[0/100] Bus tickets back home for some struggling friends
Reposting from last night because we haven't gotten anything yet
Some days I'm really happy to be a sober living house manager. Today is one of those days. One of my housemates told me that they have some friends in dire circumstances and I was able to be a great help tonight.
My housemate's friend (We'll call him Jesse for the sake of this story) relapsed on fentanyl this morning after 9 months of sobriety. Kicked out of his sober living house with nowhere to go, Jesse calls one of my housemates to ask about sleeping in his car. Having someone that tests dirty on the property is a huge violation of the rules, but I'm not going to let them sleep on the street when we have a solution so I tell my housemate to go pick them up. Jesse brings his girlfriend with him to help hold himself accountable. I offered them our couch for the night, but they refused because of how guilty he feels relapsing and being around a sober living house. Problem is this is a sober living under the same non-profit as the house Jesse got kicked out of. So him and his girlfriend have very temporary residence at our house, if they get caught here we're all going homeless.
I fed them, gave them the passcode to our door so they can use the bathroom, and I'm staying up for the night with some Narcan in my pocket in case they're lying about not using right now. I do believe that he's sobering up and she's not using, he seemed a bit dazed but not high when we were talking. His girlfriend seems completely sober, maybe even still withdrawaling from what she's said to me. They're coming to a meeting with me tomorrow (today now, we're just about to start the meeting) so that they can get some of their emotions in order. Right now their plan is to move in with family across the state. My housemate with the car can't drive them because his car isn't dependable enough to go across the state and back, so we're looking at Greyhound tickets right now. For both of them, it'd be $150. I still have some leftover money from donating plasma today that I plan on pitching in here.
They want the money sent to me so I can just buy the tickets for them. His girlfriend is only a couple of weeks clean, and he just used this morning (yesterday morning now) so they both feel like having money would be a trigger for them at the moment. They're going back to be with family and will be more stable in the place they're going, so I think it'll be good for their continued recovery to be back home.
Update from yesterday: They got to shower today, they're getting a meeting in. Now that I've spent enough time with them, it's obvious to me that they're clean so I've been less worried about having to narcan them. But they have nowhere to go tonight. The weather isn't too cold today, and they've been homeless before so they're not super worried about it. I'm gonna go donate more plasma tomorrow so that I can pitch in more on the bus ticket, but I'll still need at least an extra $30 to cover the tickets. I'm gonna see if we're in the clear to let them stay in my housemate's car again, depends on if my boss from the sober living is coming by.
I really appreciate any help y'all can do, I really don't want these people living on the streets, I don't think it'll be good for their sobriety or mental health.
My cash app is $thenewcashtag Venmo is @thenewvenven pm me for PayPal
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[0/100] Bus tickets back home for some struggling friends
Reposting from last night because we haven't gotten anything yet
Some days I'm really happy to be a sober living house manager. Today is one of those days. One of my housemates told me that they have some friends in dire circumstances and I was able to be a great help tonight.
My housemate's friend (We'll call him Jesse for the sake of this story) relapsed on fentanyl this morning after 9 months of sobriety. Kicked out of his sober living house with nowhere to go, Jesse calls one of my housemates to ask about sleeping in his car. Having someone that tests dirty on the property is a huge violation of the rules, but I'm not going to let them sleep on the street when we have a solution so I tell my housemate to go pick them up. Jesse brings his girlfriend with him to help hold himself accountable. I offered them our couch for the night, but they refused because of how guilty he feels relapsing and being around a sober living house. Problem is this is a sober living under the same non-profit as the house Jesse got kicked out of. So him and his girlfriend have very temporary residence at our house, if they get caught here we're all going homeless.
I fed them, gave them the passcode to our door so they can use the bathroom, and I'm staying up for the night with some Narcan in my pocket in case they're lying about not using right now. I do believe that he's sobering up and she's not using, he seemed a bit dazed but not high when we were talking. His girlfriend seems completely sober, maybe even still withdrawaling from what she's said to me. They're coming to a meeting with me tomorrow (today now, we're just about to start the meeting) so that they can get some of their emotions in order. Right now their plan is to move in with family across the state. My housemate with the car can't drive them because his car isn't dependable enough to go across the state and back, so we're looking at Greyhound tickets right now. For both of them, it'd be $150. I still have some leftover money from donating plasma today that I plan on pitching in here.
They want the money sent to me so I can just buy the tickets for them. His girlfriend is only a couple of weeks clean, and he just used this morning (yesterday morning now) so they both feel like having money would be a trigger for them at the moment. They're going back to be with family and will be more stable in the place they're going, so I think it'll be good for their continued recovery to be back home.
Update from yesterday: They got to shower today, they're getting a meeting in. Now that I've spent enough time with them, it's obvious to me that they're clean so I've been less worried about having to narcan them. But they have nowhere to go tonight. The weather isn't too cold today, and they've been homeless before so they're not super worried about it. I'm gonna go donate more plasma tomorrow so that I can pitch in more on the bus ticket, but I'll still need at least an extra $30 to cover the tickets. I'm gonna see if we're in the clear to let them stay in my housemate's car again, depends on if my boss from the sober living is coming by.
I really appreciate any help y'all can do, I really don't want these people living on the streets, I don't think it'll be good for their sobriety or mental health.
My cash app is $thenewcashtag Venmo is @thenewvenven pm me for PayPal
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