really. I have some curves but I would like a bigger chest pls.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I have got to start voice training soon
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Holy hell I'm so done. Idk why this specific time I got so ticked off so hard but I just can't let this go.
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Disaster_of_Passion [kit/kit's, she/her] - 2w
death to amerikkka
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
1 fucking phone call and my day ruined. Any possibility of being happy after my exam gone. 1 fucking phone call. I should have never called. I should never call these people ever again. I'm still crying and dissociating. Fuck.
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler SA, trauma
Is it ✨️problematic✨️ to wish wed gottenremovedd or had something similarly obviously rly bad happen to us so we could better justify to ourself why were such a traumatized mess
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
My hot take of the day is that being trans is inherently traumatizing and should be recognized as such
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
Thats only a hot take among cisppl tbh
::: spoiler SA
There was a bit of a discourse a bit ago when a trans girl directly compared testosterone puberty toremoved, and like we get why ppl didnt like that comparison but also tbh we get what she meant
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I feel like some people here probably disagree with me tbh
::: spoiler spoiler
Oh they do that all the time. I've seen a few victims of both say puberty was worse. I low key agree but don't say it because I'm not aremoved victim. Although I have been SAd and harassed and puberty was definitely much worse then that. I get what they mean too.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Puberty lasts for many years and you don't get the luxury of dissociating as easily and it consumes your entire life growing up.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
And consumes your life afterward, every second, every interaction. All the work and money you have to spend fixing it. Dysphoria is hell.
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
Yeah true, it can be a hot take w trans ppl too, tho much less so
And yeah same, weve seen victims of both say that too
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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Pretty much in the same boat. Certainly would take not being forced to go through the wrong puberty even if it meant dealing with more SA/harassment. And even more if it meant not having been born with the genitalia I was.
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inTheShadowOf [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler re:
I don't think trauma is inherent to being trans. There are just many societal and personal reasons why it could be. Personally, I wouldn't say transitioning has been traumatic for me. Society and the healthcare industry have done their worst, but I'm at peace with my transition.
It won't be the same for everyone, of course.
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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
it's not "inherent" as in, if we lived in a just world then they wouldn't go hand in hand. but in this world they do, at least for the vast vast majority of trans folks. im pretty at peace about the physical effects of male puberty etc on me personally, but social aspects of the gendered upbringing have left me damaged. i think this is a very common experience. that's not even getting into the general prevalence of transphobia and how it impacts trans youth especially. social norms often cause trauma. repressing is traumatic. for many the act of transition is where the healing begins so you are kind of missing the forest for the trees a bit. the damage often comes before.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
If we lived in a just world where I got on hrt at 11
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
I wish I could have been on HRT at 11 but honestly even just a world were people were chill about me being trans and told me I'm doing a great job more would be nice.
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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 2w
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
:cuddle:
genuinely the only way to avoid this trauma
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inTheShadowOf [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler re:
I'm not saying it can't traumatic, I'm saying that trauma isn't inherent to every trans person. In the same way that you're speaking from your experience, I'm saying that it wasn't for me and I also recognise that my experience isn't universal.
If someone feels that their experience was traumatic, then of course it should be recognised that way.
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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 2w
i understand. i think i interpreted your comment as speaking more universally than you actually did, that's my bad. i suppose i still struggle to imagine someone with literally zero trauma related to it just given the gestures at everything. just not an experience i can put myself in the mind of at all.
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Alisu [she/her, they/them] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
I agree with you in regard to being trans isn't necessarily traumatic, but being trans in a transphobic society is absolutely traumatic
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler dysphoria
I do not understand how living in the wrong body for years and years isn't traumatic.
Society and healthcare are both excellent examples as well. How is there not trauma from being in a society that hates you. Surrounded by people who think you should suffer. Who deny your suffering. I literally can't imagine how that isn't traumatic.
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inTheShadowOf [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler My own experiences with being trans and growing up
It wasn't traumatic for me, because it was my escape. I grew up in an abusive home and spent most of time hiding away. Conversations with my guardians were always a risk and I kept friendships pretty surface level. Even the things I excelled at were co-opted and distorted by my guardians, who just wanted to live vicariously through me. It was a nightmare.
All of that hopelessness changed when I realised I was trans. I started to understand in fourth grade, noticing that I wanted to wear the girl's uniform instead. Of course, that was something nobody else was talking about, so my hypervigilance paid off and I kept it to myself. It wasn't until middle school that I learned that people actually do transition, finding out from Myspace groups of all places. I was so inspired by everyone's confidence and everyone was so pretty. It felt like I had found purpose in my life for the first time ever. This was something that was mine, something I could always look forward to and no one could distort. I took the steps that I could while going through schooling and went full time just after moving out.
Ironically, part of my transition did get distorted thanks to past trauma, but it always a CTPSD thing for me. I really had a hard time trusting the world for too long.
Sorry to go on for a bit, but this is an honest answer to "how could anyone not find being trans to be traumatic?"
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
I've often also thought that being trans isn't inherently traumatic. But honestly ... going through male puberty probably fucked me up in ways I can still barely understand.
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
I remember reading in high school this piece of writing by an ostensibly cis women about as a teenager wishing she had had a dark trauma in her past to explain neatly why she felt her normal life was so awful.
And I found it so deeply resonating. Because that was me, all the time. And in hindsight it was yeah because I was trans. And neurodivergent. And my dad was abusive.
And then I did get groomed and assaulted and didn't quite even realise because I thought I was a boy and my abuser was a woman. But like I had all those traumatised feeling before that happened.
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
Any chance u remember what the piece was? Feel like we might resonate w it too
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XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2w
Sadly I think the chance of my finding it are slim, my English teacher just gave a photocopied sheet to a dysphoric teenager like 20 years ago. But if I do ever find it I will post it.
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
Thats ok, ty!
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
What is the point of filtering that word, genuinely
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2w
iirc some people have expressed that seeing it can be triggering
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
Discussions of the topic certainly can, but can the word itself be triggering in a way where just substituting another word wont be?
Also, anecdotally we know survivors who find it v upsetting when the language they use to discuss their experience/trauma is censored/policed
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2w
apologies, i don't have an answer for you bc i'm not someone who finds content warnings and the like necessary or useful. i was explaining, not offering a personal opinion.
i understand where you're coming from but i have no dog in this fight. since i'm not sensitive or even really traumatized about my own experiences i have never felt it appropriate to try and influence the standards one way or another, either here or elsewhere
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OffSeasonPrincess [she/her] - 2w
No worries
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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2w
::: spoiler Tap for spoiler
I think the conditions that have traumatized you and have resulted in you wishing for that are far more problematic. I think it's natural people look for excuses to blame their problems on. For some people, for example, it's blaming vaccines.
Granted, I just think such fantasies are hot and have since middle school. I don't actually want to fulfill them, but perhaps they're problematic in a similar way if your thoughts are.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I just really hope life is actually better after the move. I hope I'm actually able to buckle down and get my license and move out and afford to and working full time isn't as ass as I've always feared. That I can actually afford my shit.
I just hope life is actually better. That I can actually lock in and suddenly be a real adult. And that that is better.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
My first vial is getting low, maybe 1/4 left. Thinking I might keep using this stuff??
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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 2w
Take me to your best friends house
I need a girl that is a mouse
to fall in love with her
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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 2w
Extreme lesbian yearning for the girl I met at the rave last week and just spent double pride with (also does anyone have the original comic this emoji is from?)
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Biggest mystery of the novel.
Introduced at the very beginning.
Everything is connected to this one thing kinda
Novel goes on, mystery gets even more mysteries and important
Reach end of novel
"He's only got 2 chapters left how could he make a satisfying reveal?!"
The author doesn't make the reveal
Go to the wiki to see if you missed something
Link leads you to an entirely new series, spoiling that series where the mystery was actually resolved.
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PraiseCorn [they/them, comrade/them] - 2w
::: spoiler dysphoric gay rant
Yall im kinda freaking out. Idrk if im gay or not and its really making me dysphoric. Like the two times ive ever been sorta flirted with kinda were both by other tfems and ngl it was kinda good. But the thing is ive been mostly toric for a while and had a crush on this trans dude in a club im in, so im kinda not sure if im still attracted to what. And ngl as a professional lazy basement dweller with little transition to my name, I get really sensitive and dysphoric around other tfems unlike mascs where they arent a mirror to my failures. I know this is probably internalized transphobia and that kind of dysphoria but I genuinely have no confidence in my identity and with my current home situation, I am pretty depressed because my mom despises the real me and threatened to kick me out if I did anything queer, which includes hrt. So like im basically coping with dysphoria by gaming while questioning and the ambient dread in my house lingers.
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TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Im bi and this just sounds like bi cycle stuff to me, personally. Like I'll go a while liking men way more than girls, and wonder if Im just straight... then see a pretty girl and go "ah yes, now I remember." And visa versa.
The part that sounds like internalized transphobia is being dysphoric when other trans femmes are "passing better" (Im assuming thats the deal), because youre comparing yourself to them and finding you measure yourself short. We are the worst judges on how pretty we are or how femme looking etc.
And also ultimately at the root of it all is, if you dont think you can start transitioning cause of your mom - ideally the best thing you can do is move away from your mom.
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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
So like im basically coping with dysphoria by gaming
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
For what it's worth the feeling of comparison is ridiculously common and you aren't alone in this.
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RandallThymes [undecided, comrade/them] - 2w
Finally cut my hair
Instantly look more feminine
Idgi but it suits me, the top half of my face is now a gender question mark
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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 2w
You have 45 minutes to give me your best fried onion rings recipe
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SickSemper [she/her, comrade/them] - 2w
::: spoiler self pity, addiction, sh
between withdrawal/sobriety, forgetting my meds for a couple days, being misgendered and deadnamed by my (well-meaning) family despite being out for ~ 9 months, and thinking about going back to work next week, i’m really feeling like fucking shit. kinda just want to quit my job and move to my gfs city, if only it weren’t so hard to get a fucking job with few skills and a humanities degree. i should be happy that i have a family that gives enough of a shit to occasionally correct themselves, that i have a job where i could come out, that i didn’t ruin my life, hurt myself badly or kill myself/anyone else while i was drinking but im just an ungrateful shithead with a broken brain i guess. add self pitying to the list too. i know this is the exact sort of spiral that happens when im off my antidepressants, but it feels like the hormones are cranking everything up to 11 and while ive appreciated the emotional depth before, its hurting a lot right now
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
No no sodium. Don't fall asleep in the middle of climbing a ladder. That's dangerous.
(The power of caffeine withdrawals is insane)
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler healthcare woes
Okay, so I'm not going to qualify for medicaid, and it sounds like it's up to my employer if it's covered and how "covered" it actually is. So like what the fuck do I even do if it's not covered or if it's only like half covered or some shit?
Anyway, I fucking hate being trans, I fucking hate dealing with this. I hate needing a whole bunch of surgery to hopefully feel okay and then maybe I can't even get it. I was really hoping it would be better after the move. But no apparently it's still super fucked.
::: spoiler suicide
I literally just want to kill myself this is horrible. All I need are like 4 surgeries, and half a decade of hrt, and voice training. FUCKING KILL ME RIGHT THE FUCK NOW
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If anyone has advice on how the fuck to get healthcare pet me know. Don't qualify for medicaid, state funded plans are expensive as shit and idk what or how much they even cover. And idk how much hope to have in an employer.
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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2w
Assuming things haven't changed, "silver" plans can be quite "affordable" and have "low" deductibles/max year-out-of-pocket if you are in certain income ranges (which depends on your state; some you don't qualify for the savings if you make too little, for example). You can browse plans here: https://www.healthcare.gov/see-plans/#/
But you need to have a qualifying life events to apply out-of-season, but that includes any sort of moving.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I did the calculator for my state and it said 200-300 a month for silver plans. But I don't know if they cover or what the out of pockets were. That's still kinda a lot of fucking money but I really hope they do actually cover it properly.
I won't apply until I get my new job and go from there
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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2w
Happy Cake Day btw.
Each plan should have a summary of benefits pdf that tells you what they cover and a separate list of covered drugs pdf/page. View provider directory tends to be the most variable thing and doesn't seem to always be accurate? If you have a specific doctor you want to be in-network, you can add a filter for that.
But yeah... insurance in the US is crazy expensive. If you are under a certain income threshold, the silver plans have a reduced deductible, so they should be mostly $0-$1000 where if you don't qualify, they tend to be like $7000-$10000. If you know you are gonna use it and can afford it, you can technically can use retirement accounts to get your effective income a little lower to qualify for that and still might come out ahead plus build savings.
Unrelated, but another trick to get somewhat cheaper medical care is taking medicines that insurance doesn't fully cover but copay cards exist to cover your portion. Depending on where you are, that might still count towards your deductible/max year out of pocket. Granted, that may mean avoiding medical care until the copays cover your deductible...
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Thank you. Three years of this site.
Okay, thank you. I will look at those later.
under a thousand please good lord I could actually swing that. 10k... egh not so much. Unless I can pack one year completely full and get all my shit done. I don't really plan on retiring but that is a good tip if I need to lower my income to qualify.
Thank you so much for all the info. Saving this thread. How does a copay card work? I don't really understand your explanation.
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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2w
Some medicines that are ridiculously overpriced even by US standards have programs where the company pays the copay for you after insurance pays their part. Paxlovid, for example, has such a program (paxcess). I think its usually for newer medicines? Anyways, depending on your state and insurance, sometimes these payments still count as if you paid it yourself in terms of reaching your deductible. You just have to find out if a medicine you take or would be interested in taking has such a program and apply through their website.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Oh, I only really care about trans surgery and shit. No other meds. I don't really care about general health and well being, just aliviating dysphoria. I doubt I could get a script for pio so it would just be E and prog.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Fuck this shitty ass rock and (nearly) everyone on it. I FUCKING hate people. Genuinely go to hell. It's their fucking fault. I cannot describe how much I loathe humanity.
Hopefully I live to see the last generation of these shitty ass creatures.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1w
Eco late to the mega
Have multiple good posts on deck 😔
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Started a Terraria skyblock world with some friends last night, god I love Terraria.
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Arahnya [fae/faer, he/him] - 2w
::: spoiler exorsexism and anti transmasculinity
its really annoying how both trans men and trans masc people will both point at each other and be like "I'm not like you!! I am nothing like you!! We exist in different planets!!!" like bro... we're literally in an umbrella term together... im saying this is also anti-transmasculinity because its really "they hurt themselves in the confusion!" energy.
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JohnBrownsBussy2 [she/her, they/them] - 2w
Getting settled in the new digs. We met a couple local trans folks who volunteered to help us move in, which was nice! The cats are loving the new apartment.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Feel absolutely fucking awful tonight. Have every reason to feel good but I just don't. All the thoughts are back. Why is this happening to me.
Why is life so fucking dreadful. Why do people keep having kids. Why did I have to be born.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Going on an overnight with some friends here in a couple weeks. They're going to misgender and deadname me the whole time. I'm still going and still spending money. Because I'm stupid and have no friends or standards. Someone just kill me already.
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TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 2w
Tell em to stop misgendering you, this should be a fun time... you get to go as yourself instead of hiding like when youre home
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Maybe she can't for safety. Or maybe cause she's scared. Or maybe the "friends" will ostracize her if she makes too much of a "fuss"
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
It's "just" because I'm scared, and yea I do worry about that. I might not see them after this trip anyway though.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I'll try to. I've asked them but one just kinda doesn't want to gender me correctly I guess, it seems like it makes her uncomfortable.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Most of the time now-a-days I'm pretty okay with my autism but every now and again there's a social situation or I say something awkward or whatever and I hate it :catgirl-flop: I just want to be normal sometimes. I'd be okay with the other ways it effects me being worse if only it weren't for the social deficit.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Sometimes I will genuinely see like, a pendulum or a scientific instrument and want to fuck it and lick it. Doesn't even have to be phallus shaped. Or any human body part shaped. It could be a ducking rectangle shape and I still want to [redacted]
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SerialExperimentsGay [she/her, she/her] - 2w
the pathologizing dumb clinical word for that is objectophilia, the cool kids call it being ferrosexual
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Objectophilia is such a lazy ass word
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SerialExperimentsGay [she/her, she/her] - 2w
absolutely
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lilypad [she/her, it/its] - 2w
::: spoiler Objectophilia
but youre just really into courtroom play
I'm innocent I swear
if youre so innocent then why are you sweating so profusely?
thats spurious and you know it!
oh god say that again~
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RION [she/her] - 2w
Fried rice so good you know I had to fuck it
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Well, today was the worst in a while, cried a lot, felt super dysphoric, shitty. Felt shitty about some social stuff too but I won't get into it much. Maybe some of it is my brain lying to me. I feel alone and helpless.
::: spoiler self harm urges, suicide, dysphoria
The sh urges came back really badly today. I feel hopeless and I am so done with this. I don't want this life. I dont want to be trans. To have to deal with all the dysphoria things. The waiting and the fixing and the coping with what can't be.
If I could get spirited away right now I would. I don't want to deal with dysphoria anymore. With work. With needing several major surgeries. With voice training. With any of this. Tonight, I wish I could go.
Today was a total bust. I don't want any more days if they're going to be like this.
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GenderIsOpSec [she/her, kit/kit's] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
i get it, girlie. why god gives her toughest battles for her dumbest fucking bitches i will never know.
but tomorrow could be better and no feeling is final
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
:cuddle: thank you. I really hope today is better. I appreciate you.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Dysphoria is such a miserable thing. On days like this you should treat yourself to override your brain for a while. It's better than being consumed by the death desire. Sugar and caffeine work great. Alcohol too, but not more than a glass/can. It's just cope, but only by coping you can pull yourself to the light at the end of the tunnel where all this will behind you.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Having some caffeine and possibly tacos today. Don't have a ton of treat food in the house sadly.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler suicide and dysphoria
If I can't figure out how to get surgery I will genuinely blow my shit off.
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peanutbuttercupola [she/her] - 1w
Might just swoop in with a unsanctioned megathread in a few hours if Eco hasn't shown up by then.
Is it rare that I lost none of my cishet male friends after coming out and they all are great allys? I stopped hanging with cishet guys after high school so it's not a lot of them, but it seems like this is quite a feat for a gathering of cishet guys to be not terrible
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
I genuinely hate people. They are cruel, they are ignorant, they do not care if what they believe is true. I hate that I have to live in a world surrounded by people who believe the most ridiculous shit, and that they get to have power over me. Fuck people. Its entirely their fault. Clearly some humans are able to improve and not believe and think shit. But most people just fundamentally seem to not either not care or willingly choose it for various reasons.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
I got rid of much of my summer vacation. I'll be doing my full time internship during that period.
I had suggest to the prof to start next week, but he told me that he won't be ready by then. How tragic.
::: spoiler content warning
::: spoiler suicide
I don't want to have free time or rest because then I think of killing myself
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Go to hospital for appointment
It's empty
Walk around
Find guy in wheelchair
"The place you're looking for is no longer here"
"But if you follow the downwards road you can find where it used to be"
What the fuck is this horror game ass sequence ?
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Beer batter onion rings are good. Guinness as the beer is bad.
God why do people like this beer? I heard only good things about it but it's bitter. And when I try to chug the leftover can I gaged!
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler dysphoria
Name something worse then facial hair, I bet you can't
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30_to_50_Feral_PAWGs [she/her] - 2w
The cruel tutelage of Pai Mei, but instead of water buckets, it's my frigging larynx
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Holy shit I hate taking care of my hair. It's thick as fuck which is good I guess but ends up being really difficult to clean the top properly.
Also when people tell me I just need to take care of myself better and get new glasses :kitty-cri: I hope chat
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
I'm already so tired of feeling shit again.
I hate having to transition and I hate most people. Maybe I should dysphoria post again. god this whole thing is so exhausting.
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Alisu [she/her, they/them] - 2w
::: spoiler clickety click for spoiler
Yeah, same. Getting "sir'd" like 4 times doesn't help. What do I have to do? Show my boobs around all the time?
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Sometimes even that doesn't work. I just spent 2 hours in a small room with 3 guys wearing my tshirt which doesn't hide my big ass breasts at all. None of them suspect a thing.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
literally, like how long and how much effort is this going to take.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler dysphoria
I hate having to go through this. I hate having to voice train. I hate my apple. I hate having to learn how to do everything. I hate how long I have to wait for hrt to do its thing. How long having my tits fully in will take. How long laser will take. How long fat redistribution will take. I hate everything around surgery. I hate every bit of evidence of T. Just please be over soon. I need the next 5 years to fly by and me to get lucky enough to have like 4 surgeries. Please god. I need this to just be done already.
I hate cis people. I hate them for not taking this seriously, when its us. If I was a cis woman they would take it seriously. They would empathize and understand. I hate people for not listening to evidence and reason. I hate their willful ignorance. Their ego thinking their bigoted beliefs they picked up through cultural osmosis is equal to actual evidence. I hate the way these apes decide their beliefs.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
Okay so I wrote out my thoughts and feelings but when is the feeling of relief supposed to happen??
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Blakey [he/him] - 2w
One of my favourite birds is Cracticus tibicen, the Australian Magpie. It's not closely related to European magpies, and isn't a corvid... But it looks like a crow! It's as clever as the corvids, but also has my favourite song out of all birds <3
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SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them] - 3w
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Sorry for the wound posting today. Tommorow I'll try to find a less sexually charged topic.
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SwitchyandWitchy [she/her] - 2w
@Wake@hexbear.net I didn't get a chance to respond in the last mega, the build sounds awesome! 50 miles of range would be sweet for something so powerful/fast. Especially with only 2.8kWh.
I'm considering adding electric assist to my current bike, but it'll be very basic in comparison. Probably just a 250-500w hub motor to help me with big and steep hills. I'm prioritizing low weight/drag so I can still use it as a normal bike. Plus I'm already above the weight limit for the frame so I don't wanna add much more.
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Wake [she/her, they/them] - 2w
Thanks! Im really happy with how the build has come along. I’ve been planning accumulating parts for it for almost a year. And it’s finally all together and working.
I really want to build a bicycle next. The problem is that the temptation to make something over powered is too great. I’ve had friends tell me that having an ebike actually helped them lose weight because it made it easier to go for a ride. Which encouraged them to ride more.
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SwitchyandWitchy [she/her] - 2w
It's gonna be so satisfying when you finally get to ride it! I'm jealous, it sounds like it'll be really fun.
I'm only ever gonna encourage people to build bicycles, so I say do it XD
I can see that about e-bikes. I love riding and I do get out and do it, but I also live on a big hill and find myself not making some local trips that I would if I had some assist because cranking up a hill really slowly while cars fly past is both scary and a lot less pleasant than it could be. Especially when the wind from moving is my only form of AC in the summer.
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
It's very hard work coming up with multiple new things to post every day to hopefully get some trans people in my replies
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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 2w
Im joining the ziz cult
I want to live in a box truck and breathe diesel fumes daily
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Azarova [they/them] - 2w
what the fuck is going on with e patches
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
You just put them on and they slowly release it into you as your body heat dissolves thin layers of the adhesive estradiol mix. Am I missing something?
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Azarova [they/them] - 2w
Maybe it's just my area but there's been a supply shortage and it's been hell trying to get my prescription filled, thought maybe it was more widespread
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TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 2w
Some of em suck. Ive found the more expensive ones like estradot better for stickage power but theyre wayy more expensive
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🎀 Seryph (She/Her) - 2w
That's true, it took me a while when I first switched over to find a spot where they'd stay consistently
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peanutbuttercupola [she/her] - 1w
DoP I can't help but notice that one of these corvids looks a little different from the others.
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Alisu [she/her, they/them] - 1w
where new mega?
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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 2w
It's shocking how good persona 3 reload is
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 1w
I wish I could be transported to another world. But I'm the problem so what difference does it make?
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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 2w
CAM ON INGERLAND MEXICO SCORE SOM FACKIN GOALS
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Imagine a polycule where you do simulated NTR
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Cut myself and steamed my wounds while making this hotpot it better fucking be good
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
Another night where I felt bad and alone. Fantastic. How original. Another day on this fuck ass rock with this fuck ass condition down I suppose. Going to bed before I get any more extintial I hate that crap.
No, tomorrow won't be better. Work all fuck ass day for less then minimum wage in my new state.
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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 2w
How could Mexico fuck up 2 goals in 60 seconds
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Hmm. I feel less connection with my identity as trans and more with my identity as a student. Maybe it's because being Trans for me just means fear and pain and humiliation. It's my only experience with it. I don't even get to hang out with Trans people.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
Ugh now I gotta bike myself to the hospital even though my arm hurts and I feel very sleepy. I just wanna sleep this accident off. Like, ya already sent me home even though I dragged myself to the clinic (fainting on the way). Now I gotta drag myself to the hospital.
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
::: spoiler spoiler
This 4rth novel got a whole ass scene where the protagonist found VR porn of an almighty goddess and slowly deduces that it might have been made by the goddess herself cause nobody else would have the audacity.
And apparently some dude was so into it that his only remaining memory after being mind wiped and soul sucked is him playing the porn 🙄. Brother come on! Actually ... don't come.
And don't give me this "the protagonist couldn't view the sex scene because it was covered by fog". The fuck kinda pussying out is that?
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sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2w
I'm a bit dumb ain't I? Make too many decisions with half-complete information. Just found out my internship is going to be a minimum length one (so I get few credits) unless I happen to find some useful result.
What does this mean? Well it means more pressure. And more work. Not being paid sucks.
Disaster_of_Passion in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns
Corvids! - Trans Megathread for June 29th through July 5th, 2026
Corvids refers to birds belonging to the family Corvidae. Typically associated with birds in the genus Corvus, which includes crows, ravens, and loyalist primarchs, these "true crows" only make up 47 of the 135 current species. Corvids have native habitats in almost every place on Earth, and cover a wide variety of birds from the aforementioned crows and ravens to magpies, jays, and nutcrackers.
I'm gonna try and update the thread with a new corvid each day of the week, there's a lot of beautiful plummage on some corvids and also a lot of just like little gremlins, so hopefully that'll be kinda fun.
I hope everybody has a lovely week!
::: spoiler Monday: Little Crow (Corvus Bennetti) - Western and Central Australia
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::: spoiler Tuesday: Hooded Crow (Corvus Corone Cornix) - Western Asia and Northern, Eastern, and Southern Europe
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::: spoiler Wednesday: Azure-Winged Magpie (Cyanopica Cyanus) - Central and Northern China, Northern Japan and Mongolia, Southern Siberia, and Korea
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::: spoiler Thursday (Late oops sorry): Northern Nutcracker (Nucifraga Caryocatactes) - Scandanavia, Northern Europe, Russia, Siberia, Japan
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::: spoiler Friday: Western Jackdaw (Coloeus Monedula) - Europe, Central Asia
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::: spoiler Saturday: Purplish-backed Jay (Cyanocorax Beecheii) - Northwestern Mexico
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::: spoiler Sunday: Common Raven (Corvus Corax) - Deliverance
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BONUS CAPSTONE BIRD <airhorn noises>: Transvolcanic Jay (Aphelocoma Ultramarina) - Southern Mexico
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::: spoiler bad news The supreme court has ruled that the constitution does not protect trans women's civil rights, thereby proving that we are in fact women. :::
Hello everyone! Been a while, but I finally finished my second thesis, and now I graduate this week. So I'm back to posting as before.
General updates:
Being gay with my partner is still very nice.
Holy shit when the fuck did I turn into a girl I bought a swimsuit the other day and it looked perfect on me???? I never imagined it would happen.
I got addicted to fountain pens and started another warhammer army. Help.
Congratulations! Great to hear from you again.
Pretty sure you always as long as I've seen you on here. At least that's the vibe I got.
It's mostly just like, swimsuits were a huge source of dysphoria for me early transition. Wearing one now and straight up just looking like a cis woman in it feels just, incredible. Like the last bit of dysphoria I have around my body shape is pretty much gone now. Even my tuck was flawless.
Yayy congrats! We gotta get a cute swimsuit some time too, thinking something w a cute skirt piece so we hopefully dont have to tuck
Oooh swim skirts are so cute! Originally I was thinking if I'd ever get a swimsuit it would be one, but all the ones I can find irl go more for "sexy" than "cute" and that's not my thing. The swimsuit I ended out getting is a competitive one-piece swimsuit, so no skirt to hide, but I find tucks comfortable enough that I don't mind.
Yess, hopefully we'll find a more cute one, "sexy" isnt what were looking for either^^
From what I've seen online a lot of the cuter designs are swim dresses, so that might be worth looking at too. There's even one lolita swim dress that is very, very tempting for me to buy
Ooh, well totally look into that too
o(^o^)o🍾
Edit: fixed the emoji
I'm seeing a girl, T4T, it's early but it's so nice.
I can't see her again until tomorrow. She's so cute.
Con a rich man out of his fortune and fund the revolution
Just scheduled my first appointment for starting HRT!! It’s a couple months out but I’m so excited to finally be brave enough to commit :))
Soft tender breasts with no one to hold them
::: spoiler transfemme specific advice
My ex showed me a wonderful thing: when youre anxious or down or just need some emotional support, hold ur titties. Its reassuring and they're lovely little stressballs.
jesus christ hexbear has been really showing its ass with misogyny of late. literally the only worthwhile things i am finding on this damn site are the trans mega and the news mega.
Sometimes I wish we had our own private instance that was just for trans folks, but then I remember that admin stuff exists and mostly just feel tired.
Hm, trans bear dot net appears to be available
Always has tbh, it's why I only interact with the trans mega
What happened
if it's about something specific i assume it's this thread
@kristina@hexbear.net as you were also wondering
Oh shit, new one for me. I saw some pretty blatant transmisogony erasure the other day. And two weeks before that...
i keep regretting straying beyond the trans mega and a quick check of the news mega but i have been in a major depression scrolling pattern and can't really help myself often
Wow this
Jeeeezuuuuus! Some sick shit in there.
What happened
Going to see and kiss the cutest girl very soon.
Oh? Well, I'll be expecting you
Technically every trans person is tied for cutest in the world, but I like this particular one's cuteness.
wore a dress to dinner tonight, first time in public. felt very cute 🥰 highly recommend
kind of weird to think that in about a week and a half I won't have to boymode anymore. and then in a week and a half after that I'll be actively girlmoding at a job where no one will know me as having been anything other than a girl.
It's so nice just being a girl publicly. Even you know with all the awful stuff. I could never go back.
Yeah I don't think I'll be able to either. I know I'll be pretty clocky initially but it can only really get better right?
I found it got so much better, I would watch cis women realise literally in front of me that I was a trans woman and not a man, and become so much more friendly and welcoming.
Omg it's the best feeling ever right?
An incredibly healing experience.
elon's daughter is like the funny shitposter he wishes he could be. she's an endearing nerd instead of a gross one. her politics are cool and good for someone that young
somebody tell me what this means
being trans makes you cool?
maybe (yes)
Women are better then men?
i want to agree with this but don't want to get myself in trouble
I've hated a lot more people without getting in trouble
i sometimes think im just legit guyaphobic (from some trauma) but i like feminine men even if i had to navigate a lot of crushes that i could never reciprocate
i resist the urge to want to build some femme supremacy sapphic cult because that would be bad right
If a bit of misandry gets u in trouble ur not in the right crowds
somehow reminds me of when i read the Dungeon Meshi world guide and at some point in the elf chapter it just says out of nowhere "some of the more remote communities still practice cannibalism"
Look. Playing with my boobs is fun but I want someone else to play with em
Me too, me too.
I wish I could post my cool makeup looks and fits on here. I've been having a ton of fun with bold and unorthodox makeup.
I love being trans and non binary and just looking however I want.
The things I would do to look however I want
You could post a drawing of your makeup and fits
That's not a bad idea, I'll see if I get around to it
Hell yeah. I wanna see what my fellow hexbear transfems are doing with their looks.
Gay wrath month begins today!! Don't forget to take it out on as many cishets as you can to keep them in line! Here's a list of ideas:
Have fun unleashing your wrath this month folks!
On a more serious note, july is disability pride month!
Looking forward to gay lust month
Gay sloth month
Up with trans!
UP WITH TRANS!
UP WITH TRANS!
UP WITH TRANS
{UP|~UP~UP^UP^} {WITH|~WITH~WITH^WITH^} {TRANS|~TRANS~TRANS^TRANS^}
The chosen markdown understander walks among us
was outside tonight doing some clandestine water canning of my potted plants and prepping for the heat. plenty of bugs about. little jumping spider by the hose nozzle and a big grass spider by my feet.
i gave them both a little spritz of mist. the jumper was too small to track but that grass spider ran around for a second before stopping to slurp slurp slurp.
just make sure you don't hit them with too cold water, preferably filtered if possible, and spray far away as possible but close enough they can feel the drops. some spiders will "lick" the water off their own bodies if they are thirsty. you can tell if their abdomens look a little like a deflated balloon. so yeah don't forget about the littlest things in this heat
crow i saw today
also proof i’ve touched grass
post feet (on grass) or i don't believe you
a fantastic corvid, thank you for your contribution
thank you, the timing was perfect!
I watched 'I saw the TV Glow' finally. Honestly devo that's gonna leave a mark. I think it's the first time I've felt like a character's life is relatable in a film. Not everything, but the like lying to parents to sneek time with friends where things make sense, the exploration and shying back, alienation from your own life.
It was good, I had a really solid cry after, for what might have happened if I didn't meet my wife, what happens to so many people, and I guess the confused grief of child me that I don't ever really take out of the "don't open" box in my head.
Solid film, I really recommend it.
It's the 4th of July in Australia. I've got 10 transfemmes in my lounge. We ate vegan hot dogs. We're drinking tstingtao and soju. We're watching battle ship Potemkin and listening to RATM.
Just got a hrt prescription in 95 degree weather on 4g connection, my np probably hates me now for being a nervous overly apologetic glitchy ass .5g connection ass patient but I finally got drugs now. Now I just need to order my prescription and hope I feel better.
i did my first shot! (been on gel for a few years). I've had the vial sitting around for a bit but inertia/being scared of needles the normal amount made me delay. it wasn't so bad at all! really pleased with myself and i think it'll be a lot easier next week
Huh.
I got a decent grade.
Wow. I'm free now ...
Dad misgenders me on the phone as I inform him of my good result.
I almost start crying in the middle of the street. Sigh.
Ugh, bullshit, parents that refuse to gender you are fucking awful, you deserve better 🫂
I'm sorry Sodium :meow-hug:
Do be. This is your fault. /jk
Congrats!!
Behold my second favorite corvid, the scrub jay:
Despite the name they're actually quite proficient
::: spoiler dysphoria, terf island A "fun" effect of getting more laser is that I can't use tweezers or a facial epilator for the next year so I have bits of beard shadow again. I'm already visibly trans the timing (which I chose tbf) is extremely not good. :::
i hate this shit so much i want to tweeze so bad
solidarity. we will get through this.
it’ll all be worth it in the end, we got this
I'm becoming so much more secure in my transition as my body keeps changing and I lean how to present the way I feel on the inside. This won't be even slightly surprising to younger me, but I'm a tomboy. I'm so much happier and hopeful for the rest of this process as I've learned to accept that and the fact that I'm still a beautiful woman even if I do prefer minimal makeup, frequently wear band t-shirts and pants, and love getting dirty outside or by wrenching on something.
Now I just have to start voice training >.<
down with cis
DOWN WITH CIS
DOWN WITH CIS
DOWN WITH CIS
DOWN WITH CIS
So my cousin is transphobic I'm like 99% sure, and I think she knows the way she dances around the questions she's trying to ask me. Pretends to be positive and an ally but is secretly concerned about how many trans people there are nowadays.
Kinda wanna force femme/masc/andro the entire population into being trans now /s
It's not surprising tho, she's said eco-fascist shit too in the past but again, knows it's bad I think and keeps it subtle.
I shaved my face with a brand new razor and it left me with such bad razor burn, my skin hasn't burnt this bad from shaving in a long time. And this is a brand of razor I've used for a while, I've never had this issue, but this brand usually gets the closest shave I can find for the price. It was an okay shave today, but damn if it doesn't hurt
Curse the sober living for stealing all my shaving foam 😭
o u c h
(conditioner works in a pinch)
i can’t justify using shaving cream on my whole body so i’ve been using conditioner
saaame i've been doing it for years
it's also nice to have a wider variety of scents available since a lot of shaving stuff is kinda migraine-inducing for me
I should use some of the cheap conditioner I get from my case manager for that. I'm not in sober living so I can't just add it to the donation pile, I have to find a use for the cheap cleaning products they bring me
Idk, I buy nice conditioner, it lasts for months and makes me smell nice so I always go for it. I want to be a pretty girl as cheap as I can be.
oh definitely use the cheap shit, i actually have some i keep on hand just for that (though I usually just use water anymore post-laser)
just make sure you moisturize after bc it can be fairly drying
Oof I haven't had to dry shave in a while but I remember it being rough.
Listened to my cis coworker jawing about her mental health and how it's hard to know if it's just a normal reaction to a sucky society then she makes the aside that "dysphoria wouldn't exist if we didn't have gender societally" and it just made me mad... Is that bad
My new friend called me "love", which is not the same thing as saying, "I love you" but still feels significant
Fucking uni isn't using my social name and there is no place on the forms for me to put it god dammit, I'll need to email them
I think I got a job where I'm gonna work on hvac systems provided the other candidates aren't more desperate than me, I'll know by next week. They got walk in freezers, a huge ac unit, and a lot of PTACs and I'll have to do a lot of other things too unrelated to hvac that I at least studied like some plumbing and maybe some boiler stuff. I still wanna try union stuff in october but even if I get in this time I might be on a waiting list for work anyway so this can be a good chance to put all my theory to the test.
::: spoiler Pronouns people used on me in support group:
They 2x
He 1x
anyway fuck my life. No one struggled with the trans guy's pronouns if you were curious (who doesn't pass any better then I do, also if you're curious [also also, who doesn't pronouns in his name but I do]).
They did suggest he take prog though so :::
Bit idea: recommend prog to cis men.
See but cis men should be feminized
You're hearing this more and more, especially in the vicinity of St. Almsworth.
Especially at that hall with all those talk gorgeous women coming and going from it
Progesterone helps with muscle recovery!
They’re loving the rainbow dome musick what now
I can't believe that goofy aah rabbit from TADC has been the thing leading to so many people coming out as trans. That episode was like repper 9/11.
I have come here to eat pickles and attack and dethrone god, and I'm all out of pickles.
Edit: Wait, found some more pickles. Carry on.
Have to go help my stupid dad with something later because I'm his stupid son so I have to put on my stupid mask that I'm doing okay. God I hate him and I hate pretending and I hate feeling dysphoric.
Okay update, he doesn't need me to go with him, but I am still miserably dysphoric. I guess that's as good of a win as I can hope for.
I've been feeding a pair of jackdaws for two years now, they come to my balcony to hang out when I'm out there for a smoke.
Yesterday, they brought their chick along and taught it how to scam humans out of food by being cute
::: spoiler spoiler
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TERFs can't transphobicly call me a "man in a dress" because I'm neither a man nor wear dresses
chat, are these egg thoughts
despite all this, this person also says a lot of sex negative things
tfw you get gendered correctly by the lesbian-looking woman with a cybertruck
i was told that hyperpop is the transgender genre of music and it does speak to my soul ngl
love to leave the room and immediately hear my mom misgender and deadname me in the same sentence. definitely doesn’t make me feel like they’re only catching themselves because they don’t want the embarrassment of me correcting them, for sure makes me feel like they take me and my decisions seriously. thank god i don’t live with them anymore, our neuroses don’t mesh well
Moths have ruined a bunch of my old woollen boy sweaters that I didn't store properly I guess. I was rolling them out because it's cold and I was cosy-maxxing.
I guess my options are either be annoyed or see this as a sign from the moon goddess I need more feminine sweaters
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I remember when my dad told me before I left that I should always carefully consider my choices because there are some decisions you can't overturn.
It's obvious that he kinda suspects that I am lying about detransing/not transitioning.
Maybe he isn't even as bigoted about it all as my mother. Wouldn't be too surprised. Someone of his profession should know better. But as long as he doesn't even stand up for his beliefs, what do those beliefs count as? Forget taking a bullet for his beliefs. He won't even accept his daughter.
As for the "advice" itself? It's such a nothing burger platitude that it's insulting. Yeah no shit do you think I don't know about the concept of consequences? Why do you think I haven't thought enough? Have you thought enough? Have you weighed the price of your inaction? Assuming you aren't a bigoted piece of shit (major benefit of the doubt here).
It's funny. He's already paid the price. He just doesn't know it yet. don't want to be his son or daughter or anything.
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Today my close friend has:
Said "[coworker] heard we were leaving our jobs at the same time and thought we were involved" and laughed
Had me poke and feel her bare thighs, like a couple inches from her ass (demonstrating the difference between a hematoma that's stuck around versus normal flesh)
I legitimately think she doesn't know what she's doing to me... Just gals being pals!!!
Is it cope to think being moderately to heavily overweight during my late teens and early twenties might have helped estrogenize me a bit?
Where's the cope though?
Well I just don't know if that would really have much of an effect. Just grasping at straws hoping to find ways that those years weren't a complete waste
Ooooh, I see. I dont think they're a waste. I get why people do, I've fantasized the same fantasy lol where I transition at 5 or 11 or whatever. There's parts I liked and wouldn't have had otherwise and there's parts where being a trans girl in the 00s could've been quite bad. I've never struggled with reconciling myself living as a boy and man with also being trans woman who's really happy she's both of those.
I do get the lost time feeling, I suppose in the abstract. Even with my ex, I don't consider any of that time lost or not worthwhile even though we were together a very long time.
I don't mind so much my younger years as a boy, really until high school. Just frustrated at all the changes to me physically that make what I'm trying to do now harder. After 18 or so the anguish of lost time does start to kick in pretty hard tho
I transitioned at 27! I don't same feel the anguish but I do understand it.
Same. I kind of feel developmentally stunted? Like, I spent so long not wanting anyone to look at or touch me that I kind of forgot how to be anything different.
Same (except I was slightly older). I feel like rather than stunted (which I feels implies it was something I never had), I sorta feel like parts of me have been broken as a way to get by during a time where that was temporarily beneficially? Still working on trying to undo some of those old mental habits.
I did it at 35! I've had regrets but therapy helped a lot, (integrated family systems) in particular led me to understand and appreciate myself in those years before as a woman who worked really hard and actually achieved a lot, especially with this enormous unfixed hormonal issue.
Real, for me too.
I’m not sure if I want to do a Master’s degree anymore. My BA major was Fine Art and I feel massively underappreciated as an artist in addition to having completely lost motivation to continue.
It feels so nice finally just having a day to do nothing again
Me reading every comment about sex and relationships "damn I hope this finds me one day"
How I feel being two and a half years in, on hrt, still never having put on a stitch of women's clothes (not counting bralettes)
Maybe getting some kind of really basic outfit would make me feel better about pictures, because I do want to show people my progress and how I look but wearing my clothes that specifically do not flatter my feminine traits for that sucks.
Was laying in bed admiring my tits (getting ever more noticeable in a shirt) and then
::: spoiler reproductive dysphoria Started crying thinking about how they'll never actually feed a baby :doggirl-cry: I don't even want kids wtf :::
But I am quite happy with how they're coming along, hoping to be a b at one year, kinda stupid to set myself up like that when I have literally no control over it. Pretty sure I'm close right now but I don't have a ton of faith I didn't fuck up measuring.
::: spoiler CWsex There are decades where no transfem sucking and fucking happens, and there's weeks where decades of sucking and fucking happen. :::
I love being trans
me too
hell yes
Samesies
Hell yeah me tooo
It's wonderful
The complete best
So I know the dating apps are bad
But are any of them less bad, especially for our ilk
i have no idea, literally every date i had since cracking started over discord
weirdly enough, only one of them was really long distance
Queer discord servers are kind of peak for meeting trans people to hang out with. Even if it just ends up as friends, you never know who your friends might introduce you to in the future.
it really depends on your location but also they have gotten uniformly much worse in the last decade. i have one big tinder success story but a lot of people on there are looking for very casual stuff. i've had many more cases where people just drift away after a bit.
Starting off the day right with my dad making fun of my hair
all the AC discourse on my feed I keep seeing stuff like things like AC systems blowing out fire to the inside and I think
heat pump also it being that efficient is awe inspiring, heat pumps have a much lower capacity for heating than cooling
I have seen crows before at various points in my life ( ≧∀≦)ノ
Always a W animal
My multimeter has a clacky jaw ive never used and never will cause when will I need to measure amps AC? But Its cool and fun to play with and pretend its a clickyclackycreackture eating things.
I am trying to set up a scanner.
I am running linux mint.
This is a nightmare.
Praying that I can do this from my phone.
Update: Okay that worked, took me 2 hours before I gave up and went with the mobile app route. Why do I even have a printer holy shit.
Printers/scanners are a nightmare no matter what you're operating them with.
Don't let the employers see this but I could be paid in hugs and it'd make me work harder than money ever could.
I mean I'd still need food and rent to stay alive but that's all.
And we lost the culture war even harder. Great!
I really just can't wait for a couple more things to fall into place and be living my gay city life in my own place.
::: spoiler cw drawn cannibalism
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There ya go.
I'm getting back into my depressive thing again
It's been 4 hours lol
She said I had swag sorry to blow everyone else's post out the water with that
::: spoiler spoiler ::: spoiler suicide I want to kill myself. Why do I have to feel so awful. To feel this much pain. Fuck me. And fuck (nearly) everyone else too.
I don't know why I'm suddenly so miserable again. Maybe I was wrapped up in fantasy before. Fuck my stupid shitty life. Fucking awful. Whyyyy am I back to this. :::
My anxiety is so bad what the hell. Even though my diagnosis has anxiety on it I've always felt more depressed the anxious but it's hitting me bad. I can't sleep.
Ignorance is not bliss. If I was ignorant I would still be stuck in a body I hate.
Only by struggling and understanding could I break out of that wretched condition.
Sodium's post about Guinness reminded me that for a while I had been wondering if hrt would change my taste in food (because I feel like estrogen made my senses of smell and taste a bit more sensitive), but I don't think that's really happened - I just appreciate the same foods even more than I used to.
I went swimming for the first time in literal ages and also after first transitioning. There's a local trans swim group that I found and the good thing is that it seems to be more or less weekly; I can go as often as I like (Yay). Being in water is fun apart from my hair getting in my face because i didn't bring a hairband.
::: spoiler Important Discovery I NEED my boobs to be bigger!
They were hardly noticeable under my swim top, Well, not really. I have some curves but I would like a bigger chest pls. :::
I have got to start voice training soon
Holy hell I'm so done. Idk why this specific time I got so ticked off so hard but I just can't let this go.
death to amerikkka
::: spoiler spoiler
1 fucking phone call and my day ruined. Any possibility of being happy after my exam gone. 1 fucking phone call. I should have never called. I should never call these people ever again. I'm still crying and dissociating. Fuck.
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::: spoiler SA, trauma Is it ✨️problematic✨️ to wish wed gottenremovedd or had something similarly obviously rly bad happen to us so we could better justify to ourself why were such a traumatized mess :::
::: spoiler spoiler My hot take of the day is that being trans is inherently traumatizing and should be recognized as such :::
Thats only a hot take among cisppl tbh
::: spoiler SA There was a bit of a discourse a bit ago when a trans girl directly compared testosterone puberty toremoved, and like we get why ppl didnt like that comparison but also tbh we get what she meant :::
I feel like some people here probably disagree with me tbh
::: spoiler spoiler Oh they do that all the time. I've seen a few victims of both say puberty was worse. I low key agree but don't say it because I'm not aremoved victim. Although I have been SAd and harassed and puberty was definitely much worse then that. I get what they mean too. :::
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Puberty lasts for many years and you don't get the luxury of dissociating as easily and it consumes your entire life growing up.
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::: spoiler spoiler And consumes your life afterward, every second, every interaction. All the work and money you have to spend fixing it. Dysphoria is hell. :::
Yeah true, it can be a hot take w trans ppl too, tho much less so
And yeah same, weve seen victims of both say that too
::: spoiler spoiler Pretty much in the same boat. Certainly would take not being forced to go through the wrong puberty even if it meant dealing with more SA/harassment. And even more if it meant not having been born with the genitalia I was. :::
::: spoiler re: I don't think trauma is inherent to being trans. There are just many societal and personal reasons why it could be. Personally, I wouldn't say transitioning has been traumatic for me. Society and the healthcare industry have done their worst, but I'm at peace with my transition.
It won't be the same for everyone, of course. :::
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it's not "inherent" as in, if we lived in a just world then they wouldn't go hand in hand. but in this world they do, at least for the vast vast majority of trans folks. im pretty at peace about the physical effects of male puberty etc on me personally, but social aspects of the gendered upbringing have left me damaged. i think this is a very common experience. that's not even getting into the general prevalence of transphobia and how it impacts trans youth especially. social norms often cause trauma. repressing is traumatic. for many the act of transition is where the healing begins so you are kind of missing the forest for the trees a bit. the damage often comes before. :::
If we lived in a just world where I got on hrt at 11
I wish I could have been on HRT at 11 but honestly even just a world were people were chill about me being trans and told me I'm doing a great job more would be nice.
:cuddle:
genuinely the only way to avoid this trauma
::: spoiler re: I'm not saying it can't traumatic, I'm saying that trauma isn't inherent to every trans person. In the same way that you're speaking from your experience, I'm saying that it wasn't for me and I also recognise that my experience isn't universal.
If someone feels that their experience was traumatic, then of course it should be recognised that way. :::
i understand. i think i interpreted your comment as speaking more universally than you actually did, that's my bad. i suppose i still struggle to imagine someone with literally zero trauma related to it just given the gestures at everything. just not an experience i can put myself in the mind of at all.
::: spoiler spoiler I agree with you in regard to being trans isn't necessarily traumatic, but being trans in a transphobic society is absolutely traumatic :::
::: spoiler dysphoria I do not understand how living in the wrong body for years and years isn't traumatic.
Society and healthcare are both excellent examples as well. How is there not trauma from being in a society that hates you. Surrounded by people who think you should suffer. Who deny your suffering. I literally can't imagine how that isn't traumatic. :::
::: spoiler My own experiences with being trans and growing up It wasn't traumatic for me, because it was my escape. I grew up in an abusive home and spent most of time hiding away. Conversations with my guardians were always a risk and I kept friendships pretty surface level. Even the things I excelled at were co-opted and distorted by my guardians, who just wanted to live vicariously through me. It was a nightmare.
All of that hopelessness changed when I realised I was trans. I started to understand in fourth grade, noticing that I wanted to wear the girl's uniform instead. Of course, that was something nobody else was talking about, so my hypervigilance paid off and I kept it to myself. It wasn't until middle school that I learned that people actually do transition, finding out from Myspace groups of all places. I was so inspired by everyone's confidence and everyone was so pretty. It felt like I had found purpose in my life for the first time ever. This was something that was mine, something I could always look forward to and no one could distort. I took the steps that I could while going through schooling and went full time just after moving out.
Ironically, part of my transition did get distorted thanks to past trauma, but it always a CTPSD thing for me. I really had a hard time trusting the world for too long.
Sorry to go on for a bit, but this is an honest answer to "how could anyone not find being trans to be traumatic?" :::
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I've often also thought that being trans isn't inherently traumatic. But honestly ... going through male puberty probably fucked me up in ways I can still barely understand.
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::: spoiler spoiler I remember reading in high school this piece of writing by an ostensibly cis women about as a teenager wishing she had had a dark trauma in her past to explain neatly why she felt her normal life was so awful.
And I found it so deeply resonating. Because that was me, all the time. And in hindsight it was yeah because I was trans. And neurodivergent. And my dad was abusive.
And then I did get groomed and assaulted and didn't quite even realise because I thought I was a boy and my abuser was a woman. But like I had all those traumatised feeling before that happened. :::
Any chance u remember what the piece was? Feel like we might resonate w it too
Sadly I think the chance of my finding it are slim, my English teacher just gave a photocopied sheet to a dysphoric teenager like 20 years ago. But if I do ever find it I will post it.
Thats ok, ty!
What is the point of filtering that word, genuinely
iirc some people have expressed that seeing it can be triggering
Discussions of the topic certainly can, but can the word itself be triggering in a way where just substituting another word wont be?
Also, anecdotally we know survivors who find it v upsetting when the language they use to discuss their experience/trauma is censored/policed
apologies, i don't have an answer for you bc i'm not someone who finds content warnings and the like necessary or useful. i was explaining, not offering a personal opinion.
i understand where you're coming from but i have no dog in this fight. since i'm not sensitive or even really traumatized about my own experiences i have never felt it appropriate to try and influence the standards one way or another, either here or elsewhere
No worries
::: spoiler Tap for spoiler I think the conditions that have traumatized you and have resulted in you wishing for that are far more problematic. I think it's natural people look for excuses to blame their problems on. For some people, for example, it's blaming vaccines.
Granted, I just think such fantasies are hot and have since middle school. I don't actually want to fulfill them, but perhaps they're problematic in a similar way if your thoughts are. :::
I just really hope life is actually better after the move. I hope I'm actually able to buckle down and get my license and move out and afford to and working full time isn't as ass as I've always feared. That I can actually afford my shit.
I just hope life is actually better. That I can actually lock in and suddenly be a real adult. And that that is better.
My first vial is getting low, maybe 1/4 left. Thinking I might keep using this stuff??
Take me to your best friends house
I need a girl that is a mouse
to fall in love with her
Extreme lesbian yearning for the girl I met at the rave last week and just spent double pride with
(also does anyone have the original comic this emoji is from?)
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Biggest mystery of the novel.
Introduced at the very beginning.
Everything is connected to this one thing kinda
Novel goes on, mystery gets even more mysteries and important
Reach end of novel
"He's only got 2 chapters left how could he make a satisfying reveal?!"
The author doesn't make the reveal
Go to the wiki to see if you missed something
Link leads you to an entirely new series, spoiling that series where the mystery was actually resolved.
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::: spoiler dysphoric gay rant Yall im kinda freaking out. Idrk if im gay or not and its really making me dysphoric. Like the two times ive ever been sorta flirted with kinda were both by other tfems and ngl it was kinda good. But the thing is ive been mostly toric for a while and had a crush on this trans dude in a club im in, so im kinda not sure if im still attracted to what. And ngl as a professional lazy basement dweller with little transition to my name, I get really sensitive and dysphoric around other tfems unlike mascs where they arent a mirror to my failures. I know this is probably internalized transphobia and that kind of dysphoria but I genuinely have no confidence in my identity and with my current home situation, I am pretty depressed because my mom despises the real me and threatened to kick me out if I did anything queer, which includes hrt. So like im basically coping with dysphoria by gaming while questioning and the ambient dread in my house lingers.
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::: spoiler spoiler Im bi and this just sounds like bi cycle stuff to me, personally. Like I'll go a while liking men way more than girls, and wonder if Im just straight... then see a pretty girl and go "ah yes, now I remember." And visa versa.
The part that sounds like internalized transphobia is being dysphoric when other trans femmes are "passing better" (Im assuming thats the deal), because youre comparing yourself to them and finding you measure yourself short. We are the worst judges on how pretty we are or how femme looking etc.
And also ultimately at the root of it all is, if you dont think you can start transitioning cause of your mom - ideally the best thing you can do is move away from your mom. :::
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For what it's worth the feeling of comparison is ridiculously common and you aren't alone in this.
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Finally cut my hair
Instantly look more feminine
Idgi but it suits me, the top half of my face is now a gender question mark
You have 45 minutes to give me your best fried onion rings recipe
::: spoiler self pity, addiction, sh
between withdrawal/sobriety, forgetting my meds for a couple days, being misgendered and deadnamed by my (well-meaning) family despite being out for ~ 9 months, and thinking about going back to work next week, i’m really feeling like fucking shit. kinda just want to quit my job and move to my gfs city, if only it weren’t so hard to get a fucking job
with few skills and a humanities degree. i should be happy that i have a family that gives enough of a shit to occasionally correct themselves, that i have a job where i could come out, that i didn’t ruin my life, hurt myself badly or kill myself/anyone else while i was drinking but im just an ungrateful shithead with a broken brain i guess. add self pitying to the list too. i know this is the exact sort of spiral that happens when im off my antidepressants, but it feels like the hormones are cranking everything up to 11 and while ive appreciated the emotional depth before, its hurting a lot right now:::
No no sodium. Don't fall asleep in the middle of climbing a ladder. That's dangerous.
(The power of caffeine withdrawals is insane)
::: spoiler healthcare woes Okay, so I'm not going to qualify for medicaid, and it sounds like it's up to my employer if it's covered and how "covered" it actually is. So like what the fuck do I even do if it's not covered or if it's only like half covered or some shit?
Anyway, I fucking hate being trans, I fucking hate dealing with this. I hate needing a whole bunch of surgery to hopefully feel okay and then maybe I can't even get it. I was really hoping it would be better after the move. But no apparently it's still super fucked. ::: spoiler suicide I literally just want to kill myself this is horrible. All I need are like 4 surgeries, and half a decade of hrt, and voice training. FUCKING KILL ME RIGHT THE FUCK NOW :::
If anyone has advice on how the fuck to get healthcare pet me know. Don't qualify for medicaid, state funded plans are expensive as shit and idk what or how much they even cover. And idk how much hope to have in an employer.
Assuming things haven't changed, "silver" plans can be quite "affordable" and have "low" deductibles/max year-out-of-pocket if you are in certain income ranges (which depends on your state; some you don't qualify for the savings if you make too little, for example). You can browse plans here: https://www.healthcare.gov/see-plans/#/
But you need to have a qualifying life events to apply out-of-season, but that includes any sort of moving.
I did the calculator for my state and it said 200-300 a month for silver plans. But I don't know if they cover or what the out of pockets were. That's still kinda a lot of fucking money but I really hope they do actually cover it properly.
I won't apply until I get my new job and go from there
Happy Cake Day btw.
Each plan should have a summary of benefits pdf that tells you what they cover and a separate list of covered drugs pdf/page. View provider directory tends to be the most variable thing and doesn't seem to always be accurate? If you have a specific doctor you want to be in-network, you can add a filter for that.
But yeah... insurance in the US is crazy expensive. If you are under a certain income threshold, the silver plans have a reduced deductible, so they should be mostly $0-$1000 where if you don't qualify, they tend to be like $7000-$10000. If you know you are gonna use it and can afford it, you can technically can use retirement accounts to get your effective income a little lower to qualify for that and still might come out ahead plus build savings.
Unrelated, but another trick to get somewhat cheaper medical care is taking medicines that insurance doesn't fully cover but copay cards exist to cover your portion. Depending on where you are, that might still count towards your deductible/max year out of pocket. Granted, that may mean avoiding medical care until the copays cover your deductible...
Thank you. Three years of this site.
Okay, thank you. I will look at those later.
under a thousand please
good lord I could actually swing that. 10k... egh not so much. Unless I can pack one year completely full and get all my shit done. I don't really plan on retiring but that is a good tip if I need to lower my income to qualify.
Thank you so much for all the info. Saving this thread. How does a copay card work? I don't really understand your explanation.
Some medicines that are ridiculously overpriced even by US standards have programs where the company pays the copay for you after insurance pays their part. Paxlovid, for example, has such a program (paxcess). I think its usually for newer medicines? Anyways, depending on your state and insurance, sometimes these payments still count as if you paid it yourself in terms of reaching your deductible. You just have to find out if a medicine you take or would be interested in taking has such a program and apply through their website.
Oh, I only really care about trans surgery and shit. No other meds. I don't really care about general health and well being, just aliviating dysphoria. I doubt I could get a script for pio so it would just be E and prog.
Fuck this shitty ass rock and (nearly) everyone on it. I FUCKING hate people. Genuinely go to hell. It's their fucking fault. I cannot describe how much I loathe humanity.
Hopefully I live to see the last generation of these shitty ass creatures.
Eco late to the mega
Have multiple good posts on deck 😔
Started a Terraria skyblock world with some friends last night, god I love Terraria.
::: spoiler exorsexism and anti transmasculinity
its really annoying how both trans men and trans masc people will both point at each other and be like "I'm not like you!! I am nothing like you!! We exist in different planets!!!" like bro... we're literally in an umbrella term together... im saying this is also anti-transmasculinity because its really "they hurt themselves in the confusion!" energy.
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Getting settled in the new digs. We met a couple local trans folks who volunteered to help us move in, which was nice! The cats are loving the new apartment.
Feel absolutely fucking awful tonight. Have every reason to feel good but I just don't. All the thoughts are back. Why is this happening to me.
Why is life so fucking dreadful. Why do people keep having kids. Why did I have to be born.
Going on an overnight with some friends here in a couple weeks. They're going to misgender and deadname me the whole time. I'm still going and still spending money. Because I'm stupid and have no friends or standards. Someone just kill me already.
Tell em to stop misgendering you, this should be a fun time... you get to go as yourself instead of hiding like when youre home
Maybe she can't for safety. Or maybe cause she's scared. Or maybe the "friends" will ostracize her if she makes too much of a "fuss"
It's "just" because I'm scared, and yea I do worry about that. I might not see them after this trip anyway though.
I'll try to. I've asked them but one just kinda doesn't want to gender me correctly I guess, it seems like it makes her uncomfortable.
Most of the time now-a-days I'm pretty okay with my autism but every now and again there's a social situation or I say something awkward or whatever and I hate it :catgirl-flop: I just want to be normal sometimes. I'd be okay with the other ways it effects me being worse if only it weren't for the social deficit.
Sometimes I will genuinely see like, a pendulum or a scientific instrument and want to fuck it and lick it. Doesn't even have to be phallus shaped. Or any human body part shaped. It could be a ducking rectangle shape and I still want to [redacted]
the pathologizing dumb clinical word for that is objectophilia, the cool kids call it being ferrosexual
Objectophilia is such a lazy ass word
absolutely
::: spoiler Objectophilia but youre just really into courtroom play
Fried rice so good you know I had to fuck it
::: spoiler spoiler Well, today was the worst in a while, cried a lot, felt super dysphoric, shitty. Felt shitty about some social stuff too but I won't get into it much. Maybe some of it is my brain lying to me. I feel alone and helpless. ::: spoiler self harm urges, suicide, dysphoria The sh urges came back really badly today. I feel hopeless and I am so done with this. I don't want this life. I dont want to be trans. To have to deal with all the dysphoria things. The waiting and the fixing and the coping with what can't be.
If I could get spirited away right now I would. I don't want to deal with dysphoria anymore. With work. With needing several major surgeries. With voice training. With any of this. Tonight, I wish I could go.
Today was a total bust. I don't want any more days if they're going to be like this. :::
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i get it, girlie. why god gives her toughest battles for her dumbest fucking bitches i will never know. 
but tomorrow could be better and no feeling is final
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::: spoiler spoiler :cuddle: thank you. I really hope today is better. I appreciate you. :::
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Dysphoria is such a miserable thing. On days like this you should treat yourself to override your brain for a while. It's better than being consumed by the death desire. Sugar and caffeine work great. Alcohol too, but not more than a glass/can. It's just cope, but only by coping you can pull yourself to the light at the end of the tunnel where all this will behind you.
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::: spoiler spoiler Having some caffeine and possibly tacos today. Don't have a ton of treat food in the house sadly. :::
::: spoiler suicide and dysphoria If I can't figure out how to get surgery I will genuinely blow my shit off. :::
Might just swoop in with a unsanctioned megathread in a few hours if Eco hasn't shown up by then.
@Eco@hexbear.net are you ok?
give new mega ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ
::: spoiler transphobia, friendship positivity
Is it rare that I lost none of my cishet male friends after coming out and they all are great allys? I stopped hanging with cishet guys after high school so it's not a lot of them, but it seems like this is quite a feat for a gathering of cishet guys to be not terrible
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I genuinely hate people. They are cruel, they are ignorant, they do not care if what they believe is true. I hate that I have to live in a world surrounded by people who believe the most ridiculous shit, and that they get to have power over me. Fuck people. Its entirely their fault. Clearly some humans are able to improve and not believe and think shit. But most people just fundamentally seem to not either not care or willingly choose it for various reasons.
I got rid of much of my summer vacation. I'll be doing my full time internship during that period.
I had suggest to the prof to start next week, but he told me that he won't be ready by then. How tragic.
::: spoiler content warning ::: spoiler suicide
I don't want to have free time or rest because then I think of killing myself
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Go to hospital for appointment
It's empty
Walk around
Find guy in wheelchair
"The place you're looking for is no longer here"
"But if you follow the downwards road you can find where it used to be"
What the fuck is this horror game ass sequence
?
Beer batter onion rings are good. Guinness as the beer is bad.
God why do people like this beer? I heard only good things about it but it's bitter. And when I try to chug the leftover can I gaged!
::: spoiler dysphoria Name something worse then facial hair, I bet you can't :::
The cruel tutelage of Pai Mei, but instead of water buckets, it's my frigging larynx
Holy shit I hate taking care of my hair. It's thick as fuck which is good I guess but ends up being really difficult to clean the top properly.
Also when people tell me I just need to take care of myself better and get new glasses :kitty-cri: I hope chat
::: spoiler spoiler I'm already so tired of feeling shit again.
I hate having to transition and I hate most people. Maybe I should dysphoria post again. god this whole thing is so exhausting. :::
::: spoiler clickety click for spoiler Yeah, same. Getting "sir'd" like 4 times doesn't help. What do I have to do? Show my boobs around all the time? :::
Sometimes even that doesn't work. I just spent 2 hours in a small room with 3 guys wearing my tshirt which doesn't hide my big ass breasts at all. None of them suspect a thing.
::: spoiler spoiler literally, like how long and how much effort is this going to take. :::
::: spoiler dysphoria I hate having to go through this. I hate having to voice train. I hate my apple. I hate having to learn how to do everything. I hate how long I have to wait for hrt to do its thing. How long having my tits fully in will take. How long laser will take. How long fat redistribution will take. I hate everything around surgery. I hate every bit of evidence of T. Just please be over soon. I need the next 5 years to fly by and me to get lucky enough to have like 4 surgeries. Please god. I need this to just be done already.
I hate cis people. I hate them for not taking this seriously, when its us. If I was a cis woman they would take it seriously. They would empathize and understand. I hate people for not listening to evidence and reason. I hate their willful ignorance. Their ego thinking their bigoted beliefs they picked up through cultural osmosis is equal to actual evidence. I hate the way these apes decide their beliefs. :::
Okay so I wrote out my thoughts and feelings but when is the feeling of relief supposed to happen??
One of my favourite birds is Cracticus tibicen, the Australian Magpie. It's not closely related to European magpies, and isn't a corvid... But it looks like a crow! It's as clever as the corvids, but also has my favourite song out of all birds <3
Sorry for the wound posting today. Tommorow I'll try to find a less sexually charged topic.
@Wake@hexbear.net I didn't get a chance to respond in the last mega, the build sounds awesome! 50 miles of range would be sweet for something so powerful/fast. Especially with only 2.8kWh.
I'm considering adding electric assist to my current bike, but it'll be very basic in comparison. Probably just a 250-500w hub motor to help me with big and steep hills. I'm prioritizing low weight/drag so I can still use it as a normal bike. Plus I'm already above the weight limit for the frame
so I don't wanna add much more.
Thanks! Im really happy with how the build has come along. I’ve been planning accumulating parts for it for almost a year. And it’s finally all together and working.
I really want to build a bicycle next. The problem is that the temptation to make something over powered is too great. I’ve had friends tell me that having an ebike actually helped them lose weight because it made it easier to go for a ride. Which encouraged them to ride more.
It's gonna be so satisfying when you finally get to ride it! I'm jealous, it sounds like it'll be really fun.
I'm only ever gonna encourage people to build bicycles, so I say do it XD
I can see that about e-bikes. I love riding and I do get out and do it, but I also live on a big hill and find myself not making some local trips that I would if I had some assist because cranking up a hill really slowly while cars fly past is both scary and a lot less pleasant than it could be. Especially when the wind from moving is my only form of AC in the summer.
It's very hard work coming up with multiple new things to post every day to hopefully get some trans people in my replies
Im joining the ziz cult
I want to live in a box truck and breathe diesel fumes daily
what the fuck is going on with e patches
You just put them on and they slowly release it into you as your body heat dissolves thin layers of the adhesive estradiol mix. Am I missing something?
Maybe it's just my area but there's been a supply shortage and it's been hell trying to get my prescription filled, thought maybe it was more widespread
Some of em suck. Ive found the more expensive ones like estradot better for stickage power but theyre wayy more expensive
That's true, it took me a while when I first switched over to find a spot where they'd stay consistently
DoP I can't help but notice that one of these corvids looks a little different from the others.
where new mega?
It's shocking how good persona 3 reload is
I wish I could be transported to another world. But I'm the problem so what difference does it make?
CAM ON
INGERLANDMEXICO SCORE SOM FACKIN GOALS::: spoiler spoiler
Imagine a polycule where you do simulated NTR
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Cut myself and steamed my wounds while making this hotpot it better fucking be good
::: spoiler spoiler Another night where I felt bad and alone. Fantastic. How original. Another day on this fuck ass rock with this fuck ass condition down I suppose. Going to bed before I get any more extintial I hate that crap.
No, tomorrow won't be better. Work all fuck ass day for less then minimum wage in my new state. :::
How could Mexico fuck up 2 goals in 60 seconds
Hmm. I feel less connection with my identity as trans and more with my identity as a student. Maybe it's because being Trans for me just means fear and pain and humiliation. It's my only experience with it. I don't even get to hang out with Trans people.
Ugh now I gotta bike myself to the hospital even though my arm hurts and I feel very sleepy. I just wanna sleep this accident off. Like, ya already sent me home even though I dragged myself to the clinic (fainting on the way). Now I gotta drag myself to the hospital.
::: spoiler spoiler
This 4rth novel got a whole ass scene where the protagonist found VR porn of an almighty goddess and slowly deduces that it might have been made by the goddess herself cause nobody else would have the audacity.
And apparently some dude was so into it that his only remaining memory after being mind wiped and soul sucked is him playing the porn 🙄. Brother come on! Actually ... don't come.
And don't give me this "the protagonist couldn't view the sex scene because it was covered by fog". The fuck kinda pussying out is that?
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I'm a bit dumb ain't I? Make too many decisions with half-complete information. Just found out my internship is going to be a minimum length one (so I get few credits) unless I happen to find some useful result.
What does this mean? Well it means more pressure. And more work. Not being paid sucks.
new mega up: https://hexbear.net/post/8959449