I notice a lot of people use terms like "psychotic" or "psychopath" as insults and negative descriptions on here. These are clinical terms that are used to describe real people with difficulties, not boogeymen! I don't disagree with the sentiment that these people are doing wrong, but if you wouldn't use the r-slur or "autistic" as an insult (which you shouldn't) then you shouldn't use these words either. And I get the idea of calling someone delusional, but take care that you don't just mean "I disagree with them." Though by posting on neurodiverse I imagine I'm preaching to the choir.
Sincerely, a casual schizoaffective disorder haver.
ashinadash [she/her] - 2.2yr
Unfortunately very normalised in society. Even I was only alerted to words like "insane" being very hurtful a few months ago. I'm a big "absurd", "ridiculous" and of course "unserious" user now.
Good post, hopefully there can be selfcrit and waning usage of these terms in harmful contexts.
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ReadFanon [any, any] - 2.2yr
I usually open people's eyes on the term crazy when I have the right audience because our discourse around that term is the obvious stuff but also it implies that someone should be locked up or deprived of rights but it's also very common to use it to imply that someone "deserves" to be taken advantage of ("our prices are crazy" and "we've gone completely mad").
Kinda gross when you think about it, especially in the context of the stats on mentally ill people being abused and exploited.
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ashinadash [she/her] - 2.2yr
Super fucking gross, I hate to see it. Ableist-ass society...
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CupcakeOfSpice [she/her, fae/faer] - 2.2yr
I'm personally a big fan of understatement, so I like using ridiculously underwhelming insults. Like for this South Dakota governor, calling her meanie of rude when atrocious might be a more appropriate word.
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penitentkulak [none/use name] - 2.2yr
"lame" and "crippled/crippled by" were pointed out to me by a friend who has muscular dystrophy a few years ago, they are also both incredibly common. I've sadly had quite a bit of pushback when trying to correct comrades on it (even in the old r/CTH sub)
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JohnBrownNote [comrade/them, des/pair] - 2.2yr
hey have some more pushback
as a fellow "can't walk properly" person, the last time lame applied to me was a bible passage. the only times I'm (or anyone else, unless there's an american vs commonwealth english thing going on here) am reminded about the ability meaning is when etymology s bring it up like it's a problem.
it's certainly dated to call someone "a cripple" and, again in my experience, that's usually self-ID. Usages like crippling anxiety or a damaged mechanical system ("land a crippled airplane") don't seem to be disparaging or contributing to the marginalization of people so someone would have to explain to me how those are ableist.
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penitentkulak [none/use name] - 2.2yr
Just passing along something that hurt my friend (and according to them, others in their circles). We also met at church so that may have played a part as well.
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ashinadash [she/her] - 2.2yr
Yeah I ejected "crippled" from my vocab ages ago, I guess "hobbled" too? Unfortunately this kind of language change is still considered somewhat fringe, I think...
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ShimmeringKoi [comrade/them] - 2.2yr
90% of the time "ghoul" and "ghoulish" are more apt descriptors for the kind of mindlessly destructive, hollow, anti-human, posessed-by-capital behavior we're talking about anyway.
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ElChapoDeChapo [he/him, comrade/them] - 2.2yr
Vampiric is another potentially good one
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Angel [any] - 2.2yr
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khizuo [ze/zir] - 2.2yr
Good post. I also dislike perjoratives about low intelligence, too. I’ve personally made a very committed effort to cut out ableist insults and language from my vocabulary.
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CupcakeOfSpice [she/her, fae/faer] - 2.2yr
Yeah, it can be almost surprising to see how much ableist language can sneak into our everyday language.
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NewLeaf - 2.2yr
Just to add to the conversation, it is incredible how many words are rooted in ableism. If you're not actively checking your language, you likely use some words that aren't cool without knowing it. I grew up in the 90's which was right before people took this stuff seriously. I hate to admit it, but when I was a kid/teen, my best friend was more on the ball about this stuff and would point it out to me all the time. He really helped me think harder about the words I use.
Also there's this weird problem straight white males over a certain age have where their bigoted ass co workers just assume you're cool with it, and You're faced with the choice of causing a stink and facing being fired or ostracized, or you can let it roll off your back. There's definitely a middle ground, but it comes with risks to your livelihood just the same.
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hungrybread [comrade/them] - 2.2yr
Also there's this weird problem straight white males over a certain age have where their bigoted ass co workers just assume you're cool with it, and You're faced with the choice of causing a stink and facing being fired or ostracized, or you can let it roll off your back. There's definitely a middle ground, but it comes with risks to your livelihood just the same
This one sucks, and I personally struggle with it surprisingly often. Ableism is the most common where I work, but of course these coworkers smuggle in other shit too. It's hard to find the line of correcting coworkers vs protecting your job (right to work state, so of course employment never feels entirely secure). That being said, I have had pretty decent luck with a few more senior people at my current job, there's just a lot of pushback on anything they do not immediately understand. Still don't feel comfortable enough to unmask around these people or be out at work by any means, but there is that sliver of a silver lining.
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GalaxyBrain [they/them] - 2.2yr
Right to work is a crime against humanity, full stop. I live in a slightly more civilized country where that would be absolutely unthinkable to put into law and is SUPER illegal to practice. Co-workers being ableist etc and management allowing it or worse participating is something you could report to the labor board because in a normal place a right to work means that you are protected from discrimination on the job from co-workers and especially employers. Your boss catches shit from the government and probably gets fined and you're basically immune from being fired after because if it could be linked to being retaliatory in any way, that's even worse. Instead you'll just get your hours cut down to next to nothing so you have to quit. To legally fire someone there needs to be written cause and certain causes are protected from immediate termination and require a written warning and then a repeat of whatever violation. Now, a LOT of people here don't know their rights and haven't read the labor code, but we are covered for that stuff.
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DyingOfDeBordom [none/use name] - 2.2yr
Instead you'll just get your hours cut down to next to nothing so you have to quit.
that's still fucked tho and is "constructive dismissal"
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NewLeaf - 2.2yr
My job is surprisingly in a good place with that stuff right now. That hasn't been the case most o the time I've been there though. If it was bad enough, we say something to management. Sometimes I just have to let it roll off my back though. That doesn't mean I partake, but I tell myself "they're the one being shitty. Just because it hits my ears doesn't make me complicit". I wish we lived in a world where we could stand up every time, but that's just not how people are in the US.
It seems to be trending better though
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GalaxyBrain [they/them] - 2.2yr
I have found workplace wise that most of the 'above a certain age' crowd is finally mostly out ofnthe work force. I've certainly seen a big turnaround working kitchens that way, probably cause line cooks age out earlier, once you start getting to around 50, you gotta find something that destroys your body less. They used to be absolute cesspits of toxic masculinity and it's almost completely reverses what was normal just like 7 years ago will get your ass fired now cause the chef is an older millennial, the more senior staff are in their 30s and the main bulk of grunts are Gen z, that and the demographics of the working poor have gotten way further left and a LOT more queer.
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NewLeaf - 2.2yr
My job is essentially ran by a 40ish year old turbolib woman who is pretty good about removing bad elements. I've worked with her for over a decade and she's told me over the years that she's had a lot of trouble with older men having that "I have pairs of jeans older than you" mentality. You're right about the old people getting phased out though. Most of the people I work with are around 40. It's weird and cool seeing what Gen Z has been bringing to the table though.
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GalaxyBrain [they/them] - 2.2yr
First generation to not be able to say the F slur in elementary school. As a group on general, kitchen wise, they're usually fucking awesome. Quick on the up take, usually not afraid to ask questions and what they ask tends to show they're looking at the big picture where old dudes working the line are tunnel vision AF, and they don't take shit. As a millenial, their average guys seem to be as good as our pretty good guys. Most of their worst guys are only as bad as our bottom tier average guys. There's for sure been a bump up in decency. Generations are fake anyway, but there seems to be a general sense of solidarity between us as well, like we're just the same people but older, Gen x is now known for its TERFs and boomers are boomers. There can be some kinda funny splits regarding pop culture stuff but aside from that, it's basically the same people.
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Alaskaball [comrade/them, any] - 2.2yr
Since it wasn't mentioned, please make sure to file a mod report if you do see ableist comments. Mods aren't omnipotent and omnipresent Cthulonic cosmic horrors waiting in the shadows for one of you to slip up so we can bonk you with the silly hammer, so if you see something say something report it!
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carpoftruth [any, any] - 2.2yr
Mods aren't omnipotent and omnipresent Cthulonic cosmic horrors
Speak for yourself
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Alaskaball [comrade/them, any] - 2.2yr
I helped make you, don't give me any lip young great old one!
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comrade_pibb [comrade/them] - 2.2yr
Hexbear mod application: what Bloodborne ending did you get first
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Alaskaball [comrade/them, any] - 2.2yr
I haven't played bloodborne
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ElChapoDeChapo [he/him, comrade/them] - 2.2yr
Been years since I last tried but I couldn't even beat the first boss
Only Fromsoft game where that's ever happened to me
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comrade_pibb [comrade/them] - 2.2yr
Cleric Beast can get wrecked if you hang out by its legs
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Drewfro66 @lemmygrad.ml - 2.2yr
I think it's also important that the site - both moderators and users - have a culture of proportional justice rather than "Black and White" morality.
Users typically treat the "Report" button as a "I think this user should be immediately, indefinitely, and irrevocably banned" button, and are hesitant to use it in cases where they don't think such a harsh punishment is appropriate (and also because, especially on Lemmy, their account is visible to moderators who might retaliate against an apparently-overzealous reporter).
If someone calls something crazy/psycho/etc. in apparently good faith they, at worst, deserve to have their comment removed and get a bit of scoldmail nagging them about their language.
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Alaskaball [comrade/them, any] - 2.2yr
That's down to individual judgement at that point.
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EstraDoll [she/her, he/him] - 2.2yr
Ableism on Hexbear?
43 comments, (35 new)
okay read the comments, thread's cool
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charlie - 2.2yr
Good post. And like others I’ll chime in with the casual ableism regarding intelligence, it takes an effort to cut out those phrases, but it’s worth it and should be encouraged.
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CupcakeOfSpice [she/her, fae/faer] - 2.2yr
Yeah. They can be hard to cut out, but I am trying. Ableism is just so ingrained in US culture it can be hard to even become aware of things you're saying that can be ableist. But it's definitely worth it.
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BakedBeanEnjoyer - 2.2yr
Yeah, in the same way that white hexbears have shitty opinions about race, most NT have shitty behaviours regarding ND comrades. Just like liberals will call Trump and Putin gay, some hexbear users do the ND equivalent of that.
Respect for identity and not using harmful language is a privilege only given to the in-group. That's why it's common to make fun of Ben Shapiro's voice or height even though it's not a moral judgment on him and hurts comrades who have those same traits. Humans are humans.
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Frogmanfromlake [none/use name] - 2.2yr
As others have pointed out, ableism is pretty heavily embedded in mainstream culture and one of the more acceptable forms of discrimination.
I’m guilty of using words like stupid all the time and I’m ND myself. It’s hard to buck something that’s so commonplace.
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hello_hello [undecided, comrade/them] - 2.2yr
You're absolutely right, I keep hearing "stupid", "idiot" and "insane" and "psycho" be used on Hexbear and other left spaces to describe what is mundane fash behavior done virtually all the time by neurotypicals who (news flash!) aren't afraid of any consequences for their actions. I'll make sure to call this out the next time I see it, our ND comrades shouldn't have to suffer just so someone can call Biden some ableist term for the 1000th time.
If someone doesn't agree, they need to be dealt with by the mod team.
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CupcakeOfSpice [she/her, fae/faer] - 2.2yr
I do want to show some grace, though. Like, the language is so common and socially accepted that it can be hard to realize you're stigmatizing people. Though I agree people who double down would be problematic.
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AOCapitulator [they/them, she/her] - 2.2yr
I was surprised how positive the comments section was until I realized this was posted to !neurodiverse@hexbear.net
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ProletarianDictator [none/use name] - 2.2yr
Agreed 100%.
Many words like these reside in a cultural space where you know they're punching down on ND people, but you somehow end up being treated like the asshole the moment you call someone out on it.
I think that's partially responsible for the term "brain worms" taking off in leftist spaces. Rhetorically, we all want some way to mock someone for being particularly intellectually lazy, naïve, or uncritical in their analysis, but it seems like all the words that have the intended weight on the receiver are all just direct comparisons to people with learning or psychiatric disabilities.
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CupcakeOfSpice [she/her, fae/faer] - 2.2yr
Exactly! Those descriptions are definitely the sense we often go for, but they don't carry the mocking tone we'd sometimes like to include, though it may just be inherent that something with a hurtful connotation must be harmful to someone. Otherwise it wouldn't really be hurtful.
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makotech222 [he/him] - 2.2yr
Good post. I think I use these terms a lot without noticing. I will work on cutting out these words as pejoratives in my language.
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Awoo [she/her] - 2.2yr
I'm always willing to change my language but often find it difficult to find appropriate strength replacements. I've been dropping in "ghoul" a lot of the time but very occasionally it just doesn't feel right, you know what I mean?
Medical words I'm not too bad on and they're usually easy to replace but I think ability-based words are a weak point though. I don't have a good replacement words for when someone makes errors out of carelessness, ignorance or airheadedness. I've used dense to replace "stupid" from time to time but it doesn't always feel right to me.
Often the more common the word in society the harder it feels to find a suitable replacement for it.
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 2.2yr
i'll edit the comment where i said it the other day. i used psychotic when i meant psychopathic but unaware that could be harmful
i also understand psychotic is it's own thing. i've experienced temporary psychosis before and psychopathy is still a frontier yet to be explored that will probably end up being a seen as a spectrum of neurodiversity just like autism and ADHD
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SpiderFarmer [he/him] - 2.2yr
I have been trying to cut "psycho" out of my vocab. Like, it's one of those things where people know what you're really getting at, but it's still not great.
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rah @feddit.uk - 2.2yr
"psychotic" or "psychopath"
I don't disagree with the sentiment that these people are doing wrong
How is experiencing psychosis, as a psychotic does, doing wrong?
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CupcakeOfSpice [she/her, fae/faer] - 2.2yr
No, I mean that the people being described as psychotic is doing wrong. One example was s certain governor who killed her dog and then bragged about it. Some people were calling her psychotic. My point is she was doing wrong, but psychosis is A) not what's happening and B) not wrong. Sorry for the miscommunication.
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EllenKelly [comrade/them] - 2.2yr
If you see something, say something, call it out comrade, we will support you ✊
CupcakeOfSpice in neurodiverse
Ableism on Hexbear?
I notice a lot of people use terms like "psychotic" or "psychopath" as insults and negative descriptions on here. These are clinical terms that are used to describe real people with difficulties, not boogeymen! I don't disagree with the sentiment that these people are doing wrong, but if you wouldn't use the r-slur or "autistic" as an insult (which you shouldn't) then you shouldn't use these words either. And I get the idea of calling someone delusional, but take care that you don't just mean "I disagree with them." Though by posting on neurodiverse I imagine I'm preaching to the choir.
Sincerely, a casual schizoaffective disorder haver.
Unfortunately very normalised in society. Even I was only alerted to words like "insane" being very hurtful a few months ago. I'm a big "absurd", "ridiculous" and of course "unserious" user now.
Good post,
hopefully there can be selfcrit and waning usage of these terms in harmful contexts.
I usually open people's eyes on the term crazy when I have the right audience because our discourse around that term is the obvious stuff but also it implies that someone should be locked up or deprived of rights but it's also very common to use it to imply that someone "deserves" to be taken advantage of ("our prices are crazy" and "we've gone completely mad").
Kinda gross when you think about it, especially in the context of the stats on mentally ill people being abused and exploited.
Super fucking gross, I hate to see it. Ableist-ass society...
I'm personally a big fan of understatement, so I like using ridiculously underwhelming insults. Like for this South Dakota governor, calling her meanie of rude when atrocious might be a more appropriate word.
"lame" and "crippled/crippled by" were pointed out to me by a friend who has muscular dystrophy a few years ago, they are also both incredibly common. I've sadly had quite a bit of pushback when trying to correct comrades on it (even in the old r/CTH sub)
hey have some more pushback
as a fellow "can't walk properly" person, the last time lame applied to me was a bible passage. the only times I'm (or anyone else, unless there's an american vs commonwealth english thing going on here) am reminded about the ability meaning is when etymology
s bring it up like it's a problem.
it's certainly dated to call someone "a cripple" and, again in my experience, that's usually self-ID. Usages like crippling anxiety or a damaged mechanical system ("land a crippled airplane") don't seem to be disparaging or contributing to the marginalization of people so someone would have to explain to me how those are ableist.
Just passing along something that hurt my friend (and according to them, others in their circles). We also met at church so that may have played a part as well.
Yeah I ejected "crippled" from my vocab ages ago, I guess "hobbled" too? Unfortunately this kind of language change is still considered somewhat fringe, I think...
90% of the time "ghoul" and "ghoulish" are more apt descriptors for the kind of mindlessly destructive, hollow, anti-human, posessed-by-capital behavior we're talking about anyway.
Vampiric is another potentially good one
Good post. I also dislike perjoratives about low intelligence, too. I’ve personally made a very committed effort to cut out ableist insults and language from my vocabulary.
Yeah, it can be almost surprising to see how much ableist language can sneak into our everyday language.
Just to add to the conversation, it is incredible how many words are rooted in ableism. If you're not actively checking your language, you likely use some words that aren't cool without knowing it. I grew up in the 90's which was right before people took this stuff seriously. I hate to admit it, but when I was a kid/teen, my best friend was more on the ball about this stuff and would point it out to me all the time. He really helped me think harder about the words I use.
Also there's this weird problem straight white males over a certain age have where their bigoted ass co workers just assume you're cool with it, and You're faced with the choice of causing a stink and facing being fired or ostracized, or you can let it roll off your back. There's definitely a middle ground, but it comes with risks to your livelihood just the same.
This one sucks, and I personally struggle with it surprisingly often. Ableism is the most common where I work, but of course these coworkers smuggle in other shit too. It's hard to find the line of correcting coworkers vs protecting your job (right to work state, so of course employment never feels entirely secure). That being said, I have had pretty decent luck with a few more senior people at my current job, there's just a lot of pushback on anything they do not immediately understand. Still don't feel comfortable enough to unmask around these people or be out at work by any means, but there is that sliver of a silver lining.
Right to work is a crime against humanity, full stop. I live in a slightly more civilized country where that would be absolutely unthinkable to put into law and is SUPER illegal to practice. Co-workers being ableist etc and management allowing it or worse participating is something you could report to the labor board because in a normal place a right to work means that you are protected from discrimination on the job from co-workers and especially employers. Your boss catches shit from the government and probably gets fined and you're basically immune from being fired after because if it could be linked to being retaliatory in any way, that's even worse. Instead you'll just get your hours cut down to next to nothing so you have to quit. To legally fire someone there needs to be written cause and certain causes are protected from immediate termination and require a written warning and then a repeat of whatever violation. Now, a LOT of people here don't know their rights and haven't read the labor code, but we are covered for that stuff.
that's still fucked tho and is "constructive dismissal"
My job is surprisingly in a good place with that stuff right now. That hasn't been the case most o the time I've been there though. If it was bad enough, we say something to management. Sometimes I just have to let it roll off my back though. That doesn't mean I partake, but I tell myself "they're the one being shitty. Just because it hits my ears doesn't make me complicit". I wish we lived in a world where we could stand up every time, but that's just not how people are in the US.
It seems to be trending better though
I have found workplace wise that most of the 'above a certain age' crowd is finally mostly out ofnthe work force. I've certainly seen a big turnaround working kitchens that way, probably cause line cooks age out earlier, once you start getting to around 50, you gotta find something that destroys your body less. They used to be absolute cesspits of toxic masculinity and it's almost completely reverses what was normal just like 7 years ago will get your ass fired now cause the chef is an older millennial, the more senior staff are in their 30s and the main bulk of grunts are Gen z, that and the demographics of the working poor have gotten way further left and a LOT more queer.
My job is essentially ran by a 40ish year old turbolib woman who is pretty good about removing bad elements. I've worked with her for over a decade and she's told me over the years that she's had a lot of trouble with older men having that "I have pairs of jeans older than you" mentality. You're right about the old people getting phased out though. Most of the people I work with are around 40. It's weird and cool seeing what Gen Z has been bringing to the table though.
First generation to not be able to say the F slur in elementary school. As a group on general, kitchen wise, they're usually fucking awesome. Quick on the up take, usually not afraid to ask questions and what they ask tends to show they're looking at the big picture where old dudes working the line are tunnel vision AF, and they don't take shit. As a millenial, their average guys seem to be as good as our pretty good guys. Most of their worst guys are only as bad as our bottom tier average guys. There's for sure been a bump up in decency. Generations are fake anyway, but there seems to be a general sense of solidarity between us as well, like we're just the same people but older, Gen x is now known for its TERFs and boomers are boomers. There can be some kinda funny splits regarding pop culture stuff but aside from that, it's basically the same people.
Since it wasn't mentioned, please make sure to file a mod report if you do see ableist comments. Mods aren't omnipotent and omnipresent Cthulonic cosmic horrors waiting in the shadows for one of you to slip up so we can bonk you with the silly hammer, so if you see something
say somethingreport it!Speak for yourself
I helped make you, don't give me any lip young great old one!
Hexbear mod application: what Bloodborne ending did you get first
Been years since I last tried but I couldn't even beat the first boss
Only Fromsoft game where that's ever happened to me
Cleric Beast can get wrecked if you hang out by its legs
I think it's also important that the site - both moderators and users - have a culture of proportional justice rather than "Black and White" morality.
Users typically treat the "Report" button as a "I think this user should be immediately, indefinitely, and irrevocably banned" button, and are hesitant to use it in cases where they don't think such a harsh punishment is appropriate (and also because, especially on Lemmy, their account is visible to moderators who might retaliate against an apparently-overzealous reporter).
If someone calls something crazy/psycho/etc. in apparently good faith they, at worst, deserve to have their comment removed and get a bit of scoldmail nagging them about their language.
That's down to individual judgement at that point.
okay read the comments, thread's cool
Good post. And like others I’ll chime in with the casual ableism regarding intelligence, it takes an effort to cut out those phrases, but it’s worth it and should be encouraged.
Yeah. They can be hard to cut out, but I am trying. Ableism is just so ingrained in US culture it can be hard to even become aware of things you're saying that can be ableist. But it's definitely worth it.
Yeah, in the same way that white hexbears have shitty opinions about race, most NT have shitty behaviours regarding ND comrades. Just like liberals will call Trump and Putin gay, some hexbear users do the ND equivalent of that.
Respect for identity and not using harmful language is a privilege only given to the in-group. That's why it's common to make fun of Ben Shapiro's voice or height even though it's not a moral judgment on him and hurts comrades who have those same traits. Humans are humans.
As others have pointed out, ableism is pretty heavily embedded in mainstream culture and one of the more acceptable forms of discrimination.
I’m guilty of using words like stupid all the time and I’m ND myself. It’s hard to buck something that’s so commonplace.
You're absolutely right, I keep hearing "stupid", "idiot" and "insane" and "psycho" be used on Hexbear and other left spaces to describe what is mundane fash behavior done virtually all the time by neurotypicals who (news flash!) aren't afraid of any consequences for their actions. I'll make sure to call this out the next time I see it, our ND comrades shouldn't have to suffer just so someone can call Biden some ableist term for the 1000th time.
If someone doesn't agree, they need to be dealt with by the mod team.
I do want to show some grace, though. Like, the language is so common and socially accepted that it can be hard to realize you're stigmatizing people. Though I agree people who double down would be problematic.
I was surprised how positive the comments section was until I realized this was posted to !neurodiverse@hexbear.net
Agreed 100%.
Many words like these reside in a cultural space where you know they're punching down on ND people, but you somehow end up being treated like the asshole the moment you call someone out on it.
I think that's partially responsible for the term "brain worms" taking off in leftist spaces. Rhetorically, we all want some way to mock someone for being particularly intellectually lazy, naïve, or uncritical in their analysis, but it seems like all the words that have the intended weight on the receiver are all just direct comparisons to people with learning or psychiatric disabilities.
Exactly! Those descriptions are definitely the sense we often go for, but they don't carry the mocking tone we'd sometimes like to include, though it may just be inherent that something with a hurtful connotation must be harmful to someone. Otherwise it wouldn't really be hurtful.
Good post. I think I use these terms a lot without noticing. I will work on cutting out these words as pejoratives in my language.
I'm always willing to change my language but often find it difficult to find appropriate strength replacements. I've been dropping in "ghoul" a lot of the time but very occasionally it just doesn't feel right, you know what I mean?
Medical words I'm not too bad on and they're usually easy to replace but I think ability-based words are a weak point though. I don't have a good replacement words for when someone makes errors out of carelessness, ignorance or airheadedness. I've used dense to replace "stupid" from time to time but it doesn't always feel right to me.
Often the more common the word in society the harder it feels to find a suitable replacement for it.
i'll edit the comment where i said it the other day. i used psychotic when i meant psychopathic but unaware that could be harmful
i also understand psychotic is it's own thing. i've experienced temporary psychosis before and psychopathy is still a frontier yet to be explored that will probably end up being a seen as a spectrum of neurodiversity just like autism and ADHD
I have been trying to cut "psycho" out of my vocab. Like, it's one of those things where people know what you're really getting at, but it's still not great.
How is experiencing psychosis, as a psychotic does, doing wrong?
No, I mean that the people being described as psychotic is doing wrong. One example was s certain governor who killed her dog and then bragged about it. Some people were calling her psychotic. My point is she was doing wrong, but psychosis is A) not what's happening and B) not wrong. Sorry for the miscommunication.
If you see something, say something, call it out comrade, we will support you ✊