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How do I stay on task and avoid getting nerd-sniped with ADD?

I was supposed to do boring life stuff today but I got heavily sidetracked by trying to model a physics problem.

This sort of distraction happens a lot to me, when I'm meant to be doing one chore but drop it and do a different one when I see it needs to be done. Like needing to clean the stove, then noticing the cupboards aren't clean, and then staying up late cleaning my kitchen from top to bottom. The sort of thing where it's hard to find motivation but once I do then I'm unstoppable.

I have a friend on adderall, and how he describes that drug it wouldn't work to help this because it helps you focus, but not necessarily on the right thing. He once took it to finish an assignment and then got fixated on a videogame instead and played it until 5am.

niph - 2.2yr

Hello, I am diagnosed with ADHD and I take Vyvanse. It’s similar to adderall but much slower release, and I find that it helps me a lot with both motivation and focus.

Unfortunately there is no shortcut to avoiding the rabbit holes. The things that are proven to help are the things we want to do least, like setting and sticking to a strict schedule. If you need to get specific things done, body doubling (asking a friend to cowork or just be in the same space as you) can help for short bursts.

The more you practice mental discipline with small things the easier it gets with bigger things. But ultimately there is no “cure”; it’s all learning to live with it best you can.

Feel free to DM me with any ADHD stuff. I am not an expert but can maybe share experiences/insights.

Solidarity x

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rio [none/use name] - 2.2yr

I take that too. I wish there were an even slower release version because I find it makes me great for 4-5 hours and then I get vague again by about 3. And I double dose then I can’t sleep.

Nonetheless it’s literally changed my life. I can’t even begin to describe how positive it’s been for me. Literally it’s changed everything.

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niph - 2.2yr

I take a second lower dose at about 1pm. It helps push the effect all the way into the evening. But yes - it’s been life changing for me too

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hexaflexagonbear [he/him] - 2.2yr

I was supposed to do boring life stuff today but I got heavily sidetracked by trying to model a physics problem.

Sounds like a W. Life stuff sucks, physics is fun.

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ReadFanon [any, any] - 2.2yr

I find that I need to write a list of tasks that I need you achieve that day and I block out rough timeframes for the major tasks, as well as things like break time and meals. I use my phone's calendar because it need it to organise my thoughts and for the clear visual representation and flexibility. You might find that a digital calendar is too liable to cause distraction and so you might prefer to use pen and paper or a whiteboard that is something along the lines of this:

This provides external structure and accountability but it also helps guide my focus because I've set my intention.

Timers and alarms are also useful in this too.

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AntiOutsideAktion [he/him] - 2.2yr

Oh no I took this in school I should know how to approach this at least fuck me I'm stupid

Guess that's my immunity

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infuziSporg [e/em/eir] - 2.2yr

I have a friend on adderall, and how he describes that drug it wouldn't work to help this because it helps you focus, but not necessarily on the right thing. He once took it to finish an assignment and then got fixated on a videogame instead and played it until 5am.

Is your friend me?

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sloth [none/use name] - 2.2yr

can't help, but here is a similar thread https://hexbear.net/post/2231370 - Yak Shaving

the video from Malcolm in the Middle in the first comment (in that thread) seems like what you are talking about, maybe

it's funny at least

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mathemachristian [he/him] - 2.2yr

In terms of drugs Ritalin kind of works for me. Trying to do it by willpower is hella draining and will fail sooner or later I found.

What works best for me is setting a routine and then learning that routine till I can do it blindly, then I can go through that routine on autopilot, so I can dream about whatever and can't get distracted by other chores because I dont notice the world around me. Then set a weekly schedule where those routines are done. So for instance every friday between 10-12 I'll clean the floor. I have a set way of doing that. Every evening after 8pm I'll clean the kitchen. I know exactly what I'm going to be doing. I still need headphones to tune out how much I hate what I am doing for that one though.

But it requires practice and planning ahead. So you need to assess what needs and can be done routinely, what exactly that requires, implement a step-by-step plan, plan it into a weekly routine and then do that for a couple weeks until it sinks in. It's way easier to do with person you trust, best with a behavioural therapist. Failing that I'd set a time and date when I'd be planning to do that and then do it on that time, dropping whatever I was doing no matter what. Like if the house is on fire that sucks for the house but I need to do that now.

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NewLeaf - 2.2yr

What's the opposite of this problem called? Anytime I'm presented with a math problem, my brain completely shuts down and I have to reboot so I can think about it

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TrudeauCastroson [he/him] - 2.2yr

I'm slowly getting over that.

The key is everyone forgets what they learn, it's just easier to re-learn it when you want to if you "should" know it. Also no shame in working through someone else's solution instead of doing your own from scratch.

Compare it to something physical, like learning an instrument, or doing physical activity like weightlifting or running. Yeah you're not at your peak ability if you took a long break, but you can definitely get back up to speed if you want.

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NewLeaf - 2.2yr

I think part of the problem is my dad and most of my teachers thought that being intense and putting you on the spot, then ridiculing you over that stuff really gave me anxiety that I carry to this day

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Tomorrow_Farewell [any, they/them] - 2.2yr

Anxiety/fear of math?

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NephewAlphaBravo [he/him] - 2.2yr

I've had different experiences with different adhd meds. With vyvanse I had to be super careful because whatever task I was pointed at when that shit kicked in, that was the next 18 hours of my life. Schoolwork, video games, trawling wikipedia, whatever it was would fully consume the rest of the day. With ritalin and similar I can still get sucked into doing something, but if something shakes me out of it it's much easier to decide how to react, whether to ignore the distraction or take the chance to switch to doing something else. Now that I think about it I should probably have a recurring timer or something to make that happen more often.

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gaycomputeruser [she/her] - 2.2yr

Passage of time can be really hard and can make it difficult to stop doing a problem. They make buzzers you can put in your pocket that buzz every 10 minutes which can help you make sure you don't get distracted for too long. It doesn't solve continuing to do the distraction, but that's a more managable problem (meds, insentives, and practice.) Timers can also fill the same role. Just make sure you have to aknowledge the passing of time. I have found that the fixation on random things dissipates as you use the meds more. Eventually it becomes easker to pick what you need to do. It took me ~1.5 years to get there.

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Tomorrow_Farewell [any, they/them] - 2.2yr

Imagine dealing with 'nerd sniping' while already dealing with other interesting stuff. Or when reading a math textbook, you get sidetracked by thinking about what you are reading about, and do not notice that you have stopped paying attention to the textbook.

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TrudeauCastroson [he/him] - 2.2yr

That was a thing I struggled with in university, properly allocating time to courses I struggled in instead of what I found interesting at study time

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