I am terrible with names to begin with so I just call everyone "dude", regardless of gender. That includes my wife, father, etc.
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Cromalin [she/her] - 2.7yr
ok i'm not going to remove this but i need you to understand why people in the transgender comm might not be pleased with this attitude
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ashinadash [she/her] - 2.7yr
Kinda cringe. I love "dude" and say it a lot because of brainworms, but I am pretty careful with referring to people by it. It has both a potentially unpleasant sound AND is gendered.
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Cromalin [she/her] - 2.7yr
yeah, there's one transfem friend i have who calls me dude and i call her dude and that's just like a thing we do, but if someone else does it it really raises my hackles even if i don't always tell them
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ashinadash [she/her] - 2.7yr
Getting called "dude" by a random and just looking at them real shitty-like instead of saying anything.
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Orannis62 [ze/hir] - 2.7yr
No thank you
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lugal @lemmy.ml - 2.7yr
Sounds reasonable, dude
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Jo Miran - 2.7yr
Thanks dude
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Adhriva @lemmygrad.ml - 2.7yr
Trying to find a suitable name during my transition was like "Hi! Don't mind all the glitter and sparkles, I'm totally not a faerie....but can I have your name?"
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Orannis62 [ze/hir] - 2.7yr
I have 4, kinda-sorta 5. I honestly love this, cis people don't know what they're missing, being tied to one name their whole lives
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hemko @lemmy.dbzer0.com - 2.7yr
Oh no, I may be cis but I'm a gamer. I may login to a new name and identity in a heartbeat
No but seriously, you always go by your ign in voip, whether it was xx_bussyslayer_xx or Mordogai
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citrussy_capybara [ze/hir] - 2.7yr
Sub a party name for a business name and no one will know the difference.
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Owl [he/him] - 2.7yr
Just 6? You've gotta get those numbers up. I've got 6 of those too and I'm not even trans. (PS you all know me by #7)
I have another name which is the name my mom was going to give me if I was born female, apparently the doctors didn't find out my genitalia until I left my mom's body.
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2.7yr
i ended up with my would-have-been cis girl name and i love it so much
strong recommend for anyone with cool parent(s)
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FemboyStalin [she/her,any] - 2.7yr
My younger sister ended up getting that name. So I had to come up with a new one.
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2.7yr
the kids these days! no respect for their elders at all
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 2.7yr
yep that's the one i've picked too! told me my alt name and my sister's alt name and like many things it helped get that egg a cracklin
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2.7yr
hell yeah, it's cool that it got to be part of your process. i only learned mine post-transition, when i was like 2 years in and still functionally nameless lol
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 2.7yr
still super cool though! i am still very much not out to family i often wonder what my mom will say/react lol
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Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's] - 2.7yr
i hope it's nothing but love and support, if and when you feel comfortable crossing that bridge
Cromalin in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns
i only have 6 of the 7
guess which one i don't have!
I am terrible with names to begin with so I just call everyone "dude", regardless of gender. That includes my wife, father, etc.
ok i'm not going to remove this but i need you to understand why people in the transgender comm might not be pleased with this attitude
Kinda cringe. I love "dude" and say it a lot because of brainworms, but I am pretty careful with referring to people by it. It has both a potentially unpleasant sound AND is gendered.
yeah, there's one transfem friend i have who calls me dude and i call her dude and that's just like a thing we do, but if someone else does it it really raises my hackles even if i don't always tell them
Getting called "dude" by a random and just looking at them real shitty-like instead of saying anything.
No thank you
Sounds reasonable, dude
Thanks dude
Trying to find a suitable name during my transition was like "Hi! Don't mind all the glitter and sparkles, I'm totally not a faerie....but can I have your name?"
I have 4, kinda-sorta 5. I honestly love this, cis people don't know what they're missing, being tied to one name their whole lives
Oh no, I may be cis but I'm a gamer. I may login to a new name and identity in a heartbeat
No but seriously, you always go by your ign in voip, whether it was xx_bussyslayer_xx or Mordogai
Sub a party name for a business name and no one will know the difference.
Just 6? You've gotta get those numbers up. I've got 6 of those too and I'm not even trans. (PS you all know me by #7)
I guess you don't have business name
I have another name which is the name my mom was going to give me if I was born female, apparently the doctors didn't find out my genitalia until I left my mom's body.
i ended up with my would-have-been cis girl name and i love it so much
strong recommend for anyone with cool parent(s)
My younger sister ended up getting that name. So I had to come up with a new one.
the kids these days! no respect for their elders at all
yep that's the one i've picked too! told me my alt name and my sister's alt name and like many things it helped get that egg a cracklin
hell yeah, it's cool that it got to be part of your process. i only learned mine post-transition, when i was like 2 years in and still functionally nameless lol
still super cool though! i am still very much not out to family i often wonder what my mom will say/react lol
i hope it's nothing but love and support, if and when you feel comfortable crossing that bridge
best of luck!