I am thankful to trans women for making "Jadzia" a common and ordinary name.
(Jerboa won't let me use Dax emoji here.)
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kristina [she/her] - 2.7yr
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TrashGoblin [he/him, they/them] - 2.7yr
Thank you.
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ΕumaΕo [he/him] - 2.7yr
What the fuck is a Polish name doing outside of Poland, and why is it in the diminutive form and not the standard form of Jadwiga ππππππ
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Orannis62 [ze/hir] - 2.7yr
Star Trek
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ΕumaΕo [he/him] - 2.7yr
Polish culture will survive the unforgiving pace of time! πππ
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ΕumaΕo [he/him] - 2.7yr
Wait now that I'm thinking about it, would it be ok to call a non-Polish Jadzia a Jadwiga as a Polish person? It only makes sense to me, as we only use the diminutive form for close friends and children.
And I mean they chose the name Jadzia after all. Also how the fuck do Americans butcher pronounce the name?
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GalaxyBrain [they/them] - 2.7yr
Jad-zee-ah. She's also an alien
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ΕumaΕo [he/him] - 2.7yr
Huh
Well the correct pronunciation would be ya-jia
So Jad-zee-ah is a total fucking ruin comparing it. π
I love my trans comrades (because if I do not they will destroy me with their terrifying power)
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AcidSmiley [she/her] - 2.7yr
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FourteenEyes [he/him] - 2.7yr
No please don't hurt me
Also if you have any super cute femmy nb friends maybe tell them to come destroy me instead?
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AcidSmiley [she/her] - 2.7yr
super cute femmy nb friends
That's like 90% of my friends nowadays and the other 10% are either super cute androgynous and / or genderfluid enbies or super cute trans women, the latter of which are mostly named Sarah and accordingly lethal. When i tell them to destroy a guy, they will also assume i mean "by using a bladed weapon", we're going a bit overboard with the whole sword lesbian thing atm.
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FourteenEyes [he/him] - 2.7yr
sword lesbians
Cursed to be attracted to people who mostly aren't interested in cishet white men I guess
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AcidSmiley [she/her] - 2.7yr
tbh it's kinda problematic to use AFAB in contexts where you just want a more up to date way to say "bioLoGiCaL women", especially when referring to nonbinary people who are probably not fine with being called women at all. Please don't shoehorn people back into bio-essentialist and binary categories that may be major dysphoria triggers for them.
The entire AFAB / AMAB thing was originally coined by the inter community to highlight the arbitrary nature of doctors assigning gender by taking a brief look at a baby's genitals, not as a way to ignore self identification which is the only actually workable identifier of gender. The AGAB of the people you find attractive is irrelevant to begin with and you usually wouldn't have a reliable way to tell it in the first place.
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FourteenEyes [he/him] - 2.7yr
Thanks for the feedback. Edited. Tbh I'm scared to express desires like this because I don't want to be problematic or chaser-y. And of course, more importantly, I don't want to hurt people or make them uncomfortable. And I recognize this comm isn't for me so it's on me to examine this stuff and think very hard about my word choice before posting.
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AcidSmiley [she/her] - 2.7yr
If you're interested in learning more about the subject, here's a good video about the use of AFAB/AMAB as a replacement gender binary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv1byknT_jU
As far as the rest goes, yeah, it's difficult for a straight dude to be sexually and / or romantically interested in queer women and nonbinary people. The main thing to look out for is to leave people who identify as lesbian alone, none of us want to be approached by men in this way. Stick to trying to date bi / pan people and don't be an ass about it. When we're talking about a lesbian who may actually be a little bit bi or make an exception once in a while, actively trying to be that exception or even "fix" her will automatically and completely disqualify you and make you the potential subject of a vent post on r/actual_lesbians. pls don't be that guy.
When you're dating a trans person, you need to be aware of the fact that our bodies may be subject to change and that it is exclusively within our agency how we want that to happen. Bodily autonomy and the fight against being gatekept and doubted in the legitimacy of our gender identity are the central struggle of many trans people. In the case of transmasc people, in this context meaning: people who undergo physical changes masculinizing their body, this means that the cute butch looking person you developed a crush on may at some point grow a beard, get male body odor, may experience changes to their genitals, that they may be extremely uncomfortable with their chest being touched until they get a mastectomy, that their hips and butt are a constant source of dysphoric pain and insecurity for them and so on. It may mean deciding on he / him pronouns and being referred to as your boyfriend at some point, which frequently causes problems when cis dudes not used to queering their sexuality have to refer to him in such a way in front of their straight friends. Dating transmasc enbies when you're actually straight can and frequently will lead to the realization that you're simply not gay enough to maintain a relationship with them. All of these are actual examples from the dating lifes of trans men and transmasc nonbinary people i know personally, this is extremely common and very painful to them. Almost every trans dude and transmasc enbie i know has at least one awful, transphobic, manipulative boyfriend in their past. It's both horrible and super widespread. There's problems with transmasc NBs dating cis lesbians as well and they are often not that dissimilar, but i'm sticking to how queer women, fems and transmascs read as women or woman-aligned struggle when dating cishet dudes because that is what is relevant to what we're discussing here.
I could go on with trans women and NB transfems, but i already talk about our experience with chasers a lot, so i'll leave it at this.
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ThereRisesARedStar [she/her, they/them] - 2.7yr
Cursed to be attracted to people who mostly aren't interested in cishet white men I guess
This is apparently a super common thought for trans women who haven't realized yet. Along the lines of "why do I keep ending up attracted to lesbians?"
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FourteenEyes [he/him] - 2.7yr
I've explored this thoughtspace and I'm pretty secure in my gender, really, just not in the idea of being manly or masculine in the traditional sense. Since, you know, that requires integrating with patriarchy and controlling people with violence.
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kristina [she/her] - 2.7yr
Hm
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WittyProfileName2 [she/her] - 2.7yr
I keep getting disapproval from folks because I'm refusing to pick a new name and my current one is very male. Oh and people who're otherwise very supportive pivoting to assuming I'm a she/they enbie that just doesn't know all the lingo.
I have to be like, "Yes I know what non-binary means, and just because I don't dress super femininely or want to change my name to Branwen or some shit, doesn't make me one."
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heartheartbreak [fae/faer] - 2.7yr
trans girls with names that a boy could also have are awesome
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WittyProfileName2 [she/her] - 2.7yr
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zifnab25 [he/him, any] - 2.7yr
KJB had a bit for a minute about insecure trans girls just going to "Girl Names" website and picking the first one they find on the list to get it over with.
Five years later, Alices and Abis are out here rocking your world.
my name's "normal" on my region, but foreign-sounding/"abnormal" elsewhere
what does this make me? π€
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Flyberius [comrade/them] - 2.7yr
Formidable
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machiabelly [she/her] - 2.7yr
Mines the same but the opposite. In other countries its super normal. But, in mine its uncommon enough that all the other (same name queens) gal pal around over it whenever we meet another one.
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Erika3sis [she/her, xe/xem] - 2.7yr
On what level of terrifying energy is "Erika"
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NephewAlphaBravo [he/him] - 2.7yr
terrifying even on a cis woman
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Cromalin [she/her] - 2.7yr
associating it with umineko makes it terrifying
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JohannaChittarra - 2.7yr
S A R A H
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edge [he/him] - 2.7yr
But what's their pit bull's name? I'm guessing Morningstar's is "Destroyer of Worlds and Consumer of Souls", the friendliest little goofball you'll ever meet.
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bigbologna [she/her] - 2.7yr
Out of coincidence I picked a name that was in the top 10 most popular girl's names for my birth year. I just liked how it sounded :meow-shining:
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SexUnderSocialism [she/her] - 2.7yr
I remember back when I first started questioning my gender, not knowing I was trans yet, I used to call myself Jessica for a while. Later I realized how incredibly common that name was among trans women. It felt like every group would have at least one Jessica.
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Des [she/her, they/them] - 2.7yr
my actual (not username)femme name is super normal and also kind of androgynous and i was lucky to be told repeatedly by my mom of my "alternate girls name" when she was picking out names. i prefer using the more andro nickname too but i'm a pretty butch transgirl anyways
was one of the many first eggy things that tickled my brain.
Cromalin in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns
sarah
I am thankful to trans women for making "Jadzia" a common and ordinary name.
(Jerboa won't let me use Dax emoji here.)
Thank you.
What the fuck is a Polish name doing outside of Poland, and why is it in the diminutive form and not the standard form of Jadwiga ππππππ
Star Trek
Polish culture will survive the unforgiving pace of time! πππ
Wait now that I'm thinking about it, would it be ok to call a non-Polish Jadzia a Jadwiga as a Polish person? It only makes sense to me, as we only use the diminutive form for close friends and children.
And I mean they chose the name Jadzia after all. Also how the fuck do Americans
butcherpronounce the name?Jad-zee-ah. She's also an alien
Huh
Well the correct pronunciation would be ya-jia
So Jad-zee-ah is a total fucking ruin comparing it. π
She's from Trill, not Poland
That's my aunt's name, damn
I love my trans comrades (because if I do not they will destroy me with their terrifying power)
No please don't hurt me
Also if you have any super cute femmy nb friends maybe tell them to come destroy me instead?
That's like 90% of my friends nowadays and the other 10% are either super cute androgynous and / or genderfluid enbies or super cute trans women, the latter of which are mostly named Sarah and accordingly lethal. When i tell them to destroy a guy, they will also assume i mean "by using a bladed weapon", we're going a bit overboard with the whole sword lesbian thing atm.
Cursed to be attracted to people who mostly aren't interested in cishet white men I guess
tbh it's kinda problematic to use AFAB in contexts where you just want a more up to date way to say "bioLoGiCaL women", especially when referring to nonbinary people who are probably not fine with being called women at all. Please don't shoehorn people back into bio-essentialist and binary categories that may be major dysphoria triggers for them.
The entire AFAB / AMAB thing was originally coined by the inter community to highlight the arbitrary nature of doctors assigning gender by taking a brief look at a baby's genitals, not as a way to ignore self identification which is the only actually workable identifier of gender. The AGAB of the people you find attractive is irrelevant to begin with and you usually wouldn't have a reliable way to tell it in the first place.
Thanks for the feedback. Edited. Tbh I'm scared to express desires like this because I don't want to be problematic or chaser-y. And of course, more importantly, I don't want to hurt people or make them uncomfortable. And I recognize this comm isn't for me so it's on me to examine this stuff and think very hard about my word choice before posting.
If you're interested in learning more about the subject, here's a good video about the use of AFAB/AMAB as a replacement gender binary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv1byknT_jU
As far as the rest goes, yeah, it's difficult for a straight dude to be sexually and / or romantically interested in queer women and nonbinary people. The main thing to look out for is to leave people who identify as lesbian alone, none of us want to be approached by men in this way. Stick to trying to date bi / pan people and don't be an ass about it. When we're talking about a lesbian who may actually be a little bit bi or make an exception once in a while, actively trying to be that exception or even "fix" her will automatically and completely disqualify you and make you the potential subject of a vent post on r/actual_lesbians. pls don't be that guy.
When you're dating a trans person, you need to be aware of the fact that our bodies may be subject to change and that it is exclusively within our agency how we want that to happen. Bodily autonomy and the fight against being gatekept and doubted in the legitimacy of our gender identity are the central struggle of many trans people. In the case of transmasc people, in this context meaning: people who undergo physical changes masculinizing their body, this means that the cute butch looking person you developed a crush on may at some point grow a beard, get male body odor, may experience changes to their genitals, that they may be extremely uncomfortable with their chest being touched until they get a mastectomy, that their hips and butt are a constant source of dysphoric pain and insecurity for them and so on. It may mean deciding on he / him pronouns and being referred to as your boyfriend at some point, which frequently causes problems when cis dudes not used to queering their sexuality have to refer to him in such a way in front of their straight friends. Dating transmasc enbies when you're actually straight can and frequently will lead to the realization that you're simply not gay enough to maintain a relationship with them. All of these are actual examples from the dating lifes of trans men and transmasc nonbinary people i know personally, this is extremely common and very painful to them. Almost every trans dude and transmasc enbie i know has at least one awful, transphobic, manipulative boyfriend in their past. It's both horrible and super widespread. There's problems with transmasc NBs dating cis lesbians as well and they are often not that dissimilar, but i'm sticking to how queer women, fems and transmascs read as women or woman-aligned struggle when dating cishet dudes because that is what is relevant to what we're discussing here.
I could go on with trans women and NB transfems, but i already talk about our experience with chasers a lot, so i'll leave it at this.
This is apparently a super common thought for trans women who haven't realized yet. Along the lines of "why do I keep ending up attracted to lesbians?"
I've explored this thoughtspace and I'm pretty secure in my gender, really, just not in the idea of being manly or masculine in the traditional sense. Since, you know, that requires integrating with patriarchy and controlling people with violence.
Hm
I keep getting disapproval from folks because I'm refusing to pick a new name and my current one is very male. Oh and people who're otherwise very supportive pivoting to assuming I'm a she/they enbie that just doesn't know all the lingo.
I have to be like, "Yes I know what non-binary means, and just because I don't dress super femininely or want to change my name to Branwen or some shit, doesn't make me one."
trans girls with names that a boy could also have are awesome
KJB had a bit for a minute about insecure trans girls just going to "Girl Names" website and picking the first one they find on the list to get it over with.
Five years later, Alices and Abis are out here rocking your world.
i mean, alice and abi[gail] are a pretty good and cute names
Rania is extremely common in Algeria, so I look like moron when I turn my head when I hear someone calling another person named Rania.
hey rania πββοΈ
Hello
my name's "normal" on my region, but foreign-sounding/"abnormal" elsewhere
what does this make me? π€
Formidable
Mines the same but the opposite. In other countries its super normal. But, in mine its uncommon enough that all the other (same name queens) gal pal around over it whenever we meet another one.
On what level of terrifying energy is "Erika"
terrifying even on a cis woman
associating it with umineko makes it terrifying
But what's their pit bull's name? I'm guessing Morningstar's is "Destroyer of Worlds and Consumer of Souls", the friendliest little goofball you'll ever meet.
Out of coincidence I picked a name that was in the top 10 most popular girl's names for my birth year. I just liked how it sounded :meow-shining:
I remember back when I first started questioning my gender, not knowing I was trans yet, I used to call myself Jessica for a while. Later I realized how incredibly common that name was among trans women.
It felt like every group would have at least one Jessica.
my actual (not username)femme name is super normal and also kind of androgynous and i was lucky to be told repeatedly by my mom of my "alternate girls name" when she was picking out names. i prefer using the more andro nickname too but i'm a pretty butch transgirl anyways
was one of the many first eggy things that tickled my brain.
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I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
I have a normal name but I got it from a socialist revolutionary from the past which makes it cooler and inspires me to do good things.
This made me realize I don't know a single female socialist revolutionary from the past. Not even Socialism history is safe from patriarchy.
There are plenty female socialist revolutionaries if you look for them, you can start by looking into Monika Ertl and Maria Serrano. :)
I will do that, thanks for the tip!