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COMMS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT - Trans Megathread from September 29th, 2025 to October 5th, 2025

The topic for this megathread is...

COMMS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT. (pic unrelated)

Basically, I wanted to highlight comms I think could use more activity.

Here's a list of comms I want to highlight, and why we should be using these more:

THIS ONE - Not enough posting outside of the megathreads in my opinion. We need to get those numbers up and there's plenty of trans news (including positive stuff) to post.
/c/howdy - Ok, shameless plug here. I don't expect this to receive regular posts given it's for introductions, but I do at least wanna make people aware of it. Also you don't have to be new to post. If you wanna share some important life update, like coming out, etc. then you totally should.
/c/fashion - I don't know why we aren't using this more. I think makeup guides/tips for transfems would go well here too and that's something I'd love to see more of.
/c/acab - Fuck the police. We need to be shitting on them more. Srsly.
/c/hobbies - This is another I'd love to see get more activity and I really should post more stuff here myself. Also a good place to post about Warhammer painting, gunpla, RC cars, Nerf blasters, etc. I do have some cool stuff to post about here, so stay tuned.
/c/creepy - Ok, this is a BIG one for me. I've been posting more here with spoopy season coming up. A great place to talk about anything horror, dark fantasy, etc. Please join me in posting more creepy stuff.
/c/fitness - I've been looking for good transfem home exercise routines and I'd love to chat about it with others. I plan on posting about it here in the near future. Could be good for all kinds of gender-affirming fitness advice.
/c/ttrpg - I really wish I had more time to do this sort of thing and maybe in the near future when my work/life balance is better. There was this very awesome recent post that you all should check out if you're interested: https://hexbear.net/post/6261929?scrollToComments=false
/c/diy - I'd especially love to see more diy hrt recipes and stuff. I get that diy projects aren't easy to do and post about for a lot of us (me included) but just wanted to remind people this exists.
/c/wrestling - I think we should use this for spamming Macho Man Randy Savage memes, and I have plans to do that at some point in the future. HULKAMANIA IS DEAD. MACHO MADNESS IS FOREVER.
/c/trans_synths - I don't make music, but I do love listening to it. Would be neat to see this more active.
/c/selfimprovement - From @moonlake@hexbear.net: "Speaking of comms you should know about, please check out the self-improvement comm if you haven't yet. I'm posting the weekly mega every Sunday evening Moscow Time. It's chill and the definition of improvement is very loose so you can post about anything. If your idea of improvement is modding Fallout New Vegas, you can write about that "

Are there any comms you think should be used more, or any great ideas for new ones that you'd like to discuss? Please sound off in the comments below!

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rtstragedy2 [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2mon

::: spoiler my dad (positive), medical stuff (postivie but scary) my dad apparently got told recently that despite supposedly having a heart attack a few years ago, his heart is fully functional. I'm relieved, he is a treasure, despite all his flaws.

Him and I talked a bit this morning and he says since their dog had puppies mom's been a lot more physically active too, up and down stairs with little effort, doing all the weeding in the garden. He says he can do high intensity runs now and it's going well, he keeps a close eye on his heart rate tho.

He also mentioned... That he wants to cut out animal products basically entirely from his diet because his triglycerides are high. I'll take it as a win tbh. We're gonna visit next month and teach them tons of vegan recipes, make seitan and "chicken" (vegan) soup, tofu tacos, and well I have to figure out a bunch more. :::

Believe it or not, I spent a year building houses when I was young. My bf wants to build raised garden beds as the old garden is rotting and falling apart, so I'm excited to put my skills cutting wood to work again. We talked about kits but like, it's just some wood screwed together... Couldn't be simpler. We are planning to skip plastic lining and treated wood just to keep the complexity down, which means they won't last long, but I figure we can just call the setup temporary because we'll likely want to change it up in a few years anyway.

Also also I finally found the site I have been looking for that has reasoned arguments against generative AI, proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that this whole shit is a bubble and gives me ammunition to fight back against it at work etc. I think the link was posted here yesterday. I read it all. Finally the world is making sense again. I am so sick of hearing about this shit in tech spaces, at work, etc. https://www.wheresyoured.at/the-case-against-generative-ai/ (cw: lots of numbers)

gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 2mon

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

* after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

sodium_nitride [she/her, any] - 2mon

Oh shit I'm next

BountifulEggnog [she/her] - 2mon

That was deadass not very hard

party-cat

Also needles are super sharp I barely even meant for it to go in and it just slid right in on its own. Didn't feel anything until I drew it out.

Feel really good about that.

lilypad [it/its, pup/pup's] - 2mon

Omigosh yayyyy! So proud and happy for youuu!

XiaCobolt [she/her] - 2mon

Yes! So happy for you! The 3rd of October? A day that will live in infamy.

ty! I know! Very good hrtversery.

imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 2mon

incredibly proud of you

Thank you cat-trans

meler [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2mon

OMG CONGRATS!!! you should be so proud of yourself this is big

SickSemper [she/her, they/them] - 2mon

Congrats!!!!!!

It's a big step! Congratulations 🎊

TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 2mon

Month of Halloween HRTversary! Very auspicious~

Very :) October has long been a favorite month for me

Arahnya [he/him, fae/faer] - 2mon

Congratulations! Excited for you making it to this milestone 🩵🤍🩷

0x2640 - 2mon

awawa good jobbv!!!!!!! sososososo pwouds of u aaaa

MusicOwl [comrade/them, sie/hir] - 2mon

congratulations

I really hate when a historic person lived their entire life in the opposite sex to what was assigned at birth, insisted to the day they died they were a man or woman, even in some cases killed people over it etc, yet an armchair historian will say “there wasn’t a concept of being trans so you can’t call them that”

EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 2mon

making sure I am as 100% cis passing as possible to avoid getting dirty looks from everyone before going to the store and buying a pumpkin this fall

kristina [she/her] - 2mon

side-eye-1 what is she going to do to the pumpkin

I spend too much time on the internet

Pumpkin pie?

yes! and nothing else!!!

No toasted pumpkin seeds?

I haven't yet but I have saved the seeds and will roast them later

toriel-glare

oh gods i'm getting clocked by the big goat lady in aisle 4

grym [she/her, comrade/them] - 2mon

I have no idea what this means, #blessed

Butch lesbian cashier at the liquor store said I had "a lovely name" and was probably flirting. Aww yeah.

Then being ma'amed by the sushi guy. Aww yeah.

Soon I will be turning 120, what should I do for my birthday

shallot [she/her] - 2mon

Eat some koprovka!!

celebrate your 12th birthday 10 times.

Me explaining later that the gorgeous barista with striking features, who was at least 4 inches taller than me in her flat converse shoes, who initially looked alarmed when she saw me then relaxed and was friendly when she realised I wouldn't break her stealth was a trans woman. For all the above reasons and more.

My father: shocked-pikachu

I've heard stories of trans people doing that to other trans people and I do not get how they think that's acceptable. Publicly clocking someone is obviously rude as fuck

Intentionally outing someone is obviously bad, but I think sometimes the fear can arise too because we're often an unsubtle (frequently neurodivergent bunch) who might accidentally say something.

That and seeing a clocky trans woman next to a stealth one can draw comparison and make them feel more perceived because people around them often don't have object permanence to trans people.

DerEwigeAtheist [she/her, comrade/them] - 2mon

I kind of had that dilemma before, where I was somewhere and saw trabs people and wanted to connect(cause it's important to know your local people) but didn't think of a elegant way to approach, that wasn't "Hey I clocked you and am also trans, wanna talk?" Which I thought wasn't a good approach. Well next time. Maybe I'll get some flyers for local queer orgs, so I can use those as conversation starters.

WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 2mon

The only time I've seen someone publicly who I assumed was trans was when they asked me for directions basically. Seemed like a pretty natural reason to approach me, but also typically makes for an extremely brief interaction.

There's definitely a brief deer in the headlights look a boymoding or stealth trans woman gets from seeing another trans woman that goes away as soon as they realise they're safe.

machiabelly [she/her] - 2mon

Wrote a silly little poem in class today

I think penises are sexy, When Women Wear them

When foreskin is softer than forearms

When warm wetness overflows, before even a touch

When cum is clear and fleeting, like the morning dew

When pleasure refracts across the night

Even tho i want mine gone this makes me feel super fucking validated in only being attracted to women while lacking genital preference. This poem makes my little lesbian heart happy.

cat-trans

genis /silly

I want to actually start hrt today but I'm really scared/nervous.

::: spoiler spoiler I hate this. I hate that I have to transition at all. I wish I was just born a cis woman.

This whole situation is just horrible. :::

Hestia [she/her, fae/faer] - 2mon

You’ll feel better once it starts kicking in, take that step. I believe in you. cuddle

Do it! I don’t have any yet but I can’t wait. Better to transition than to stay stuck in the cis man in between

Carcharodonna [she/her] - 2mon

Just speaking for myself, HRT was a big deal. Of course it takes awhile for noticeable physical effects, but my mood improved noticeably after maybe a month on it. My skin also started showing a glow that didn’t exist before. I wish just injecting it once was like a Sailor Moon transformation and I’m suddenly the pretty guardian who fights for love and justice, but it’s still worth it imo to start as soon as possible and it won’t be too long hopefully before you start to notice small positive changes. Also just a warning, you’ll have some boob pain but my boob pain felt gender affirming so it wasn’t so bad.

HRT is great, and transitioning is a very fullfilling process. I wish I could hug you. It'll all be well. Soon you'll look back and it will have been a year on E and you won't remember how you felt before. meow-hug

Another transphobe has fallen victim to my karmic shield of retribution. Everyone who wrongs me becomes the architect of their own demise.

yes-hahaha-yes-l

sicko-fem

Kuori [she/her] - 2mon

::: spoiler surgery wild to think that if nothing goes wrong i'll be getting bottom surgery in less than a month. :::

After dragging my girlfriend to the thrift store 2 times she has developed its own interest into her wardrobe. Very happy about that.

Thrift stores are amazing for trans people, cause A. The clothes are cheap, and B. it is easier to find out your preferred style there, cause they have much bigger variety than normal clothing stores, and C. no attendants.

SwitchyandWitchy [she/her] - 2mon

I find it difficult to shop at them due to my size. Not as difficult as shopping at regular clothing stores, for the reasons you mentioned, but if anybody is reading this and frustrated with not finding things that fit their body at the thrift store, specialty stores can be saviors. The curse of being an Amazon I suppose.

I can find some clothes that are good for my height but its rare at thrift shops or just regular stores. And a lot of it is grandma too loose style clothes, which at least can be taken in I suppose. I do have an easier time by dresses! Just accept that if theyre ankle length they usually hit mid calf or knee for me

crush

The black and sexy nightgown I purchased a while back has a chest compartment too small to accommodate me. It's all according to plan.

::: spoiler injection

Shootin e into my thigh
Yeah you know ill never die
Baby i just cant live a lie
Watch me take girljuice and fly

Bloody but painless today, and im feelin great

puppy juice

WRUFF! ^I^ ^need^ ^some^ ^ears...^

awwwwrrfff!!!! yea :3

and a tail!

Oooh but idk what kind of taillll doggirl-sweat

My domme side is coming back, goddess help you all.

SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 2mon

bottom-speak Yes, mistress

headpat

catgirl-happy

I love being a dom. It's so fun.

It definitely is when this side of me is active but being a sub is really comforting most of the time.

I find being a sub actually pretty stressful to me. I think I need control to feel comfortable(which is not that great of a thing). All the girls I know are bottoms though, and don't like being top.

Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 2mon

Yesterday I got compliments on my nails and two different women held the door for me. I'm taking this as proof that I'm attractive otherwise they would have physically barred the doors closed think-about-it

I spent the weekend working overtime with an older male coworker and at one point, a female coworker said she saw the back of my hair and thought I was a pretty girl meow-melt

I smiled so widely it made the male coworker raise his eyes, yeah man, I know we were broing out for a while but i contain multitudes. Also I think my voice went up an octave upon hearing that. Straight up brightened my whole ~~day~~ week

GenderIsOpSec [she/her, kit/kit's] - 2mon

so this cute subby girlie im chatting with just dropped this song on me and uh....well i mean i knew i was a switch but doesnt hurt to have it reaffirmed i guess crush

hyperflush sent shivers down my spine

HexReplyBot [none/use name] - 2mon

I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:

I am cough cough cough a dis-cough a dise cough cough A DISEASED LITTLE GIRL can't cough cough, cough cough cough a big strong man wrap me in cough cough his arms and make me go to sleep?

Fun fact, I coughed more times while typing the comment than the number of written coughs in the comment.

wonder if there used to be a time where our memory actually worked

in relates news trauma causes brain damage :3

I used to have a great memory but its cooked af now. Someone asked me to summarize a job listing I read like two weeks ago for my promotion at work and I had no clue. Asked about a bunch of other experiences, couldn't remember a damn one. Hopefully it comes back or something.

Wait really? I didnt know trauma could do that. My memory is certainly shit tho^theres^ ^whole^ ^years^ ^that^ ^are^ ^missing^...

Sometimes I have patients who ask me about traumatic amnesia and generally I tell them "if your brain forgot its probably for the best." They have it from like car crashes and stuff but even for some of the abused kids I used to have, same thing.

Like any good trans person I spent a lot of my pre egg crack and first puberty dissassociating and I imagine that might be why some other people have some patchy memory stuff if they didnt have any intense traditional trauma. You spend so much time practicing not remembering and not paying attention... those grooves get worn in. Hard pattern to change up.

You spend so much time practicing not remembering and not paying attention... those grooves get worn in. Hard pattern to change up.

I mean, that tracks... Spent so much of my youth trying to forget my existence. Its just kinda disconcerting when theres like 2.5 years where theres basically nothing, not even patchy shit.

hahhaa only whole years? lucky /silly

meow-hug

Hate the feeling of wanting to talk to someone about this but not really knowing what to say or start the conversation with. The person I came out to at work recently is very supportive and idk I'd like to talk with her more but I do not know how :cheems:

estradoll life update

i ate way too many fucking pancakes yesterday

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uloT8V6Skgk

where the fuck did you get this video of me and why are you doxxing me with it

::: spoiler us politics guys i haven't been paying attention. what's happening with a government shutdown now and what does this have to do with trans healthcare? :::

::: spoiler spoiler Context

Basically the government is shutting down bc republicans want to put a bunch of anti trans shit in the budget bill. :::

::: spoiler spoiler Trump fired the one Doll whose job it was to hit the fund government button every 24hrs. It’s archaic but it’s what the founding fathers set up. :::

::: spoiler spoiler CW NSFW Alexander Hamilton designing the treasury: Then a most comely maiden strikes the button. Thoughts gentlemen?

Benjamin Franklin: what if the comely maiden had a most splendid phallus?

Alexander Hamilton: hmm...an excellent suggestion :::

Lmao Ben definitely encountered a few trans harlots on his French escapades

Ben “The MILF Hunter/Chaser/Academic Flatulist” Franklin

Rewatched Tokoyo Godfathers and I'm 😭 love this movie so much. Haven't cried to something so good in a while highly recommend. It's very much a christmas movie but fuck it watch it now if you can.

Oh shit just learned Kate Bornstein does a voice for the english dub. Also learned there is an english dub. I really liked Gender Outlaw so I'm curious now on finding it.

::: spoiler cw:transphobia The only people that know that I am trans refuse to respect it.

I haven't put down harsh boundaries thus causing this issue. In fact, one of these people even talked back to me by saying "you don't have the balls to tell your parents" and shut me up for good.

Yeah, I don't have even the miniscule level of self-respect to ask people to accommodate my existence.

When I'm constantly called "worthless" and "you should kill yourself", instead of walking away I just agree with the other person and keep talking as if nothing happened.

To some extent, it's not even their fault. How can they take me seriously when I don't take myself seriously?

It goes beyond the point of avoiding confrontation, or being overly sensitive, or being cowardly. I think I just don't care anymore. :::

::: spoiler spoiler

They could also not be assholes. They could take five seconds to consider your existence. Just because telling your parents is difficult doesnt mean this person shouldnt respect you. Theyre being a shit person. Thats not on you, thats on them.

Ive been in those friendships-that-arent-friendships... Its not good. Idk about you but i heavily internalized it, and am still working through it. Its hard. Its so fucking hard. Idk if you want advice but my first steps were getting away from those people. Damage had been done and i repeated the same stuff over and over, getting into the same situations. but leaving the friendships-that-arent-friendships is the crucial first step. Please know, you do matter, youre not worthless, and you do not deserve to be treated like this. We dont think these things about ourselves naturally, we are trained into it, and breaking that training is a whole hell of a lot easier to do if the training isnt actively being applied.

If I really didn't care, I wouldn't be making so many hexbear comments about it.

These people are fucking monsters. It's not about you being a coward. This really is a case where you don't have to find the fault in yourself. There is no justification for abusing someone else abd telling them that they are worthless. meow-hug

Cleaned my room and found these cool spinning pinwheel earrings I got while back, only problem is I still haven't got my ears pierced

It's clearly time

If you were looking for a sign or a reason, there it is.

catgirl-heart I have boobs now. I feel so happy.

yayayay doggirl-happy bewbs

Same! I haven't done any HRT, I just had a naturally big chest as a "man" so it's nice to appreciate rather than hate my chest :)

::: spoiler spoiler Low key not doing good at all today, keep crying, very stressed out about shit. Want to reach out to someone but don't know what to say or how to have conversation anymore.

Also the local group the coworker found ends their stuff right as I'll be getting back home, so I guess that's for next week. And I'll be running late every week bc work. :::

Not much advice go offer, only a virtual hug

meow-shark

I love my trans comrades trans-heart cat-trans

::: spoiler anti-humanness

I would like to stop being a person please. Make me a pet, own me, take care of me, ill give love and attention, can teach me tricks, or fuck just take me to the pound and leave me there until someone adopts me or i get culled for overcapacity. Just let me stop being a person. Let me curl up and be small and sad and cute. Im so done, i have nothing left in me for this human-being bullshit.

Fellow humanity hater. Would you like to join my cult? We have many perks.

doggirl-happy Oooh intrigued, what kinda perks?

Health insurance (dental+eyes included)
Books+Ingredients for studying the Alchemical and Mystical arts. You can use those to gradually replace your human essences and organs, becoming a higher order artificially crafted being.
Blessing from our lord
I can take you on long walks in the woods or in a hiking trail

Godyesplease i havent seen a dentist in years
Im a good learner *wagwagwag* i wanna replace the essences!
Soooo your saying theres divine treats?
Wruff! Walkies! Wryff!

Good good. But first you will need to earn our trust.

Yes, I will throw this ball ...

conjures ball out of comically small women's pants' pockets

Throw it ...

And your test will be that you must NOT chase after it! catgirl-smug

*nervous whining and staring longingly after the ball* puppygirl-whine

You have passed the test and resisted your urges! You will make a fine student. headpat

can iiii join :o

majestically re-appears outta thin air

Indeed you can ... but it would be boring if I gave you the same test as lilypad.

thinks

How about this.

I have this delicious juicy (vegan) sausage and some fresh herb/garlic infused bread that I prepared, which I will leave on this plate.

You must take this drug to stimulate you apetite and wait for a full hour without touching it! If you can temper your desires, I will let you join.

*wagwagwags* can do dat :3 better slather da dwuggies in peanutbutter thoooo

A dating app thing called The Pound would be so fun. Adopt a puppy girl (or cat girl I guess).

Omigosh i dislike dating apps but i would absolutely be all over thatttt!

mood :3

Personhood is overrated

very true, wrrrraaauuuffff doggirl-happy

Join the humanityhater cult, Wryff!

UP WITH TRANS

OpheliaAzure [fae/faer] - 2mon

up with trans

SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them] - 2mon

"Is this a trans woman thing or a woman thing?"

question I have asked myself on a weekly basis for the last year

I'm pretty sure hopping on a horse and taking part in a desperate cavalry charge would fix me ~~assuming I don't die in the process~~

::: spoiler us pol well rip trans healthcare most certaintly, which will inevitably also include any healthcare for trans people, not just gender shit

at least asylum claims get easier by the day? *sighs* :::

::: spoiler spoiler Was trying to think of something else to say since I saw this but yea, we're so fucked. Going into a shut down bc republicans want to strip us of everything. Fuck me. Also the way they're wording it is peak propaganda. We are genuinely fucked. :::

HexaSnoot [none/use name] - 2mon

I want to look like a hot guy and a hot girl. How do I achieve this?

Look up girl twinks

Ended up not feeling like doing anything and just shopped for server shit all night and now it's late and I'm tired and don't feel like doing it.

Tbh with how bad I am at doing any kind of upkeep I do worry about being consistent with my dosing. Anyway at least tomorrow I have absolutely nothing on the schedule so hopefully I can actually do it then. Fuck me

Once a week~

I struggle to do weekly tasks. Sometimes they get pushed off for a month or more.

Pick your injection day! Friday is my injection day too. Ill ask you.

Thank you. I need to figure out my dose (not sure how many mg/week it works out to for enanthate) and re watch how to do subq- but I should be able to get it done today. A reminder/accountability would be really nice ty.

Just got a hair trim and I absolutely love it. This was my 2nd time going to this awesome gay Brazilian hairdresser after he did an amazing job on the 1st one. I felt so great afterwards I went and bought some fancy CBD drinks and vegetarian sushi to treat myself.

cis people: hrt is bad and awful for u and child abuse!!

meanwhile cis people:

Oh yeah, no one bats an eye at gender affirming surgery for babies and kids. Even if its not affirming (cause the kid doesnt have any input) like "fixing" ambiguous genitals for neonatal babies. Breast implants for 16 year old, fixing pectus excavatum, top surgery for men and boys with gynecomastia, number one users of laser hair removal are cis women that want the hair off their faces just like some trans women.

I saw a story recently of a 14 year old who died getting a BA

Being bi is a blessing. I can fantasise about being railed AND railing! It is like this meme.

Believe it or not, a girl can rail you and a boy can be railed!

I never specified who was doing the railing and who was getting railed catgirl-smug

I, too, frequently fantasize about "being railed": ::: spoiler (cw: pornography) panting :::

Ooof

Even though I was expecting it, that's quite hot. Specifically from the air resistance forces.

I've wished I was bi for a while now tbh

hexbear-bi-2 lmao imagine not thinking everyone is hot. couldn't be me

::: spoiler testicles Got a referral for orchidectomy, but weirdly the thing that's got me frozen is that story bout CRISPR being used to make testicles switch to making estrogen.

Like we're not getting that soon (or ever in this current climate). But kind of funny that's what's stalling me. That I might one day turn these bastards into pseudo ovaries. :::

::: spoiler spoiler That would fucking rule, especially if you could fine tune how much estrogen they make. :::

::: spoiler spoiler I did more reading today and it seems like it's probably like a couple decades away. So I can probably just get fixed.

My understanding is that they've flipped testicles into pseudo ovaries and ovaries into pseudo testicles in mice and they basically produce the normal required amounts of hormone no HRT required.

Like fuck you realise you're trans, you get the one off vaccine that flips your gonads. Wild. :::

The future is trans as hell and love the scientists inventing new ways to make transphobes bridget-pride-stay-mad

I'll tell you a secret trick.

If you head out at 9:30 PM for dinner you can get some pretty delicious and filling foods at the grocery store (2 pancakes and a beer).

CDommunist [she/her, love/loves] - 2mon

Give me curry

now.

I had curry twice today blob-no-thoughts

Moss [they/them] - 2mon

I wish bbno$ was a bad person because his music is genuinely awful. But nooooo he just has to be supportive of trans people so I can't even call him a bad person. He's just a somewhat progressive guy who makes the worst music I've ever fucking heard

A nice flip on the classic “worst person you know makes banger tune”

Bolshechick [she/her, kit/kit's] - 2mon

His music is kinda good tho tbh

RandallThymes [undecided, comrade/them] - 2mon

A lot of certified bangers as long as I don’t pay attention to any of the lyrics

Media may have you believe that a terrible childhood creates supervillains. But in reality, it causes you to become the kind of person who let's others walk all over them.

You can tell the difference in childhood between me and my German friend because he says "no" while I make up excuses.

I lie to get out of situations where telling the truth would be easier. It's kinda sad and pathetic.

I gotta add on shit about my fucking hair cause I'm still fucking salty.

How the hell can I let other people force me to cut my hair? I felt really nice about having longer hair and I still let it be cut. All cause my parents pestered me about it. I kept telling them "no" and they didn't litsen. However, it's not like they were holding me at gunpoint!!! I could have just continued ignoring them, but I gave in after a while.

Afterwards when my mom could clearly noticed I was feeling sad about it, she has the audacity to ask me if I really wanted to keep my hair. I tell her nothing, instead I complain to other people about it.

This is a teaser for how things will be like when I tell my parents about my transition.

How the hell can I let other people force me to cut my hair?

People pester about things because it works, at least some times with some people. Don't be hard on yourself.

Well, now you have a good example of how much it bothers you when you allow your parents pester you into decisions you dislike. I hope you can be more firm with other transition things in future.

That's them forcing their beauty standards on you. You have your own beauty standards, as long as they're healthy it can be better to listen to those.

I just asked a question about how to train an off leash dog. One person responded:

In general, just be consistent, direct and stern. Don't let them develop bad habits and ignore your instructions. Patience is key. Dogs can be stubborn, so you gotta be more stubborn.

Not saying people are dogs, just that holding boundaries is important, and even an easily distracted baby animal that doesn't speak English can be shown you won't be changing your mind and that there are boundaries you won't have crossed. That said, I've allowed people and dogs to drag me around based on what they wanted so I relate.

My dad wanted me to cut my hair. I would say no, but eventually Id end up in a barber seat and the hair cutting person listens to the parent and not the crying kid. When I was an older teen I cut it like once every 6 months or so, just so it wouldnt be so much in my eyes. Id get called he-she, and much worse that our slur filter keeps out. When I was an adult Id keep it shorter until I just let it grow and grow - eventually realizing I was only cutting it because of the image of my dad and his voice in my head. I cracked my egg like 2 years after that lmao

This feels extremely familiar and it's why I've had reservations despite having outwardly liberal parents

It depends. Trauma and abuse doesnt make everyone stronger or more compassionate, nor does it make everyone a worse version of themselves, sometimes it just leaves you empty and sometimes you wouldn't even know if they didnt tell you. Ive had friends who had what we could call a regular childhood and they still have a fawn response (over fight or flight or freeze) in response to conflict or danger. I would look into what makes you fawn on confrontation or danger. It is a legitimate response and it probably worked very well for protecting yourself for a long time, but it likely has outstripped that usefulness and it sounds like youre ready to have sharper boundaries.

I know exactly why I have a fawn response. My family genuinely doesn't believe that "no" means anything. I recieved very high quality physical and emotional conditioning towards being a servile dog.

Im assuming youre now in a place where you dont have your "no" stripped away. Practice little things and little "no" - my people have the strawberry time. When a girl has menarche, an older auntie takes her and shows her a split open strawberry. Talks about the organs and whatever and menstruation. And then for a year, the girl is supposed to say no every time shes offered strawberries

Is "the strawberry time" specifically about teaching what consent and refusing to consent is?

I think it was meant to be part of it! Getting younger people used to saying no to people including older people or people with authority.

::: spoiler dysphoria

Been aggressively tucked yesterday, and all night, and fuck it im keeping it going today i dont care i know its bad i dont fucking care i refuse to let this shit hang out i just want it gone gone gone gone.

DOWN WITH CIS

down with cis

Dessa [she/her] - 2mon

NEUTRAL WITH QUESTIONING?

UP WITH QUESTIONING

DOWN WITH CISHETERONORMATIVITY

TRANS THE PLANET

gayroller-2000

UP WITH QUESTIONING!

iridaniotter [she/her] - 2mon

How do I learn to dream?

I stopped drinking. I know if I stopped smoking weed I would dream more, but not quite there yet

I tend to unplug and read or look at the world around me with wonder. That's been big in helping when I go to sleep around me

My dream recall has been good for a while so I'm not sure how helpful I can/will be with this but I find thinking about dreams and dreaming as I'm falling asleep to be helpful, along with writing or somehow logging everything I remember down when I wake up. Its all about remembering what happened, you are already dreaming but just forgetting too quickly. This kinda fucks with your sleep cycle but waking yourself up mid dream helps a lot with recall. You have to be lucid dreaming for that to work. Or alarms and stuff. Its all about remembering.

Also as Semper says, stop drinking and smoking weed if you do. Probably other things that suppress dreaming as well.

I got to do a nametag with pronouns/ greeting situation, I felt very gay :3 but the highlight is when the older people are like wooaahh you can do that omggg so cooool I love (theme of my name) and I get to be like yes I love (theme) too that's why I chose my name 😊

Other people: So I came out to X and Y and they were supportive

Me AF: has no one to even come out to (except parents)

It is both a blessing and curse.

Sigma

RION [she/her] - 2mon

Love to oscillate between thinking I'm god's perfect creature and writing myself off as a neanderthal on a daily basis

Neanderthals were kind rad tho, right?

Maybe but idk if they were lookers ya know

They were probably pretty attractive to other neanderthals. Just imagine if this hot paleolithic himbo were to approach you after fighting off a pack of dire wolves with his bare hands:

"Hey my girlfriend saw you from across the cave and we really dig your vibe..."

Our DNA seems to indicate that they may have been attractive to more than just each other catgirl-smug

Chat should should I get it together or should I keep in watching Family Guy?

Definitely not me dipping sausages in hummos for dinner side-eye-1 side-eye-2

We're reaching levels of girl dinner previously thought to be impossible

I was at a con recently, I bought some stuff

The stuff I was drawn to was actually a little amateur. Like it reminded me of the girls I would draw in middle school, hands behind back (cause hands are hard) big eyes. And not technically good but the heart is there. I was mainly drawn to it cause there's 0% chance its AI generated. The con was apparently cracking down hard and had 0 tolerance towards AI art but still

It did make me think, if you worked very hard, studied diligently, improved your craft for like 10 years - your art could just look AI generated cause its like too good and just in that standard AI art style. But it takes so much work and effort on a piece to get it to look like that! Sucks.

I'm in Japan and I'm basically the only person wearing bright colors and shorts (also very visibly trans with my tits) and no one gives a shit. Went to a queer bar all femmed out and had a great time, though I was going on 24 hours of no sleep. And damn, people are very straight looking here, even the queers.

Yesterday I was doing really poorly and didn't have the energy to pretend to be fine. A guy at work came up to me a couple times to check in. He followed up today too, very sweet. I want to limit who all I'm telling at work though bc I do not want it getting out which kinda made me sad. Not feeling like I can open up sucks.

got what I needed for my injection too.

Congrats!

Its your ~~birthday~~biHRTday!

I still need to actually do it doggirl-gloom I'll update you when I actually do..

I believe in you eggnog! Imo injections are way scarier in thought than in actuality, youve got this ^^

also also

day something of "see software project that might be good to use for work" and then "oh. It's written in Rust..??." I gotta stop being surprised by this to be honest, but the way certain tech spaces talk, Rust is a pointless language and you should just use (roll d20). It's the best language I've ever learned imo and I enjoy writing it and it's neat to see more and more projects picking it up in tons of domains. Today's was a postgres extension for loading parquet files.
I finally got a weapon swing animation working in my game project. Wow. I needed to make diagrams to get the damn thing in my head, it took me like a month to really get my head around the problem, but I built a basic state machine on top of Bevy's existing animation system and IT WORKS maybe I'll post a video sometime. Next challenges will likely be pathfinding, more state machines (but for enemy behaviours), and um I guess actually making it fun?

::: spoiler mental health joke

Believe it or not, despite being trans, having a bad-to-mediocre memory, and feeling increasingly distant from who I used to be so as to not be able to recognize my past selves as my self, my childhood was actually incredibly normal.

:::

feeling increasingly distant from who I used to be so as to not be able to recognize my past selves as my self

Kinda curious if you feel more connection to who you were as a child compared to after started puberty? For me, memories of childhood have gotten fuzzier with time, but like, they don't feel like they're someone else's memories or just a fictional story like later ones often do.

I'm not sure about when or how quickly childhood memories deteriorated but I do recall as a young teen when I became aware I was trans I did 100% feel there was continuity between childhood and adolescence even though the dysphoria was pretty sudden (or... actually, I recall saying this but I probably meant it?). While now I honestly can't fathom that kid was me. I feel kind of disconnected from my entire life history at this point but I think the different gender identities just make it even harder to feel any semblance. So I also have an especially hard time squaring myself identifying as nonbinary and even masculine again during my early 20s. And a year ago a differing gender identity turned out to be a plural thing, so now I try to seriously think about this stuff, start considering maybe I actually do have a dissociative disorder, maybe I actually am like the sixth or whatever person here, and conclude I don't want to think about it anymore. Then recently I do a yearly family visit and feel like a doppelganger half the time and now I'm thinking about it all again. It's terrible!!

BeanisBrain [he/him, they/them] - 2mon

My brain keeps parsing the thumbnail of the post's image as a big upside down tarantula

::: spoiler cw:sui No wall of depressing text this time. Just that filling out a health insurance form for paying the "I need professional help for suicidal thoughts" invoice is a really strange experience. :::

There's two bodies modifications I want to make. A tattoo and orchiectomy. I figure a tattoo is less permanent and more affordable in the grand scheme of things.
I'm thinking maybe the strength card from the Smith-Waite tarot.

It's the first card I ever drew and it's pretty trans

As Rachel Pollack writes

The card of Strength indicates the ability to face life, and particularly some difficult problem or time of change, with hope and eagerness. It shows a person strong from within, experiencing life passionately yet peacefully, without being controlled or carried away by those passions. The card represents the finding of the strength to begin or continue some difficult project, despite fear and emotional strain.

Disaster_of_Passion [kit/kit's, she/her] - 2mon

Strength Card is one of the tattoos I want to get too, haha

In the past I have also thought about getting Strength as a tattoo, hehe. I also really loved the "Art" card in the thoth tarot which had this meaning :

The Art represents the art of alchemy, the ability to solve and combine, to turn something plain into something precious.

The Art is the symbol for the right mixture, the perfect balance, standing for harmony, beauty and peace. But the trump can also show that sides that were previously ignored should be lived out and that contrasts should be put together to enrich the inner spectrum with new perspectives.

It was my own personal "you're trans" card 😅

Oh yeah I can see that. I've been thinking of getting a Thoth deck give how different it is.

I've got Smith-Waite, Fyodor Pavlov and Modern Witch. The latter two being RWS homages.

Oh heck yeah I have caffeine energy. Time to go for a brisk walk and listen to metal.

My uni should spend less time/money/effort on changing the vending machines every year and more on fixing the charging outlet situation around campus.

Genuinely embarrassing to have an AI powered fridge dispensing dogshit cold food in the same campus where half the lecture rooms, meeting rooms and open spaces don't have charging outlets/ insufficient number of outlets or the outlets literally don't work.

In the 3 years I've been at this place, I've seen more than 10 different varieties of vending machines come and go. All of them are fucking stupid and useless. Even if you want to gorge yourself on energy drinks and candy, it's all full of BDS products anyway. The healthy food vending machines serve cold and bland food.

The cafeteria serves ok-ish food but it is so pointlessly expensive.

Thank you for including my post! I would love for more trans folks to join the horror rpg one-shots but I know the time can be weird, if anyone is interested please let me know I can be flexible with the start time to accommodate. I love helping folks get into the hobby

You’re welcome!! ☺️ I might still be interested myself tbh and i’ll have to look at the time slots. I still feel bad for falling out of the delta green session awhile back though D: I had to go on a work trip and didn’t have the time to keep up :(

I have broken my curry streak with burger

I forgot what my psychologist told me to do in my previous (and thus far only) meeting with him. I remember I had to contact <PLACEHOLDER> to get a further diagnosis.

We are supposed to meet like once in 3 weeks. Imagine wasting nearly a month just cause I forgor what-the-hell

She's gone

and it's me

because im at the store

buying a banana

Picture the scene. Me, sodium-nitride, a trans girl in stealth mode waiting to be swept off her feet. Her, Samantha Walkers*, the baddie of the university with her luscious hair and cut gothic drip. It, ultrasonic processing image #6, the love rival and villain of the story.

Who shall win my attention? Who shall prevail in this gruesome love triangle? My homework assignment? Or my future girlfriend**?

::: spoiler enter the thunderdome

*made up name

**delusion

This is an interesting but layman article on loneliness

While loneliness can lead to a rich imaginary social life, it can make real-life social encounters less rewarding.

Stop calling out my imaginary friends like that!

A 2022 study (opens a new tab) found that elderly lonely people often have atrophy in parts of the brain including the thalamus, which processes emotions, and the hippocampus, a memory center

Yeah this shit is so me. My memory and emotions feel cooked.

I think I get it. I just had a brief silly roleplay session on this megathread and I feel so much better.

It's like my old days when i was young*

*I'm 22

u mean da health insurance was a lieee??? D:

O_o shit they're onto me

moonlake [he/him] - 2mon

Speaking of comms you should know about, please check out the self-improvement comm if you haven't yet. I'm posting the weekly mega every Sunday evening Moscow Time.

It's chill and the definition of improvement is very loose so you can post about anything. If your idea of improvement is modding Fallout New Vegas, you can write about that brace-cowboy

Thanks for the suggestion! Added!

::: spoiler underwear/tucking/bottom stuff Fuck women's underwear are uncomfortable as shit pre op. Tucking underwear caused a sharp pain down there. They slip out of their spot regardless of what I do. Normal underwear aren't as painful as tucking but still super uncomfortable, nothing went where it needed to and it wasn't flat. And might I add again, super uncomfortable. Tried multiple different days

I've never really been able to wear anything tight, never could wear jeans etc. idk if I can blame autism for that or not.

Wearing a sports bra was comfy though, I need boobs. ::: I don't have alcohol pads to sterilize anything with, and while I don't care about my safety, I don't want to fuck up the vial so I'm planning to steal some from work tomorrow.

Oh, also tomorrow, I have an interview for a supervisor position. I'm nervous, mostly because I haven't interviewed at all in a long time and never for a promotion. But I am realistically the best pick and I was told they actually had fewer people apply then they want to promote so it should be a sure thing.

::: spoiler spoiler I wore feminine underwear during my non binary and gender confirming period. Honestly now that I'm clearly a woman I just wear mens black boxer shorts and a sports bra. It's comfortable I've got got shit to do.

I don't tuck but I wear lots of baggy/flowy dresses. That said a friend suggest thick woollen period underwear instead of tucking. It does a decent job on flattening stuff enough for tighter skirts etc :::

::: spoiler spoiler I do a pretty lazy tuck. Not all the way back, I dont stuff the gemini twins up into my inguinal canals. I do have tucking panties but they mostly make sure everything stays nice and smooth enough for scrubs (which hide NOTHING).

Before tucking panties I found boy shorts were the most comfortable. Which is a type of panties. You can use the smaller ones but I find they lead to panty lines and Id rather not have them anyway, nevermind the uncomfortable situation :::

I don't tuck, since I don't have the tight underwear for it. I just wear stuff where you don't notuce it. Or put something in a pocket. To create folds that hide my bulge. Which works with some pants with deep pockets.

first

been playing vintage story and it makes our adhd brain happy :3

spongebob-i-fucking-love me when i have to knap flint to make a shitty stone tool ferret-poggers

yes :3

Fucking love vintage story aaaAAAAAA

I've got some c/hobbies stuff brewing, hoping to post in the next month or so. Maybe earlier if I can get my shit together.

The library had my middle name as Constable lol

I have no idea how they picked that. WTF

Acab

Assigned cop at bibliotheek

Lord of the mysteries has way more socialist themes than I was previously expecting.

And not in the "this work is slightly left-liberal" sense, but in the "the protagonist of this work is explicitly a socialist and class war/relations are a significant part of the plot/setting" sense.

Well, up until the point I have read, it is still not focused upon much. The subtext permeates the work, but the protagonist spends more time waging a magical war against cultists.

Sometimes I forget that China is actually straight up just socialist so it isn't even unusual for the author of LOTM to be one either.

My goat is an internationalist and socialist. I hope by the end of the series he becomes lenin and overthrows the monarchies.

Meanwhile Frank Lee is reaching for levels of gender equality previously thought impossible.

Chess is fun

Big chess fan myself

We should figure out a way to play!

Do you play on lichess or chess.com? I have accounts on both, DM me your username.

Wtf why do flies keep flying near me I'm not even stinky

::: spoiler dysphoria My body is so fucked and I can't stop thinking about it. It's so fucking wide and masc. I'm fucked. Also voice training. ::: spoiler si Keep thinking about killing myself all the time why can't I just be in the right body. Oh that and self harm. Fuck my shitty ass life. I hate this shit. All I want is to look like and be treated like a woman. But it's fucking ruined. I don't want to keep trying. I want to quit my job and go back to rotting

What is the point of saving up for Healthcare when it's not going to make me happy. That's all I want

Everyone told me I should grieve what I want and will never have but it hasn't gotten better. I still just want to kill myself. I don't think there's any moving past this for me. :::

Did you take your HRT today?

No I don't have any fucking alcohol prep pads. I thought my sharps container was going to come with 100 for some reason but it didn't. And I don't want to contam the vial or anything.

Oh good call

I wash off the vial top every time even if its fresh. You never know who was messing with it before they put the cap on. I guess you could use soap and water?? Better stick to alcohol pads

Care-Comrade

Hang in there, tomorrow will be a good important day~ its your biHRTday tomorrow!

What kind and doese of hrt do you have? If you feel comfortable saying. I ask cause I've met too many girls with what I call "the menopause special" prescribed.

If you have a vodka or other high proof alcohol you could put that on a piece of toilet paper and desinfect with that.

I'm diying, Estradiol Enanthate. Haven't picked a dose yet.

If you have a vodka or other high proof alcohol

god I wish.

::: spoiler cw:injections Why are these 29G needles more painful than my 25G needles? It doesn't make any sense.

I might as well start using beer as a muscle relaxant before my shots. :::

::: spoiler spoiler Smaller gauge is usually less painful (for some godforsaken reason, needles are smaller the bigger the number) but pain can happen for a bunch of reasons during an injection. Thick fluid, cold fluid, shaking, tensing muscles in anticipation of the shot, etc

I wouldnt drink a beer before injecting if I were you (you wanna be sober for measuring and all anyway). But maybe take 1g Tylenol 45 minutes before? Might help. When I inject other people, I also scratch a little continuously next to the part where the person is about to be injected, gate control theoy of pain. Let the bottle warm up as much as you can, not too far for it to denature and ruin the vial just as much as ya can - actually that's probably better to do for the drawn up stuff, let that warm. If you have some methocarbamol (Robaxin is the brand name) you could give that a try before injecting over beer, but it migth make you feel a little off a drowsy cause thats just what it does. :::

It's similar with IVs people will try to be nice and put a 20 gauge (or smaller) or smaller into a huge vein and bounce right of causing distress when I find an 18 or in some young or pregnant people a 16 will go in effortlessly.

When Im teaching students I always tell rm that bigger gauge is easier to start. But on peds obviously I couldnt throw in an 18 on an ankle vein or scalp vein, sometimes it really does just take skill and it can develop over time

::: spoiler spoiler Is it fine to be intoxicated if I've already prepared the injection beforehand? Cause it's sitting in my cupboard. But I suppose I can also just do the scratch method and take some paracetamol. :::

::: spoiler spoiler Im not gonna tell you to get drunk to do injections but if you've had a beer or two its not much of a reason to skip an injection either. :::

I might as well start using beer as a muscle relaxant before my shots.

injection tips your doctor isn't telling you about :::

PSA:

If life gives you lemons, run the fuck away!

It is a known eldritch entity that takes an anthropomorphic form that presides over the concept of "life".

The "lemons" it hands out contain highly potent contaminants from the outer realms!

These contaminants are not healthy for you, and are known by the state of California to cause cancer.

∞ 🏳️‍⚧️Edie [it/its, she/her, fae/faer, love/loves, ze/hir, des/pair, none/use name, undecided] - 2mon

Life did in fact not give us lemons, we engineered them into existence

Life didnt give us lemons, we had to find a way to give them to each other

I like going to the doctor cause that's the only time IRL I get to talk to another person about my problems. It's not even about the medicine, because the doctor has given me mostly trash.

What level of loneliness is this?

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/08164649.2025.2556256

Why is there a 20 page publication in a peer reviewed academic journal just sharing and talking about puppygirl memes?

i think there is more to puppygirls than meets the eye and an academic essay is as good a place as any to talk about it. "just sharing and talking about memes" doesn't really do the piece justice!

My mood has been flitting between this and this

I found YouTube links in your comment. Here are links to the same videos on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:

Link 1:

Link 2:

A friend of mine loves cli-fi (sci fi around climate change). I love heist novels

Would be fun to have a climate heist novel. Steal something or sabotage something for the good of the people

bolshevikLovelace [she/her, love/loves] - 2mon

How to Blow Up a Pipeline kinda fits that vibe (minus the sci-fi i guess)

My favorite genre of YouTube video has to be "unhinged shitpost asmr"

Example: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iqNP0CGROnU

More lord of the mysteries posting. This one is a special occasion, CAUSE FINALLY AN ACTUAL CONFIRMED TRANS WOMAN WAS ADDED:

me :3

I think I might try and make some progress on the 40k stuff I've had sitting around doing nothing with fooor.... like 9 months. I had been hyperfocused on them but got knocked out of hit hard by some stuff and just haven't touch it since, but I think it could be good for me to try again...

that being said I'm also sitting here like "maybe I should get something simpler, that might help," but I'm not sure I need even more unpainted plastic...