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Trans Megathread for the Week of December 2nd, 2024, to December 8th, 2024

Hi everyone and welcome to the new Megathread :) For my first Mega I want to share a special interest of mine: the magnetic field and how to understand its behavior intuitively.

I'm guessing most of us have played with magnets before at some point and have felt that mysterious force pushing them apart or pulling them together, depending on how the magnets are oriented toward each other. Some of you may have also seen diagrams like this (By Geek3 - Own work,This file was derived from: Ironfilings cylindermagnet.svg This file was derived from: Magnet compasses.svg, CC BY-SA 4.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=88524982)

Or done an experiment where you visualize the magnetic field lines with iron filings like this (Public domain, Newton Henry Black, Harvey N. Davis (1913) Practical Physics, The MacMillan Co., USA, p. 242, fig. 200)

These lines represent the shape of the magnetic field. The way you can interpret them is that if you place a compass in the field, the compass will align with the field lines at that point. And the closer the lines are to each other, the stronger the magnetic field is in that area. Also, magnetic field lines always form closed loops. They appear to end at the poles of a magnet, but actually they continue on inside the magnet. They do however exit/enter the magnet at the poles.

"But Witchy," you may ask, "why are the lines so concentrated at the poles but then they spread out so much as they travel from one pole of the magnet to the other?" Excellent question my theoretical student XD.

This is I think the key point that was a bit of a eureka moment for me when I realized it a long time ago when I was studying this stuff: the magnetic field lines "want" to be as short as possible while also "wanting" to be as far apart as possible. And when I say want, it does actually behave a little bit like a desire, as the magnetic objects in this field will experience a magnetic force tryin gthe move the object to spread out the field lines and make them shorter.

Let's use this picture I grabbed from Wikipedia as an example: (By Geek3 - Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=10555891)

the bar magnet creates a strong magnetic field at the poles, which means lots of magnetic field lines are squeezed closely together at the poles where they enter/exit the magnet. These lines don't want to be so tightly packed together, so they immediately start spreading out but also immediately start curving towards the opposite pole to try to keep the distance short. If you then try to bring the north pole of another bar magnet close to the north pole of this one, both have magnetic field lines coming out trying to get to their respective south poles, but now even more tightly packed together as you bring the magnets together. Since the magnetic field lines don't want to be so close together, both magnets experience a force pushing each other away so that the magnetic field lines aren't being pushed together so tight.

Similarly, if the south pole of one bar magnet is brought near the north pole of another, the magnetic field lines exiting the north pole of one want to go to the south pole, but the closest south pole is the south pole of the other magnet being brought close, so now the lines go through both magnets before looping back around: (By Geek3 - Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=10515628)

However, between the closest poles of the two magnets, the lines are still concentrated but will try to spread out between the poles. Since the lines want to be as short as possible and don't want to spread out, the magnetic field exerts a force on the bar magnets pulling them together, since that would shorten the lines between the poles down to pretty much nothing.

Finally, a few of you may have been wondering what determines how much the magnetic field lines want to spread out vs shorten. These two tendencies are in opposition pretty much all the time, since spreading the lines out more requires making them longer. This is determined by something called the magnetic permeability which is a property of the materials that the field is passing through (even air or a vacuum). High permeability materials tend to concentrate the magnetic field lines more and allow them to get shorter, while low permeability materials tend to force the lines to spread out and lengthen. Examples of materials with high permeability are iron, cobalt, and other magnetic or ferromagnetic materials. Low permeability are pretty much anything that doesn't experience force in a magnetic field, so most things.

Post thumbnail attribution: (By Omegatron - Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=640068)

Anyway I hope some of you enjoyed this rant or find the information here useful. I can talk about magnets all day so feel free to hit me up if you want, though my inbox will be overflowing for the next week I'm guessing.

Enjoy the Mega!


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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

GayTuckerCarlson* (12/9 - 12/15)
SadArtemis (12/16 - 12/22)
AshenWolf*  (12/23 - 12/29)
Eco* (12/30 - 1/5)
oscardejarjayes* (1/6 (The Darkest Day in Our Democracy.) - 1/12)

EstraDoll (3/2 - 3/8)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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khizuo [ze/zir] - 1.6yr

hi trans mega… sorry for not posting in a very long time. i’m completely absorbed in working on a very labor-intensive comic project. it’s about two commie transes murdering a ceo, which i swear i planned out weeks before today’s current events.

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Ambii [she/her] - 1.6yr

Starting to cause cis confusion when people try to gender me at the grocery store.

doggirl-smug

also i'm 1 year on E as of yesterday lets-fucking-go

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

oh so not only am I still Deadname in my dad's phone, he also just called me "sir" despite being out to them for like 3 fucking months now

and they act like i'm ridiculous when i keep acting hurt by this

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

I TALK TO MY MOM ABOUT IT AND SHE FUCKING SAYS "oh it's still [deadname] in his phone?" YOU DON'T HAVE PERMISSION TO USE THAT I'VE TOLD YOU THAT MORE TIMES THAN I CAN FUCKING COUNT FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU

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bolshevikLovelace [she/her, love/loves] - 1.6yr

ewww i'm so sorry, obligatory death to cis

i don't know why it's so hard for them to understand meow-hug

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

meow-knife-trans

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

I ended up giving mine an ultimatum on it really fast because of shit like this. Also cut both of them off several times about it. Fuckers.

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Oak is so desperate and confused in this modern world of gender ambiguity

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

if your job application takes an hour to complete you should pay me for that hour

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

It took long as fuck but I think the chuds I work with are starting to catch on to the fact that I'm not really one of them. Completely unprompted, one of them took me aside and said "by the way [buh's IRL name], just sou you know I'm not racist, I just like telling racist jokes", then proceeded to tell a pretty racist joke a few minutes later 😬

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Did a lot of cleaning today. doggirl-thumbsup

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

so i got to see myself in the mirror for the first time in like six months & uhh... i'm hot now? lets-fucking-go

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

maganda!

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hellomao - 1.6yr

::: spoiler spoiler Menstruation ends today, felt nauseous through all of it but at least it's over. Reading more of The Wretched of the Earth. Doing pretty good. also getting the asd eval this friday as well. ::: normal

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

::: spoiler don't read, this time i MEAN it, if you read this I will be somewhat stern with you!!! (positive stuff) ok so new first, voice chatting with someone you like a lot as they're falling asleep, eeeeeee omg omg omg omg

edit: its magical and i'll do it again :::

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Everyone say hi to Orvar

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

they keep telling me "ur so young" but it's hard to really feel that when i wake up every day the oldest i've ever been

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

friend did my makeup FINALLY & it's a lil heartbreaking to see the smoking artschool dropout who never was cri

oh well time to use my newfound power in completely irresponsible ways agony-turbo

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

This mega is a banger, Witchy

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

Thank you very much :) <3

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

so now i got linux, programmer socks + a kitty ear headset (w/ lights naturally)

question is : what next? thonk-trans

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

download ghidra and start reverse engineering commercial software to find exploits

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler family crap, manipulation, suicide. Really probably skip reading this one. This one's kinda messed up and I'm just here to vent I guess I really want to cut my dad off. He's a manipulative fuck that hurts me to talk to. He royally fucked over my family and as a result none of my siblings talk to him anymore. It's his fault and he knows it and he's been trying to pick up the pieces ever since. He just called to try and guilt trip me into talking to my siblings and getting them to talk to him again. I told him no and that he should be glad I still talk to him and leave it at that.

But I don't want to talk to him anymore. It's so tiring. But the problem is I know for a fact that on some level he regrets what happened (though I'm not sure if he actually recognizes his own fault), and I'm also pretty sure he has thoughts of suicide. He thinks u by Kendrick Lamar is a healthy Christian response to being a sinner and that it's good to hate yourself. And he's told me twice that if it wasn't for God he would have killed himself already.

I had a friend in high school that killed himself, and I was strongly considering doing it myself in undergrad. It's such a sensitive subject for me. If I come across a post on here with a suicide CW I will not read it or it will probably ruin my entire day. If I cut my dad off and he kills himself because his last life line to what once was is now gone, it would destroy me.

I want to think about what's best for me, and I think what's best for me is to not have that trauma. :::

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ReadFanon [any, any] - 1.6yr

I made this edit recently and I find it kinda hilarious:

If you are interested in SciFi novels and gender theory you might find it funny too. I don't actually mean anything by it but the name is just too perfect not to take advantage of the opportunity it offers.

Unlimited Gendercide Upon the Cis World!!

debate-me-debate-me qin-shi-huangdi-fireball
fire

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

Gendercide che-smile

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

It occurs to me I'm on a bit of a winning streak of gendering myself correctly in my internal thoughts. That's kinda neat

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

The most yellowed breadboard I’ve ever seen

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

Antique

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

parenti

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

That thinglooks like it's been left in the sun since I was in school...

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

It was in a cardboard box for like 4 years, I swear it wasn’t this yellow when I put it there

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

being a trans woman, especially at "still pretty early" in transition is weird because i am a woman, i fully believe that, but at the same time I also feel like I'm just... Too new here to really say much about what it's like with any confidence? Like, I don't pass, and there's still a lot of femme experiences out there that I've just never experienced firsthand or really done so it's like "Yeah I'm a woman but also what does it mean to be a woman? What's it truly like? idk man I just got here"

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler incoherent rambling Smash cut to mental breakdown because even the site taglines are telling me to touch grass!! aubrey-embarassed

Which led me to the "imagine transitioning just to sit inside forever" but my brain did a thing: that shit's like, a fucking 4ch narrative. You do not transition (to whatever extent you choose) exclusively for the being-perceived benefits, it is for YOU. This brainworm has the idea that transition has to be something you do more or less for other people. That you have to like, go outside about it and it only matters if you go get gendered correctly in one of two (realistically this is a transfem meme) binary ways. Huh.

As life collapses at increasing speed my brain gets caught on shit like this constantly. I barely go out anymore, (somewhat an anxiety thing but largely a chronic pain/money/covid/etcetc issue) and so there are a decreasing amount of times where I even do gender interaction with the world at large. The funny indeterminate queer who tried to read my pins two years ago is kind of the last time anything went on, no I will not go anywhere near irl people.

I guess maybe I feel sort of like I did a decade and change ago, when I was scrolling the blue board, being depressed and dejected. Terminally inside, understimulated and gendersleepy. Just one of those things.

::: spoiler cw talking about a 4ch On the topic of blue board, I have so many feelings about it being a blueboard without a direct tan-board companion. Like it's queerphobia, but also having a nsfw board would be SUUUUCH a bad idea. I mean holy shit. But I've also seen people do basically puritanism with regard to the blue-board thing. Idk it probably doesn't bear thinking about but I do, sorry. :::

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0x2640 - 1.6yr

still alive

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

:meow-hug: glad

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

I'm glad cat-trans

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hexbee [she/her] - 1.6yr

You and me both pal

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

i just audibly squealed out loud and clapped with joy when i realized that today was injection day and now i get more estrogen

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler frustrated rambling There are days where I feel I love teaching, and then there's days like today when I put so much effort in only to be shat on by students. Is it patronizing to give study tips for a final that's coming up? I uploaded all of the quizzes we took this semester (we took one every week) as well as all of the keys I made and told them I recommended downloading quizzes they struggled with, timing themselves, and working them through without notes, and only once giving it a solid try going back and reviewing the stuff they missed. And I got so many eye rolls, and I heard one person behind me say "nah it's fine. he (I'm not out to my class) doesn't know who I am" and I turned around and they'd snapped a picture of me and were writing a caption for social media. I have one specific table that is great but it's like I did something for everyone else to hate my guts. I try so hard not to take this stuff personally but this semester has been so hard :::

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

Who's on estrogen, what's on testosterone, and I don't know's on puberty blockers

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Yukiko - 1.6yr

Well, it's official. I have to refresh my entire clothing lineup. It's not the worst. I'm just throwing out a bunch of Yetee t-shirts cause I'm a nerd, but absolutely none of them fit anymore aside from the ladies' 2XLs that I bought, which is very few. The XL shirts make me feel like I'm being constricted to death, which is a large amount of my clothing. I actually started to breathe heavier due to the constriction. But I need clothes and bras. The bras are going to be wildly expensive. I can only guess that there are few places that have bras that will properly fit my new breasts at this point. Probably pushing a G or H at this point, so it's going to be difficult af.

However, this is good because it means that, while I have a small nerdy ass lineup of shirts, I can finally get the witchy clothes I've been wanting. And I can also get cute af bras instead of just shopping clearance (mainly because clearance is simply no longer an option at this size). I just gotta wait for the tax return and I should be able to swing it since I just sunk good cash into the things making me get new clothes in the first place >w> At least I didn't lose too much time from work since it's WFH so that wasn't so bad.

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

I've been on this site for 3 months now, which is interesting in two ways. On the one hand, I've never been this active in an online community for this long. Three months is huge for me. But on the other hand, I actually love you all so much, and it's weird to think there was a time when I wasn't reading all your posts. Like what the hell was I doing 3 months ago???

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GayTuckerCarlson [she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler nsfw

Read autobiography of a trans woman born in the 1800s

Its just smut of her sub fetishes

live-tucker-reaction

Transfems truly never change :::

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

Guess who has GIRL hair now 👀

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GenderIsOpSec [she/her, kit/kit's] - 1.6yr

just realised i did no nut november by accident catgirl-huh

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TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 1.6yr

My prey drive was activated 😔

Couldn't be wholesome and PG for 4 days in a row

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Tommasi [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

catgirl-flop Immense pain in my boobs today, don't think it's been this bad past since the first couple months of hrt

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

it was so funny when that minecraft youtuber revealed his face and instantly lost most of his fans because he wasn't the adonis-like figure they had envisioned and was instead the platonic ideal of "average white guy"

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

december is the hardest month at work because no one cares but i still have to look busy 8 hours a day until the office closes. i am going crazy with understimulation. even though i work from home i feel bad not doing something since i have to tell people what i did generally so i cant like completely disconnect.

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

I have a teddy bear called Gaylord

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iridaniotter [she/her] - 1.6yr

My androgynous ass who not-so-secretly yearns to dress a bit more feminine: clueless

The two wolves inside of me:

two-wolves-1 Let's get into lolita fashion!

Dye our hair, get piercings, dress alt two-wolves-2

Fuck offfff I don't even want to do any of the second things!!! Bad wolf! bonk

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

I think thigh highs should dream bigger. I think I could rock a pair of nose highs

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

I'd say that politically I'm fiscally irresponsible but socially awkward. AMA

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

oh right i do have some positive news! the hair explody juice we've been testing is like super effective as far as my facial hair goes :3

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler Just random stuff about sleep Idk I cannot sleep anymore. Every night I lay down, close my eyes, and stare through my eyelids at the ceiling for an hour or two before taking 3mg of melatonin and finally passing out at like 4am. Please help.

Surprisingly it's not a chronic pain thing, it's probably Autism Brain. After midnight, my brain turns the fuck ON and into a constant monologue machine. I have spoken of this before but it is like, if my brain was that turned-on during the day I would get SO much done, think SO many thoughts and probably write a fuckton. Even when my brain is empty of thoughts, in 3am brainmode ANYTHING can start a tangent in there.

I have more than idly considered just going for it, doing 36 or 48 hour days to take advantage of this state, but I doubt my body would cope with that too well at this point. I want this state during the day.

Taking various anxiety meds did not help, an almost complete "detox" from online did not help, I am still cursed to only have my brain come on late at night and keep me awake. Idk if I'm beyond help at this point but I hate it.

I actually think I used to be like this, the After Midnight Brain, all the time, in the day. Back when I wrote fiction and shit every day. That was back in highschool though, what happened? :::

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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

i have to put on jerma vods at night so i can sleep, can't be alone with my thoughts. i can strongly relate as sleep has always been a big issue for me too. i tend to just stay up until the point of exhaustion so i can be sure that going to sleep won't be a Whole Thing (not recommending this). i have found that weed helps me with it too. i hope you can overcome this phase and find something that works for you meow-hug

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

Sleebi weed niko-wonderous I really need to get down to the dudeweed store soon!!

Thenk u meow-hug

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

This is pretty much how it is for me, taking it like 15 minutes~ before laying down usually works well for me. Can't sleep without it, but couldn't when I started taking it either. I've also heard good things about cbd/cbn, but I don't know how available cbn is up there.

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

I may look, this is two points for sleep weeds in this thread c:

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Beetle [hy/hym] - 1.6yr

Have you tried light therapy? It sounds like your sleep/awake cycle is off and you can realign it with light therapy. There are devices that you can buy with the right wavelengths but those are expensive and there’s a lot of bad ones on the market that don’t actually work so you’d have to do some research on finding the right one. Easier is going outside every morning for a few minutes. Before noon the bluey wavelengths of sunlight signal our brain that it’s daytime, and our bodies start producing hormones that make us energetic. A few hours after noon the sunlight is more orangey which signals our brain that daytime is going to end in a few hours, and our bodies start producing hormones that makes us sleepy.

For me this was a life changing lesson. I don’t go outside every morning, just a few days in the week to remind my body how the cycle goes. If it’s sunny a few minutes staring in the direction of the sun is enough. If it’s cloudy then 15 minutes should do it. Looking through a window is not enough, you have to go outside for it (or watch through an open window I guess but then you’ll be surrounded with less light than outside so it might take longer). Obviously don’t ever look directly into the sun, it can be tricky to find a right angle but I usually focus my eyes somewhere above the sun. You also don’t have to look in the direction of the sun, you can look at another direction but for a longer duration.

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

disgost Trying to make me touch grass yet again I see... what's out there for me huh.........

I am willing to entertain this one but getting dressed to go out every day sounds like a trial holy shit, so Idk.

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Beetle [hy/hym] - 1.6yr

Lol I totally understand the barriers. It kinda depends on how you live. But for me I just stand in front of the door to my appartement complex for a few minutes and I don’t bother dressing up too much. I notice the difference immediately though which helps me stay motivated to do it. Also I definitely don’t do it every day, maybe once in every 2 or 3 days. Every day is better but yeah sometimes I just want to stay inside.

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

catgirl-flop my next preliminary laser hair removal treatment that was supposed to be tomorrow morning just got cancelled last minute. next opening is likely next month

please get this fucking hair off my face ASAP i hate it i hate it i hate it i hate it i hate it

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

pee pee

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

Of course you did.

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

i needed first comment, sorry

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

It's okay I guess that'll just be the first ever comment I get in a a mega that I post I guess... /jk <3

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

history has been made and we cannot undo it

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

poo poo

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

NO

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

poo poo will prevail

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

i am flushing you

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

have fun down there with the sewer gators... i hope it makes you stronger

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

I always have a blast with the sewer gators. I play Rummy with a group of them twice a month

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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 1.6yr

əəd əəd

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler i am happy i feel so powerful lol

i never realized i could be this person i guess. just very glad to have people i care about, who care about me :::

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

i've been away from my wife for two hours eviscerated

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

::: spoiler nsfw teledildonics is the funniest word in the English language, prove me wrong :::

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SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them] - 1.6yr

Second [tips cowboy hat]

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ComradeMonotreme - 1.6yr

Trying to book something online, hit submit. "Our representative will give you a call within 2hrs to confirm". wtf

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alexandra_kollontai [she/her] - 1.6yr

yoooooo magnets are so cool! thanks for this!

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

You're welcome :)

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ThermonuclearEgg - 1.6yr

Down with cis

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

Down with cis

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bolshevikLovelace [she/her, love/loves] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler update on party well yep i was definitely outed to everyone there, 3 people i had never even met prior. they all knew my name and seemed like they were walking on eggshells a bit. everyone was mostly chill though, there was too much going on for any attention to be directed at me. i did get weird vibes from one chud looking dude in his 50s but his wife was being very sweet so he didn't say/do shit except awkwardly give me a handshake when we left lmao

but i can definitely confirm that i fucking hate that feeling, if i'm outed like that one more time i'll lose my shit istg. walking into a room and you can tell everyone there has already said something about you behind your back, but they're too polite to repeat it to your face... ew :::

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CrookedSerpent [she/her] - 1.6yr

Am I crazy or is nobody talking about the pissing. I'm not talking about the spiro pissing, I'm talking about the "I've had adrenal levels of testosterone in my body for a few years now and my prostate is the size of a rasin" piss. The "I gotta use the bathroom every 2 and a half hours or I will literally piss my pants if I chuckle" piss. Do you know what I mean? Like is this a common thing or am I actually just unlucky. And if it is common, why aren't u talking about it, and what can we done...

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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

i was already like this before hrt lol it's about the same now. not on spiro though thankfully

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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 1.6yr

Honestly haven't notice a huge change in my rate of peeing. But I also had a history of accidentally binge drinking water and then desperately needing to pee every 5-30minutes for the next two hours before HRT.

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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 1.6yr

2 hours is very normal unless you're not drinking anything, but then you would eventually stop pissing. If your piss isn't radioactive yellow, I wouldn't worry about it.

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

Every 2 hours sounds about right when I'm drinking enough. 200mg Spiro/day. But I've also noticed I have to pee more when I'm losing weight which I'm noticing at the moment.

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Moss [they/them] - 1.6yr

Dating apps actually suck so bad when you're looking at straight people. Queer people on dating apps are like, actually communicative. Straight people just hit you with a "hey" and that's it

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

I miss daylight madeline-stare fall and winter is okay but this shit where there is not sunlight? Uncool. The sun working six hour days up here.

Am I seasonally affective & is it fucking with me?

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

i got the idea of a guy who thinks dinosaur nuggets are made from dinosaurs, but when you think about it, in a really indirect way they kind of are

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Kiagz [she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler feeling very depressed Everything feels hopeless and pointless. Every attempt to turn my life around has failed, and things just keep getting worse.

I'm unable to make any real progress in my transition, just keep taking my HRT but there's been no noticable changes for half a year now, even though my levels are all good. Same thing goes for facial hair removal. How many more fucking laser sessions do I need in order to get rid of this last part? Voice training seems impossible for me, and I'm many years away from being able to afford any of the surgeries I want. I'm so tired of being stuck like this. :::

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iridaniotter [she/her] - 1.6yr

lol it's so over for me. I think I may never have a name again

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Spent the morning sucking at Elden Ring, spent the afternoon struggling to take a hot bath because the plumbing is broken, Christmas Market canceled due to the weather being miserable doggirl-tears

Time to pig out with gf and watch Gossip Girl doggirl-thumbsup

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SuperZutsuki [they/them] - 1.6yr

Trying to commit to doing my full skincare routine for a whole week. My ADHD ass is struggling on day 2 lol

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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 1.6yr

Honestly the amount of times I been mam'd on the phone makes it easy helping my mom out with stuff. I think overall my voice is pretty ambitious and if I can get over hearing my own voice I might get far with voice training. Being able to play around with people's expectations could be fun, I think most of my online friends didn't expect me to look like I do with the way I sound tbh.

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

what a cromulent fuckcrustable day

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

::: spoiler this is the chronologically second post in a series tfw she needs to go do things and i have to work until 5 and have meetings so we cant voice call :::

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

if i keep thinking about boys like this, I'm going to have to turn in my gay license, fucking hell panting

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

I got cancelled by the woke doggirl-gloom

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Tommasi [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Did my eyebrows all by myself today catgirl-heart

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SadArtemis [she/her] - 1.6yr

I don't see the "apply to make next post" post but I apply rat-salute-2 I promise to make you all regret it or at least try to do so

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bolshevikLovelace [she/her, love/loves] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler rant i have to go to a christmas thing tomorrow with my partner and a bunch of people i half-know but haven't seen since pre-transition. that's mostly fine, i got over my initial anxieties. ONLY TO FIND OUT MY PARTNER'S MUM WENT AND TOLD EVERYONE I'M TRANS AHEAD OF TIME "so they won't feel embarrassed while i'm there." jesus fucking christ - if they misgender/deadname me i'll correct them, if they're embarrassed because of that then fuck them not my problem

and to top that my partner's dad keeps calling me "man" while he calls all the cis-women "love", hasn't said my name once in the last 4 months since i came out (i don't think partner's brother has either?). it just hurts because they've always been more supportive than my bio parents, idk i thought he would be better than that

soooooo really not fucking looking forward to it, will probably try to dip super early. wish i could plan to get high when we're home but i'm on the last week of a t break ughhhh

rant over :::

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LocalOaf [they/them, she/her] - 1.6yr

New boots came in the mail

Officially new boot goofin'

deng-cowboy

👢👢

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler its

::: spoiler the nutshack :::

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blipblip [they/them] - 1.6yr

Not sure if this is the best place to ask but:

Anyone have any reading material for someone who just doesn't get gender? (Thinking more article length, not books, ADHD gang)

Idk what I'd call myself and I think part of the reason is I just plain don't understand what people mean when they say things like feeling masc cause it's just like what does that even mean??? I'm just doing me what do you mean something makes you feel femme? I reckon I'm some kind of not cis cause I don't think cis people spend much time thinking about it but maybe that's off base? Idk

It's confusing to me in the same way when I found out most people can see things in their head and it wasn't like people talking in metaphor

Anyway thanks you're all great don't let the world get you down but if you do have any links pls send it's a slow work day and I can feel the ADHD fixation coming on

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

Vacillating between “the hair loss isn’t even that bad, it’s just one spot and it doesn’t look much worse than 5 years ago” and “I may as well just shave it and start wearing wigs”

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ThermonuclearEgg - 1.6yr

Up with trans

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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 1.6yr

Up with trans!

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Tayphix [any] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler CW: injection talk So, just failed an injection, but not in like a process way but as in I was concerned about air bubbles. In the process of being worried, I ejected more estrogen out just into the air to push the top bubbles out. Well, that worked but after I actually injected it, I realized that I accidentally pushed too much out. Would have been fine if I realized first and just pressed harder and held it, but nope pulled it out and then realized. And I'm not putting it back in with a blunt needle. So rip my hormone levels for the next week as I'd rather have too low than too high, but it basically feels like I got nothing so idk whatever this is stupid. Was also wanting to play games with friends but I took to long worrying about the injection and they all left. Guess I can catch up on arcane or whatever :::

transshork-sad

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

signed up to my local library and went there with my wife

been here a year should have done that already

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler topical t related mishap ok so it turns out ur body won't care for it much if an alcohol based gel gets into ur peehole

for some reason i rly wanna put on iron maiden's flight of icarus thonk-trans


:::

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

"god you've been thinking about boys so much recently are you even still into girls at all?"

looks at girls

"OH GOD YEP I STILL LIKE THOSE. FUCK." hexbear-bi-2 panting hexbear-lesbian

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Thinking about getting a duffle coat

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Des [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

ugh every time i post on here i swear it's minutes before the thread changes over lol

feel like a magnetic monopole

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

i am just posting to send you a notification! hi! (Also I liked the thread :) )

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JohnBrownsBussy2 [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler Bathroom bullshit Jesus fucking Christ. This venue has a common wash area and private stalls. Why in the hell do half of them have to be labeled male and the other female. meow-tableflip :::

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

a t girl has needs, okay?

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x87_floatingpoint [he/him, it/its] - 1.6yr

Thinking I should do voice training somehow, but the problem is that 90% of the time when I have to talk to people, I get scared and forget to pay attention to the way I talk, and then voice is way too high-pitched

So why even bother, if I mess it up anyway catgirl-flop

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Josephine_Spiro [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

No you don't understand, having my room messy means I'm just like Marx, while by proxy makes me a better Marxist

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

Idk how to describe it but the word "me" feels different after my cute lil haircut

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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 1.6yr

I think my style is something like "earnestly writing with a crayon" and so far it's neither helped me in my attempts in dating or securing a job agony here's hoping it's just a rough phase I'm going through and I'll look back fondly on this stage. Good things are coming mario-thumbs-up

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

no more mx nice xuy

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LocalOaf [they/them, she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler dysphoria/executive dysfunction Need to shave and do skincare stuff

Don't want to have to look in the mirror

Know I'll feel less wretched after I do it but can't muster up the willpower to suffer through dealing with it yet

Somebody yell at me to take better care of myself pls

catgirl-flop :::

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

I really want an AI powered IDE where its syntax highlighter works by taking a screenshot of your code every 2 seconds and sending the PNG file to chatgpt for analysis

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Tommasi [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Has transitioning changed me from an introvert to an extrovert? Is that possible?

This is the first weekend in a while I've spent by myself in a couple months I think. That was how I spent most weekends before, but now it's made me kinda down and making me crave human contact. (Even though I was at a social thing thursday night)

I'm still super shy though, maybe even more than before because I'm always wary of cis people I don't know.

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lilypad [she/her, it/its] - 1.6yr

Finally writing music again a little bit. It has been so long. Im happy and excited!

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Tommasi [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler dating stuff, insecurities Pretty sure my crush likes me back after a conversation we had in her car last week (unless i'm delulu doggirl-sweat ), but... what now? Do I say something? Ask her more explicitly if our meet-ups are dates? I'm a total girlfailure and i don't know what to do.

Part of me feels like she shouldn't like someone like me. She's been in a few serious relationships, is really pretty and has a great job, while my only experience is one-nighters and unhappy flings, I'm always broke and I haven't even lived as a girl for an entire year yet. While I love the idea of being with someone more stable and experienced who can help me and take care of me, that seems like a selfish way to think about things, and I'm afraid I don't have a lot to offer anyone as a partner. ::: aubrey-sad

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

Some cisn't replies from last thread since downtime sabotaged the mega </3

::: spoiler u/rtstragedy @rtstragedy@hexbear.net

I need to test this theory on a wider audience.

catgirl-huh uh oh whats gonna happen...

Totally for science and not for this reason.

This reason is also science :3 imagine getting flirted at waow...

This made me d'awwwwww

Classic gay catgirl-heart :::

::: spoiler u/naom3 @naom3@hexbear.net

Now that I’m on hrt there’s this sense of peace that comes from the fact that I don’t have to grow old as a guy. My body might go through changes as I age but they’ll just be the normal ones that every woman goes through

Oh fr, holy shit louder for the people on the back. I AM AT PEACE lets-fucking-go I guess I still have to get used to actual changes, "normal" or otherwise though, which is like well, I'll see how it goes... :::

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

Oh fr, holy shit louder for the people on the back. I AM AT PEACE

I AM COLD!

Did I do it right? I'm also at peace but this is my first fall/winter without cold tolerance.

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

I am also cold =) my better half is very warm so I'm lucky, but yea lacking cold tolerance is not my fav tbh

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

I hope your better half is doing okay, speaking of void.

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

Thank yooouuuuuuu catgirl-peace I think null's doing okay, mostly we've just been hanging out, dunno if we'll ever powerpost together again though...

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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 1.6yr

I’m also at peace but this is my first fall/winter without cold tolerance.

Been a bit more sensitive to when the AC kicks on and directly blows on me, but surprisingly have been pretty okay with cold temperatures outside so far. Granted, I was also playing with the dog, so it might have just been because of physical activity keeping me warmer.

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

::: spoiler spoiler

uh oh whats gonna happen...

ok maybe actually i was a bit hasty with that people are scary actually but at least i will reciprocate if people start it with me now! maybe. if they're cool. omg. i need to stop typing. :::

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler spoiler yea people do be scary. I beleaf in u tho!! :::

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

thank you!!

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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler facial hair is gone feeling good now niko-happy basically the more facial hair I have the more depressed I am. I remember years ago I had a full beard and well I wasn't exactly happy/healthy mentally but now I stay smooth. :::

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

It has been an honor hosting this week's mega. See you all in the next one :)

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BatsAreRats [she/her] - 1.6yr

Chat I accidentally megadosed my eshot because I was using a needle I wasn't used to and now my tits hurt a lottttt 😖

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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 1.6yr

Fallout New Vegas has left me thinking I'm good at blackjack when really I'm good at blackjack when I have 9 luck which I usually play with.

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nemmybun [she/her, sae/saer] - 1.6yr

12 weeks done with electrolysis! That means I'm almost finished, right? anakin-padme-2

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

I'll get the "fucking magnets how do they work" post out of the way for everyone

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

I don’t wanna talk to a scientist, yall motherfuckers lying and getting me pissed 😤

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

I was thinking of making ICP the picture.

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oscardejarjayes [comrade/them] - 1.6yr

Any other gifted kids stay gifted? It seems to be an uncommon experience, oddly enough.

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belligerentkitten [they/them, it/its] - 1.6yr

i mean, i'm extremely gifted at dropping out of university, burning out, and drug use.

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

can confirm + relatable content

altho babe i will now publically remind u that we are in fact gifted still despite all our hurdles

it's just that ppl wanted to take advantage of it & then toss us away

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belligerentkitten [they/them, it/its] - 1.6yr

trans-heart ancom-heart

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imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

nah perpetually burnt out and still mourning the life i thought i would have

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

idk. my brain went from gifted to barely functional in school after puberty hit and i had to deal with t*stosterone

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

I hope it goes back yes-honey-left

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Babs [she/her] - 1.6yr

For me, gifted was a just funny euphemism for autistic.

Why yes I am still very gifted at memorizing the minutia of media that I like, and I do still think dinosaurs are cool as hell.

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

I'm burnt out and looking to climb down and off of the corporate ladder lol

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Ambii [she/her] - 1.6yr

i guess? idk I got kicked out of middle school gifted classes bcuz my undiagnosed adhd was in full gear and I never did any of the work i was assigned.

I still have the same qualities that got me into the gifted program as a kid, I still pick things up relatively quick, people still seem to think I'm clever/smart/whatever. How do you even measure this? Aptitude? idfk

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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 1.6yr

I'm still good at school work I guess? That doesn't translate to a lot of other things though.

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LocalOaf [they/them, she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler crushposting Saw crush again today

Think I got most of my sad/angsty shit out last night and don't feel as bad about things now

I'm still kinda hurting and disappointed but I'm still happy to see them and they gave me a cookie today? That was nice

Idk I'm gay and sad and lonely and a cookie didn't really make me feel much better but it was nice

:::

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Josephine_Spiro [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

I've cone to realize a stim I've been doing is essentially me strengthening my finger muscles for fingering

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

I really should do self care tonight but I cry every time so I'm dreading it. I already cried plenty today, just have to force myself through it I guess. Keep putting it off but I can't put it off long enough. screm-aaaaa

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Josephine_Spiro [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Dog girl

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler speedrunposting (got a completion! 17:33) Finally, on my 281st attempt a little inflated because some runs get reset very quickly if I don't like my spawn I beat minecraft in one sitting! I haven't been able to get obs to work so I only clipped the dragon fight. I got unlucky on a few big things, mostly the nether. Spawned kinda far from the bastion, and despite being the best bastion (bridge, both sides were tall so I got 6 chests. If a side is short you get 1 instead of 3. Chests are really important because they usually have obsidian). I only got 16 obby so no nether travel to the stronghold. It took me kind of a while to get to a blaze spawner too. I was low on food the whole time and ran out when fighting blazes, left on like 3 hearts. Because I didn't get enough obby to nether travel I had to boat 750~ blocks which is really slow. I did get an exposed portal room, which means I don't have to navigate the stronghold which is a huge help. I've lost like half a dozen runs to stronghold nav.

Then the end fight was really rough. I have hardly any food, and I was very shaky. I go to the wrong side of the pillar and use all 12 of my beds. I end on a single heart from all the bed damage.

But yea, feels really good to finally get a completion, hopefully I can get obs working so I can record the full runs in the future. I can definitely do better then this but I'm really happy with this one, my goal was sub 20 and obviously I did a lot better then that. Here is the dragon fight clip if you want to watch, its kinda rough like I said. :::

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khizuo [ze/zir] - 1.6yr

new songs on repeat: iron lung by king gizzard, tongues and teeth by the crane wives, (i’ve got) survival sickness by the international noise conspiracy.

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

@yewler@hexbear.net from last thread

::: spoiler spoiler

I think best case scenario is I find someone I consider to be my best friend ever and then start living with them and we just keep being best friends who maybe also cuddle sometimes. That actually sounds like heaven. I'm just bad at meeting and talking to people

Ah, that does sound nice! I know QPR (queerplatnoic relationship) is like a pretty broad term but I'm sure there are loads of people out there that are into sex-free domestic arrangements. I think it's been helpful for me to remind myself to just try to make connections with people and sometimes things kinda just click and suddenly you're chatting every day.

I struggle to start things with people, I get too in my head about it and like convince myself that they don't like me even before I try to DM them, you know? It's really a weak spot because I love people, hanging out with them, learning about their stuff, doing things together, but I struggle to feel anything but imposing.

There's something preventing that from fully clicking in my noggin though, and I'm trying to place what that is.

I think I can kinda relate to this - I went around and around in my head trying to label relationship things and try to fit them into boxes for a very long time, until my therapist showed me a chart that had everything you may ever want from a relationship on it, and you're meant to fill it out with possibly someone in mind etc. completely atomized desires like "emotional intimacy" and "sharing a house" and even divided out sexual things. It was helpful to me to kind of pick my own desires and then decide what the labels mean to me after. I can send you the PDF if you'd like, let me know...

This may just be my asexuality showing, but it's genuinely news to me to find out that flirting even has a sexual component at all for most people lmao

Ah, totally fair... I think I may have just gotten my ace card revoked today, actually (I am joking, this is an inside joke). I still do think I'm demisexual/demiromantic though, but I have some interesting surprising feelings I'm working through recently in that regard too that I didn't expect. :::

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

I keep hearing about how a lot of other trans women not doing shots because they're freaked out by needles and it makes me a little concerned for myself because of how little objections I have had over it. Like I'm a bit of a freak for being so eager to stab myself full of girl juice

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WhoaSlowDownMaurice [they/them, undecided] - 1.6yr

Me going back in time to tell Frank Herbert to rename Duncan Idaho to Duncan Ohio (it will be funni later)

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler venting jfc i feel like my head's immediately about to explode every time i foolishly venture anywhere outside of this thread. i feel like i keep saying this too. it's not a jab at anyone / anything in particular, i just genuinely have no fucking idea where to go anymore. my partner & i recently had two promising minority spaces we were already getting comfortable w/ just sorta taken away in the sense that it was all actually run by a cabal of libs whose idea of a safe space is when you throw everyone else under the bus to preserve the genocide thirsters' freedom of speech or what the fuck ever.

i'm just so fucking tired. :::

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

i don't even know what to say anymore...

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

I don't really feel that short next to my gf usually despite the 10-ish inch height difference.
But for some reason standing on the couch next to her made me feel a lot taller than her even though that difference was even less.
Is this just how tall people feel all the time? doggirl-sweat

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LocalOaf [they/them, she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler crushposting, sadposting, venting, dysphoria, slight silver lining at the end Crush is in a relationship

Crush's SO also goes to the gym

Crush and crush's SO met up there and smooched saying goodbye

I knew this could be a possibility and mentally tried preparing for it as a contingency and I'm still crestfallen catgirl-cry catgirl-flop

I know I shouldn't build someone up in my head like I did and imagine a relationship with so little precedence for a foundation but I really felt a quick strong connection and thought there might have been something there

I fell really hard with very little to go off of and this still just fucking hurts

Crush is so cute and charming and sweet and funny

Crush's SO looks like someone who has to be reminded to wear deodorant before going to a MTG tournament, or to wash off Cheeto dust from your hands before you play the demo consoles at GameStop or something

(Yeah I'm bitter and the crush SO might be an amazing person, I know nothing other than a first impression but crush seems like they'd be out of crush SO's league idk)

(Yeah I know "leagues" are a shitty concept and judgmental and shallow and I don't really put a lot of importance to the idea usually but you know what I mean I hope)

Falling on your metaphorical ass trying to kick the metaphorical football hurts even more when you got hurt even before there was a snap and there actually wasn't even a game and you don't have any teammates and you were the only one mentally building up how sweet kicking a metaphorical football would be

💔 football-charlie-brown

I know I'm overreacting and being a big emo dweeb about this but I really just feel sincerely like I might just not be meant to have any real relationships

Every time I fall for someone for like a decade now, no matter how close I get to someone and how well I think things between us are going, it never gets off the ground and I end up getting hurt and self isolating and whatever friendship I'd built with someone withers away and it's always my fault and I'm just so fucking lonely and tired of getting hurt and beating myself up

I spent a long fucking time willing myself to get it together and get dressed and move on after my workout in the shower just glaring at my own reflection in the mirror and just fucking seething at myself

Eventually I noticed little things where I'm making progress and becoming less not-okay with my body

My hips look kinda nice? I dunno, it's like the me I want to be is some undiscovered artifact in an archaeological dig that's just barely peeking out from the dirt that's (gestures broadly) this and I'm not quite sure what it looks like but the more and more work I put into uncovering it, the more I can start to see the contours of what it might look like

I'm still very unhappy with myself and deeply frustrated with where I am physically, mentally and just circumstantially in general and it's hard not beating myself up for shit I can't do anything about now that's just wasted time behind me and trying to not torture myself thinking about what could have been, but from where I am now, I'm making a lot of effort to improve, and I guess that's all I can do

It usually doesn't feel like enough, but it is what it is

Sorry for being a downerheart-sickle :::

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

ok i am finally gonna say something

::: spoiler tired thing i am saying ...pee pee... :::

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Unironically I think you can learn emotional intelligence by watching crappy reality tv like Love Is Blind and analysing how not to be like some of the couples. doggirl-smart

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kleeon [he/him, he/him] - 1.6yr

Based?

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Josephine_Spiro [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Tempted to get my hair shaved on the side and have it long on the other

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

this energy drink fucked my sleep up... can i please say something when i wake up again

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

Qt (the GUI framework, not the gas station)as a company is so fucking unserious

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Josephine_Spiro [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Our eepy warriors, how eepy are you today?

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

My siblings mentioning ::: spoiler dysphoria My height, Adam's apple, and facial hair ::: Is awful and I don't know how to make them stop. I keep telling them to stop but :shrug-outta-hecks: they don't care. Have had all three brought up today. Probably can't actually get them to stop, just a shitty vibe being reminded of how people see me.

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

I don't know what's normal joking around that I'm supposed to be okay with and what's behavior I can/should speak up about :cheems: and like how does context effect things, egh.

I want to watch someone else do every social situation ever and then I can just copy what they do.

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

Can someone tell me if this a ND/autism thing?

I feel like when I read, I frequently get distracted by my own thoughts. I've been reading this book for the last hour and a half, and have only gotten 10 pages read. I just keep like, reading a paragraph and then I think something about it, and then have a whole little monologue about what I read and any tangential thoughts. It will start with something related to what I read and then just kind of, trail on from there? I usually (?) stay more or less on topic, but I'm not reading I'm just thinking to myself. Its unproductive and annoying. This was a huge issue for me in school too :/

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LocalOaf [they/them, she/her] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler day to day minor issue whining, caffeine/nicotine

can't sleep until 3:30 am-ish

exhausted after leg day but have a day off so I can sleep in

don't sleep well (Curly wanted to have a sleepover and he kept getting his tail in my face waking me up)

wake up like a quarter past 11 tired

take care of all the kitty stuff (litterbox, food, water, assorted tidying up, "hey get down from there" etc

Half an hour later finally get my coffee, go take the recycling and trash out, ready to sit down with my coffee and have a smoke (I know, I broke my "one pack and that's it" thing awhile ago, self crit)

Set coffee mug in the armrest of my garden chair

somehow it immediately somersaults off the side in a perfect half barrel roll and lands upside down, the entire mug spilled before I got a single sip

i-spil-my-jice catgirl-cry

wahhhhhhhh

(I made another cup, it's fine, but wahhhhhh)

It didn't even make physical sense how it fell like that

Looney Tunes ass slide whistle ass fall

Fucking hell

thurston meow-coffee :::

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

is Target a good place to buy clothes? I genuinely don't know, on The Internet I see roughly equal amounts of people talking shit about it and people saying you can get decent quality basics for a good price from there. for most of my life I've been the type of person who wears plain fruit of the loom t-shirts that you get in a pack for like $20 for 5

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wulfhead [he/him, it/its] - 1.6yr

I've been talking to a girl for a while n my friends are saying shes into me (I can't read stuff like that well lol) n even if that wasn't the case shes so awesomeeeeeee! Its super nice to meet ppl who treat me like a person and less like a political object or (gawd forbid) manic pixie dream boy. I love being casual about my gender n stuff n shes so like... normal abt it. idrc if things go one way or another shes just so fun to talk to n I really really really wanna meet her dogs (i don't have any pets n they are sooo cute!)

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

my film proposal about an mi5 agent trying to prevent mi6 from killing princess diana was rejected by the disney channel executive wtf

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WhoaSlowDownMaurice [they/them, undecided] - 1.6yr

Only four hours of overtime this whole year agh

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gaystyleJoker [she/her] - 1.6yr

i think i may be done saying something

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WIIHAPPYFEW [any, any] - 1.6yr

The news mega mods are suppressing me for being too popular for my own good blob-on-fire

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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

oh god, no one ever told me how nice a bath bomb makes your skin feel comfy

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

ok so the site's still on fire & the same users (some of whom are mods btw) still keep getting away with vile takes

yeah i think i'm alright just hanging out here for now

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

Is this the sorosfootsoldier thing or did something else happen?

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

let's just say i was blissfully unaware of there having been another incel shit show & the following cursory investigation into the site's status at large did not improve my mood

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

what did SFS say/do?

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

yeah I saw that comment

I think it's forgivable, especially since he made a formal apology. Sadly mocking non-cishet relations has been normalized in amerikkkan culture. It's just another think that has to be unlearned/deprogrammed, and I hope (and trust) SFS is sincere in his effort to do so.

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ashinadash [she/her] - 1.6yr

Same, some of the recent stuff is like, holy fucking shit, jesus.

Idk where you are SnowySkyes but i-get-it

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yewler [she/her] - 1.6yr

I never saw myself as much of a crossword kind of gal but I gotta say I've found myself addicted

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belligerentkitten [they/them, it/its] - 1.6yr

bearsite has weird vibes today. no like.

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Beetle [hy/hym] - 1.6yr

Amazing mega

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

Ty :)

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rtstragedy - 1.6yr

can you crush on someone you are dating, yes/no?

edit: thanks all

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JohnBrownsBussy2 [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

Final update on the show:

I didn't lace my boots properly so now my heels are torn up and it hurts.

Show was great though. Had tons of fun. It's so much more fun as a girl.

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

amogus

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JohnBrownsBussy2 [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

At the metal show right now. Outfit came together, and had the courage to be openly femme/queer in public for the first time. Plenty of other queer (presenting) folks as well, but just probably going to keep to myself. Worried about the restroom, and which one to use. I don't think they have gender neutral one.

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Who do you think is the hottest boy in season 1 of Gossip Girl? doggirl-smug

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iridaniotter [she/her] - 1.6yr

I forgot to music post dog-screm

This is what I have been listening to the past week.

https://lastcollage.io/ website doesn't support kanji :(

If I had to suggest one song from this week it would be "Ever Somber" from Dälek's 2004 noise hip hop album. It's like hip hop shoegaze. Amazing!!!!

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

nice having a phone that works again

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naom3 [she/her] - 1.6yr

Update to yesterday’s post: what the fuck does “a softer yes than when intoxicated” mean?

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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 1.6yr

Once all my bills paid gonna get a good nail polish to celebrate. No more dealing with institutions and the like just looking gay af

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Moss [they/them] - 1.6yr

Music that is trans-coded:

-breakcore

-that country song that Heimerdinger sings in Arcane Season 2

What else?

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nemmybun [she/her, sae/saer] - 1.6yr

I just finished OddTaxi and I enjoyed it! Good pacing, relatable characters, and heaps of intrigue kept me on the "one more episode" track. Plus it was only 13 episodes which honestly is a good series length since they can't waste any time with fluff. Every scene had purpose.

::: spoiler That ending tho I hope Odokawa is okay scared :::

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

Boston Fleet won doggirl-happy

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

I feel awful. I know it's because I didn't sleep well last night, but this isn't new. Just feeling it more today. ::: spoiler dysphoria, hatred I hate being male, I hate what T has done to me, I hate my voice, I hate how fucking huge I am, I hate how lonely I am, I hate how everyone is going to see me from here on out. I hate the way I exist now. I don't know how it's going to be okay again. I'm disgusting. I hate myself. :::

I was hoping to have an opportunity to get on hrt soon but looks like that won't pan out. Unfortunate. Whatever, probably a bad idea to start when I'm so dependent anyway. It doesn't feel like I'll ever pull myself out.

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

Why bother.

Urges are ridiculous right now. Napped. Should feel better but I don't, if anything I feel worse. Maybe I'm just back in hell. ::: spoiler spoiler Please just let me die, fuck this. Why isn't "laying down and dying" a real fucking thing, god fuck me. :::

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ValenThyme [she/her, comrade/them] - 1.6yr

hi BountifulEggnog i deleted my old account at another server but i'm a hexbear now just wanted to say hi and that I love you! your kindness and warmth has made my whole transition better and i appreciate you 🩷

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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 1.6yr

Hi Valen :cat-trans: I'm happy to hear that, thank you.

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lilypad [she/her, it/its] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler cw chasers

Under the dictatorship of the queer chasers will go to reeducation until they learn to permanently fucking heel themselves. Got groped by this older woman chaser today at a night market, and didnt feel confident in saying anything til we all left. Its just part of life, but still fucking sucks.

The vegan night market down the street was way better, both the food and the items being sold. My friend wore her leather jacket tho, it was awkward.

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Josephine_Spiro [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

I think the persistent cough I've had in the morning and at night is from me taking sublingual estradiol. Unsure if the fact I've developed nasuea while taking meds is part if it, or if the pills for it I got are supposed to be taken orally or something

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Kiagz [she/her] - 1.6yr

New femtanyl album just dropped! aubrey-happy kirby-jammin

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Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's] - 1.6yr

No one is calling Shaina out on her bullshit on this Love is Blind reunion and it’s pissing me off doggirl-growl

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

Those magnets have the colors of the guy in the chad meme

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SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her] - 1.6yr

Lol I didn't realize that but now I can't unsee it

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buh [she/her, any] - 1.6yr

The virgin gravity vs. the chad magnetism

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Wmill [they/them, fae/faer] - 1.6yr

Gaylights saving time very-smart

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

the destruction of the ed stone is one of the greatest tragedies in british politics

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lilypad [she/her, it/its] - 1.6yr

Playing mario kart with my roomie im hooking up with and my meta while our roomie has a 7+hour date and theyre playing MTG next to us. Life is good.

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Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

selfcrit was a mistake

e : like this is straight up dodgy youtuber "i made an oopsie" territory what the goddamn fuck

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Eco [she/her, he/him] - 1.6yr

took me 40 minutes to drive my 3 mile (as the crow flies) commute

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bolshevikLovelace [she/her, love/loves] - 1.6yr

@AshenWolf@hexbear.net after seeing your glowing review, i followed your instructions to install The Morrow's Golden Country! i've played the prologue and i think i'm a bit out of my depth (i've never played Fire Emblem in my life, permadeath is scary). but the character designs are too cute for me to stop playing so i think i'll power through. just one question -

wtf is a support ohnoes

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Mousy [she/her, they/them] - 1.6yr

Damn, internet's fucky today

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oscardejarjayes [comrade/them] - 1.6yr

What would it take for moving to Texas to be worth it?

10k salary increase? 40k? 1 gajillion dollars? Nothing?

How bad is Texas, really?

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TerminalEncounter [she/her] - 1.6yr

Slaxxx is an amazing movie concept

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woodenghost [comrade/them] - 1.6yr

Thanks for the intuitive explanation of magnetic field lines, it's really cool! I also like this maybe less intuitive explanation of why the magnetic force even exists at all: it's just a relativistic effect. Relativity and the electric force acting on moving charges (contracted relative to stationary opposite charges) create an electro static effect that appears like a new force called the magnetic force.

Of course relativity works both ways and electricity can be understood as a variant of magnetism or both can be understood as a mixture of two forces and relativistic effects.

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WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them] - 1.6yr

::: spoiler Another year of spotify wrapped telling on me Top artists:

  1. Against Me!
  2. Rise Against
  3. Dog Park Dissidents
  4. Laura Jane Grace
  5. She/Her/Hers

Top Songs:

  1. I Think I Finally Love Myself by She/Her/Hers
  2. More Than Anything from Hasbin Hotel (I think my brother suggested I like this song partly because singing along to Charlie's part and having Lucifer vicariously call me daughter...)
  3. Watashi e (私へ) - To Me by Supercell
  4. Gender Binary (Fuck you) by Ryan Cassata (transmasc NB representation )
  5. Loser, Baby from Hasbin Hotel :::

At least the third year in a row of spotify doing that. Granted, I guess that's not exactly new... the first song I "Liked" on there was Transgender Dysphoria Blues back in 2014.

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