This whole week has been nothing but me being ignored and nobody even acknowledging my existence. On Tuesday, I went to a social event for a community I often go to, and that was a complete bust. People just spoke with their small groups and weren't open to outside people and didn't mingle. OK, so the next day, I went to my dance class/social. Nobody really even acknowledged me, I saw everyone ignore me. Group conversations without me.
Today, I was supposed to go to the Art Museum with a friend. She was making it up to me after a miscommunication during a recent planned group thing at a new place, in which I didn't get the right plan, leaving me alone, waiting for the group for almost an hour, which never showed up. She wanted to make it up to me, but then today, she told me that she's canceling it because she isn't in a good place emotionally. But she didn't say anything more about that, and didn't even offer any alternate dates. Then by the time I went to another dance thing tonight, I was far too down from everything that happened to even have any real interactions with anyone.
Does anyone actually care about me? I think that if I were to suddenly die in my apartment, nobody would notice. Nobody would check on me, so nobody would notice until the police are called to evict me for not paying rent. And even then, none of my friends or groups would know unless someone just reads the obituaries for some reason.
Le_Wokisme [they/them, undecided] - 1.3yr
you could check in with your friend, maybe she'd be up for something that isn't a bunch of walking around in a public place.
but yeah, people we're on the periphery with don't prioritize us. especially once you're out of a school setting there's very little you can do to break through the alienation and other people being busy with their own shit. if you figure out a repeatable way to do it let me know.
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CthulhusIntern [he/him] - 1.3yr
The art museum was her idea though...
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Le_Wokisme [they/them, undecided] - 1.3yr
but maybe she was just having a bad day today. if i'm feeling like shit i'm not going to be able to think very hard about rescheduling something.
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kittin - 1.3yr
Is this a prolonged period of feeling down or is this a more temporary feeling?
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CthulhusIntern [he/him] - 1.3yr
I guess the status quo is me feeling down with occasions of feeling good.
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Beetle [hy/hym] - 1.3yr
I hate when I go to social events and everyone is just talking with their own circles and ignoring new people. Makes me feel like shit if I’m the new person. I’ve been trying to make new friends in one particular organisation for months and recently gave up because every time I went to an event people would just ignore me. Ok then, I guess I’ll look for other places to meet people…
CthulhusIntern in neurodiverse
Does anyone actually care about me?
This whole week has been nothing but me being ignored and nobody even acknowledging my existence. On Tuesday, I went to a social event for a community I often go to, and that was a complete bust. People just spoke with their small groups and weren't open to outside people and didn't mingle. OK, so the next day, I went to my dance class/social. Nobody really even acknowledged me, I saw everyone ignore me. Group conversations without me.
Today, I was supposed to go to the Art Museum with a friend. She was making it up to me after a miscommunication during a recent planned group thing at a new place, in which I didn't get the right plan, leaving me alone, waiting for the group for almost an hour, which never showed up. She wanted to make it up to me, but then today, she told me that she's canceling it because she isn't in a good place emotionally. But she didn't say anything more about that, and didn't even offer any alternate dates. Then by the time I went to another dance thing tonight, I was far too down from everything that happened to even have any real interactions with anyone.
Does anyone actually care about me? I think that if I were to suddenly die in my apartment, nobody would notice. Nobody would check on me, so nobody would notice until the police are called to evict me for not paying rent. And even then, none of my friends or groups would know unless someone just reads the obituaries for some reason.
you could check in with your friend, maybe she'd be up for something that isn't a bunch of walking around in a public place.
but yeah, people we're on the periphery with don't prioritize us. especially once you're out of a school setting there's very little you can do to break through the alienation and other people being busy with their own shit. if you figure out a repeatable way to do it let me know.
The art museum was her idea though...
but maybe she was just having a bad day today. if i'm feeling like shit i'm not going to be able to think very hard about rescheduling something.
Is this a prolonged period of feeling down or is this a more temporary feeling?
I guess the status quo is me feeling down with occasions of feeling good.
I hate when I go to social events and everyone is just talking with their own circles and ignoring new people. Makes me feel like shit if I’m the new person. I’ve been trying to make new friends in one particular organisation for months and recently gave up because every time I went to an event people would just ignore me. Ok then, I guess I’ll look for other places to meet people…