I’m AMAB, been gender non-conforming for years but have often flip-flopped on whether I’m actually trans or just a cross dresser.
Well in the past few months I have come to the conclusion that I’m bigender. I spent a lot of my younger years thinking I could have been trans, then suspected I could have been genderfluid. However, I don’t think I have a fixed gender identity either way, and I don’t think it fluctuates either. I like to think of my gender expression as almost like being two separate entities, I’m fine with dressing as and being perceived as a man and I’m fine with dressed as and being perceived as a woman.
I recently changed my pronouns on here to use any but this is a formal coming out. I am just another username in the sea of Hexbear but I am probably never going to formally come out in real life, especially living in the United Kracker Kingdom, so at least this might give me even a tiny bit of closure on this issue.
rattlethatlock42 [she/her, comrade/them] - 3mon
Congrats!
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moss_icon [any, comrade/them] - 3mon
Thanks!
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JustSo [she/her, any] - 3mon
Congratulations.
I am just another username in the sea of Hexbear
Perhaps! But you're a recognizable username and I only remember cool people.
You're a whole comrade, not "just a" anything.
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moss_icon [any, comrade/them] - 3mon
Thanks for the kind words :)
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JustSo [she/her, any] - 3mon
I did a whole lot of transitioning and it later turns out I too am bigender or.. I don't know agender perhaps. Post gender maybe. (I don't really dwell on it much, seems to be an "other peoples problem" from my perspective. I don't need a label for this particular thing for me.)
I'm really happy for you that you're figuring yourself out. I hope it feels liberatory. Non-binary "being" has probably been the most relief I've ever felt from myself.
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 3mon
congrats! i was exactly where you were in your younger years for a really long time. also don't think i'll be formally coming out anytime soon except for people close to me (which i already have)
it took me some time to realize i was more trans-butch (dirt and greasy machine side), which was confusing enough on it's own, but i do have more femme moments and moods (nerdy goth girl inside me). and who knows what would happen if i started HRT.
my partner, however, is pretty closely aligned with you but instead starting as AFAB. they even have separate names for both genders as well as the andro one!
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moss_icon [any, comrade/them] - 3mon
I have actually done the same thing re: the last paragraph lol.
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Sneakytrickyyy [any, undecided] - 3mon
Bit late but congratulations!
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moss_icon [any, comrade/them] - 3mon
Thanks :)
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SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them] - 3mon
Shame you can't come out in your public life but I totally get why though. Happy for you regardless.
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Coming out
I’m AMAB, been gender non-conforming for years but have often flip-flopped on whether I’m actually trans or just a cross dresser.
Well in the past few months I have come to the conclusion that I’m bigender. I spent a lot of my younger years thinking I could have been trans, then suspected I could have been genderfluid. However, I don’t think I have a fixed gender identity either way, and I don’t think it fluctuates either. I like to think of my gender expression as almost like being two separate entities, I’m fine with dressing as and being perceived as a man and I’m fine with dressed as and being perceived as a woman.
I recently changed my pronouns on here to use any but this is a formal coming out. I am just another username in the sea of Hexbear but I am probably never going to formally come out in real life, especially living in the United Kracker Kingdom, so at least this might give me even a tiny bit of closure on this issue.
Congrats!
Thanks!
Congratulations.
Perhaps! But you're a recognizable username and I only remember cool people.
You're a whole comrade, not "just a" anything.
Thanks for the kind words :)
I did a whole lot of transitioning and it later turns out I too am bigender or.. I don't know agender perhaps. Post gender maybe. (I don't really dwell on it much, seems to be an "other peoples problem" from my perspective. I don't need a label for this particular thing for me.)
I'm really happy for you that you're figuring yourself out. I hope it feels liberatory. Non-binary "being" has probably been the most relief I've ever felt from myself.
congrats! i was exactly where you were in your younger years for a really long time. also don't think i'll be formally coming out anytime soon except for people close to me (which i already have)
it took me some time to realize i was more trans-butch (dirt and greasy machine side), which was confusing enough on it's own, but i do have more femme moments and moods (nerdy goth girl inside me). and who knows what would happen if i started HRT.
my partner, however, is pretty closely aligned with you but instead starting as AFAB. they even have separate names for both genders as well as the andro one!
I have actually done the same thing re: the last paragraph lol.
Bit late but congratulations!
Thanks :)
Shame you can't come out in your public life but I totally get why though. Happy for you regardless.
Thanks :)
Bigender sibling? Yippie