The fact that for years I have felt my heart flutter when strangers "mis"gender me and feel slightly disappointed when they "correctly" gender me requires no further investigation, just a funny lil quirk
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ashinadash [she/her] - 2.3yr
Your brain just does that
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queermunist she/her - 2.3yr
This is what got me - during the pandemic I'd get ma'amed when I was masked up, after a few months of that it finally sunk in. đ
I have no idea what the hell I was even thinking at the time. "Weird I feel really good today! I guess I just must have slept well lol "
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SacredExcrement [any, comrade/them] - 2.3yr
I'm sorry but that's hilarious
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ashinadash [she/her] - 2.3yr
One thing this meme doesn't acknowlege is that there's also a high chance you'll be cuter as a girl (or other gender of your choosing) ask me how I know!
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SnowySkyes - 2.3yr
This is very true. I can attest to this as well!
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Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her] - 2.3yr
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BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her] - 2.3yr
What cis guy wouldn't hit a button that made it so he was born a woman instead, am I right guys?
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GenderIsOpSec [she/her, kit/kit's] - 2.3yr
i too remember scrolling r/traaaa and being faced with memes that spoke to my soul
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pooh [she/her, love/loves] - 2.3yr
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lorty @lemmygrad.ml - 2.3yr
Yeah this comic did it for me too, although I arrived at a different conclusion.
Probably not the best place to discuss it but in short: I hate certain social aspects and expectations of being a man but I certainly wouldn't want to have some of the expectations of being a woman on me. I just wish we could move past this duality so we could have the best of both.
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SnowySkyes - 2.3yr
Gods I wish I was exposed to more stuff in the past. Or anything really. Might've cracked my egg sooner. ;w;
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Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her] - 2.3yr
am i missing the bit here or did the attachment not load right?
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Tachanka [comrade/them] - 2.3yr
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citrussy_capybara [ze/hir] - 2.3yr
::: spoiler official transcript
Panel 1
Greg is sitting at his computer, puttering around doing nothing
Panel 2
Post shows up on screen: âIf youâre under the assumption that youâre a cis guy but have always dreamed of being a girl, and the only reason you havenât transitioned is because youâre afraid youâll be an âuglyâ girl: Thatâs dysphoria. Youâre literally a trans girl already, hon.â (And yes, this is the exact text of the post that I read that set my brain ablaze)
Panel 3
Greg looks freaked out.
Panel 4
Greg looks SUPER freaked out.
:::
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FunkyStuff [he/him] - 2.3yr
Hexbear loads embeds weird, click the title, it's a comic.
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DinosaurThussy [they/them] - 2.3yr
Itâs one thing I miss from before the de-fork. Legacy Hexbear embeds were handled better, although probably with more privacy concerns like auto loading google forms and stuff like that.
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FunkyStuff [he/him] - 2.3yr
Yeah, I think it'd be worth looking into expanding the functionality with a blocklist for Google stuff but I honestly have no clue how to work something like that so I can't try myself.
Sorry if this isn't the place to say any of this and I'll remove it if so, but this just reminded me of my own experience:
Many years ago I had an almost irresistable urge to go talk to a doctor about wanting to be a woman that lasted somewhere around a couple of months. During that time I had no insurance nor any means to pay for HRT or anything like that. Instead I experimented with clothes and makeup and I shaved my whole body basically. It felt like a large release of pressure to even do that much but it wasn't enough.
This was prior to having really spoken to anyone about it, and it was not something that was popular in media or even anything I saw online for that matter, it just kind of happened really suddenly.
I remember posting something about it on Reddit and being downvoted into oblivion. It wasn't a generally acceptable thing to even discuss it seemed.
But then after a few months that urge began to fade away slowly. Less and less did I have that intense desire. Over the next year or so I began to lose interest in any sort of feminization at all. I threw the clothes away and stopped shaving all my body hair and I felt better.
Now it has been over a decade and change since that time and I have absolutely no desire whatsoever to be a woman. In fact I feel the opposite. I don't want to be a woman at all and I'm happy the way I am altogether. I actually think I'd be far more upset with myself now had I transitioned and I'd feel like I made a huge mistake.
I have no idea what happened or why it happened but it was so sudden and so intense it makes me wonder if there was something in my food or what?
Like, how the fuck does that even happen? Was it just some deep-seated desire to experiment that was triggered by something?
I can't even begin to explain it because throughout my life prior to that happening I don't remember ever wanting to be a girl or woman.
I'm not saying it's wrong or that anyone shouldn't feel that way, but for that urge to come on so suddenly and so strongly and then just fade away and now I have absolutely no feeling toward that, it's just bizarre and doesn't make much sense to me.
Has this ever happened to anyone else?
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DinosaurThussy [they/them] - 2.3yr
Could be fluidity. Could be repression. Could be random fluctuations that youâll probably never really decipher. Whether or not you wanna try and understand it better is up to you and itâs valid either way. My dysphoria comes and goes, sometimes for long periods of time. But itâs not like cis people never have any natural desires or curiosity about gender experimentation. I think itâs normal.
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Thordros [he/him, comrade/them] - 2.3yr
Experimenting with sex and gender stuff is extremely normal, and I wish everybody treated it normally. I've sucked enough dicks in my life to recognize that I don't really like it enough to do it full time. And both of our experiences are okay!
You gave it a try, and it didn't feel like you, so... that's probably not you. I'm glad you could sort it out, and be your authentic self! That's nothing to be ashamed of.
tactical_trans_karen in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns
Joe is going Star is on
https://reallifecomics.com/comic.php?comic=june-29-2020Grabbing the bus boycott and I don't think
lalala I can't hear you
The fact that for years I have felt my heart flutter when strangers "mis"gender me and feel slightly disappointed when they "correctly" gender me requires no further investigation, just a funny lil quirk
Your brain just does that
This is what got me - during the pandemic I'd get ma'amed when I was masked up, after a few months of that it finally sunk in. đ
I have no idea what the hell I was even thinking at the time. "Weird I feel really good today! I guess I just must have slept well lol "
I'm sorry but that's hilarious
One thing this meme doesn't acknowlege is that there's also a high chance you'll be cuter as a girl (or other gender of your choosing)
ask me how I know!
This is very true. I can attest to this as well!
What cis guy wouldn't hit a button that made it so he was born a woman instead, am I right guys?
i too remember scrolling r/traaaa and being faced with memes that spoke to my soul
Yeah this comic did it for me too, although I arrived at a different conclusion.
Which was?
Probably not the best place to discuss it but in short: I hate certain social aspects and expectations of being a man but I certainly wouldn't want to have some of the expectations of being a woman on me. I just wish we could move past this duality so we could have the best of both.
Gods I wish I was exposed to more stuff in the past. Or anything really. Might've cracked my egg sooner. ;w;
am i missing the bit here or did the attachment not load right?
::: spoiler official transcript Panel 1 Greg is sitting at his computer, puttering around doing nothing
Panel 2 Post shows up on screen: âIf youâre under the assumption that youâre a cis guy but have always dreamed of being a girl, and the only reason you havenât transitioned is because youâre afraid youâll be an âuglyâ girl: Thatâs dysphoria. Youâre literally a trans girl already, hon.â (And yes, this is the exact text of the post that I read that set my brain ablaze)
Panel 3 Greg looks freaked out.
Panel 4 Greg looks SUPER freaked out. :::
Hexbear loads embeds weird, click the title, it's a comic.
Itâs one thing I miss from before the de-fork. Legacy Hexbear embeds were handled better, although probably with more privacy concerns like auto loading google forms and stuff like that.
Yeah, I think it'd be worth looking into expanding the functionality with a blocklist for Google stuff but I honestly have no clue how to work something like that so I can't try myself.
no attachment, just a link
https://reallifecomics.com/comic.php?comic=june-29-2020
didn't even show anything for me on mobile. wack
strong foxtrot vibes from the earliest strips
Sorry if this isn't the place to say any of this and I'll remove it if so, but this just reminded me of my own experience:
Many years ago I had an almost irresistable urge to go talk to a doctor about wanting to be a woman that lasted somewhere around a couple of months. During that time I had no insurance nor any means to pay for HRT or anything like that. Instead I experimented with clothes and makeup and I shaved my whole body basically. It felt like a large release of pressure to even do that much but it wasn't enough.
This was prior to having really spoken to anyone about it, and it was not something that was popular in media or even anything I saw online for that matter, it just kind of happened really suddenly.
I remember posting something about it on Reddit and being downvoted into oblivion. It wasn't a generally acceptable thing to even discuss it seemed.
But then after a few months that urge began to fade away slowly. Less and less did I have that intense desire. Over the next year or so I began to lose interest in any sort of feminization at all. I threw the clothes away and stopped shaving all my body hair and I felt better.
Now it has been over a decade and change since that time and I have absolutely no desire whatsoever to be a woman. In fact I feel the opposite. I don't want to be a woman at all and I'm happy the way I am altogether. I actually think I'd be far more upset with myself now had I transitioned and I'd feel like I made a huge mistake.
I have no idea what happened or why it happened but it was so sudden and so intense it makes me wonder if there was something in my food or what?
Like, how the fuck does that even happen? Was it just some deep-seated desire to experiment that was triggered by something?
I can't even begin to explain it because throughout my life prior to that happening I don't remember ever wanting to be a girl or woman.
I'm not saying it's wrong or that anyone shouldn't feel that way, but for that urge to come on so suddenly and so strongly and then just fade away and now I have absolutely no feeling toward that, it's just bizarre and doesn't make much sense to me.
Has this ever happened to anyone else?
Could be fluidity. Could be repression. Could be random fluctuations that youâll probably never really decipher. Whether or not you wanna try and understand it better is up to you and itâs valid either way. My dysphoria comes and goes, sometimes for long periods of time. But itâs not like cis people never have any natural desires or curiosity about gender experimentation. I think itâs normal.
Experimenting with sex and gender stuff is extremely normal, and I wish everybody treated it normally. I've sucked enough dicks in my life to recognize that I don't really like it enough to do it full time. And both of our experiences are okay!
You gave it a try, and it didn't feel like you, so... that's probably not you. I'm glad you could sort it out, and be your authentic self! That's nothing to be ashamed of.