I fucking hate Xmas because it highlights what are already sore spots and amplifies them ten fold.
It doesn't matter how much you succeed, or how well you're doing. You cannot outrun not having a family.
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SpinMeRound - 5day
Christmas was a sore spot until I realised that everyone has a different way of viewing Christmas and I chose to make my own. I have friends with those "picture perfect" families who are so dragged down by the day and appearances. Personally, my favourite Christmas is the one I can spend eating mac n cheese in my pyjamas.
No, you can't outrun not having a family. But you can choose to have your own traditions, with Gibson, with the strays, with the DT, with a favourite game or book or movie. With knowing that you are an AMAZING person who is treasured!
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Seagoon_ - 5day
The world is a better place with Simon in it. We're lucky to have him here. 🙂
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tone212_ - 5day
Xmas is one day, then it’s over. Totally understand that the lead up is so long but thinking of it as one day in a year helps me. I don’t have a close extended family or big family event like others, it’s much like any other day.
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Bottom_racer - 5day
Oh shit probably shouldn't have written what I did above didn't see your post.
That's rough.
Maybe this year a DT xmas IRL meetup party is in order. Would be nice to put faces to names :)
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TheWitchofThornbury2 - 5day
That's a possibility - I still have to find out if my boys are coming here for Xmas. If not, I'd be open to hosting a DT regulars orphan get together on the fatal day. Will decide a bit later on when I know more about scheduling. Would be a 'bring a plate to share' and your own drinks. On the plus side, Thornbury is an eligible central location with easy public transport. Will keep the thread posted as info comes to hand.
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LowExperience2368 - 5day
No mushrooms allowed!
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TheWitchofThornbury2 - 5day
Only magic ones. Those are ALWAYS acceptable.
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LowExperience2368 - 5day
Amen
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StudSpud The Starchy - 5day
Yassss 🙌
1
StudSpud The Starchy - 5day
I'm in 👉👉
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Catfish - 5day
This is viable. Used to do big Skout meet ups a zillion years ago.
4
Catfish - 5day
I will bother relevant people for pokemon trades!
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TheWitchofThornbury2 - 5day
True, but friends are the family you choose to have, not the genetic lottery.
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SituationCake - 5day
Much sympathy. Am in the same boat.
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Gibsonhasafluffybutt - 3day
I'm sorry you have to go through it as well.
Whatever you end up doing, I hope you feel connected to the people around you ❤️
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melbaboutown - 5day
I plan to hide until it’s over
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CEOofmyhouse56 - 5day
I'm very emotional today. Everything is going well but I feel like I'm gonna burst into tears anytime now for the smallest thing. Weird.
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Seagoon_ - 5day
gentle hugs, it's been a difficult week
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CEOofmyhouse56 - 5day
Thank you dear ❤️
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anotherspringchicken - 5day
I think sometimes when you go through something really difficult, you’ve got to hold it all together just to get through. Then when things get better all the stress and emotions come out.
Hugs
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TheWitchofThornbury2 - 5day
Worst and best description of this I've ever heard is - when you've spent so long being frozen up inside, and then you come into the warm and everything melts and leaks out of your eyes. Can attest to the accuracy of this.
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CEOofmyhouse56 - 5day
I think you are absolutely right. Menopause doesn't help either.
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melbaboutown - 5day
Sometimes it do be like that. It’s gonna be ok
::: spoiler spoiler
:::
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CEOofmyhouse56 - 5day
It will be ok. Thank you. ❤️
3
SpinMeRound - 5day
Sometimes you've just gotta cry.
5
Bottom_racer - 5day
Got a fair bit done over the last few days down here. Much easier when there's no one around. No silly arguments, not having to time / plan shit around dinner / shopping.
Very lucky to be able to use this place no questions asked. Usually over summer fam is down a fair bit and things can get a bit tense. So the idea is to remove a bit of that by getting shit done now in peace and quiet. This year there'll be SIL/bro's bubz in tow, ol' girl's in no shape so it's completely on me this year. Back in the day would've protested but these days after the last year and a bit sign me the fuck up, any excuse to escape lol.
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imoldgreeeg - 5day
I have spent many years trying to convince everyone I am not ADHD.... Looking around at the disaster in apartment today and realising I probably should not have embarked on a whole new kitchen reorganisation project complete with IKEA kits before I just stopped for ten minutes to do the dishes and put the bloody clothes away. Hmmmm
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Gibsonhasafluffybutt - 5day
One of us! One of us! Lol
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melbaboutown - 5day
True. I’m very consciously forcing myself to deal with the stuff in visible areas before pulling out any cupboards or tackling the fridge
1
Bottom_racer - 5day
Was trying to take a piccy of dins but bestie rocked up and tried to pinch it.
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anotherspringchicken - 5day
It’s right there in front of him, so that’s clearly dins for bestie
5
melbaboutown - 5day
Oh that eye is laser focused on borger
2
Rusty Raven - 5day
Want chocolate. Only have mandarin.
Edit: was given chocolate. 😁
2nd Edit: I'm back to only having a mandarin again, but with the addition of post-chocolate happiness.
8
Seagoon_ - 5day
yay for chocolate 🙂
5
SpinMeRound - 5day
What kinda chocolate did you get? 😀
1
Rusty Raven - 5day
Some random chocolates with no obvious branding someone at work had. It was much appreciated.
2
SpinMeRound - 5day
Random chocolate is better than no chocolate!! So glad someone was able to share!
was told that I'd be going to a mex place for dinner so I put make up on and took an allergy tab in case I couldn't avoid dairy
they brought home fish and chips instead 😐
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SpinMeRound - 5day
Oooh that'd be irritating!! Why the change?! Going out vs at home is very different, let alone the cuisine!! One needs notice for something like that!
4
Seagoon_ - 5day
I dunno.
we had my home made mango coconut ice creams for dessert, which were very yummy 🐻❄️
I don't mind really, have things on my mind
5
StudSpud The Starchy - 6day
Partner has man flu and has been binging Severance tonight. I've been watching some episodes here and there and he's into the second season now.
I do find it a bit slow in places. Not the slow burn part, I like slow burns, but just slow to move the story along. Other than that, it's a solid thriller and I like the realistic subtle sci-fi element, as well as its commentary on corpo life.
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Seagoon_ - 6day
I hope you enjoy each episode equally.
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StudSpud The Starchy - 6day
Patricia Arquette and Adam Scott are fabulous. Loved Patricia since I used to religiously watch Medium back when it was airing 😂
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Seagoon_ - 6day
I remember her from David Lynch movies, Adam is new to me. They are both so good.
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Force_majeure1234 - 6day
I just said this to my bipolar friend. He wasn't amused
2
LowExperience2368 - 6day
I think the shots of the landscapes are great but a bit slow. I watched Season 1 in 2x speed.
2
Seagoon_ - 5day
Put The Hobbit soundtrack on. Immediate smile. I needed that. 🤓🤓🤓
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imoldgreeeg - 5day
I have been listening to the Peter Serkis audiobooks of LOTR and they are immediately relaxing
5
Seagoon_ - 5day
I have been listening to the Phil Dragash LOTR and it can be so tense, or scary, or so sad I sit there crying in the train with my ear buds in
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imoldgreeeg - 5day
Yeah to be fair I am only up to the council of Elrond right now so I may have to find something else to go to sleep to as it moves further. I still have an emotional reaction thinking about some parts of the book (Sam Gamgee is my always hero). I will look up the Phil dragash ones next.
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Seagoon_ - 6day
more sleep
5
tombruzzo - 6day
King Parrot are doing an all ages show in Richmond today. I'd like to take the kids but it would be an expense venture for something they probably won't be into
5
PeelerSheila - 5day
Work Xmas party today and I'm running late 🤦🏼♀️Power at home was supposed to be cut off between 8am and 10am, but they turned up at 9:30am with a new power pole 🤦🏼♀️Had to cook the kids and early lunch because the gas oven is a bit tricky to turn on since the piezo broke.
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SpinMeRound - 5day
Beautiful day for a market stroll, lots of cute dogs around!
I gotta say, the story of "Mickey" makes a lot more sense when you find out it's a cover and was written for a male singer feeling baffled and cockteased. I never did understand how she flipped from "Take me home, arsehole" to "I'll let you do me up the bum" without an intervening narrative structure.
Also I am not unfamiliar with Racey how am I just finding this out now.
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Force_majeure1234 - 6day
Mickey is so fine:
::: spoiler spoiler
:::
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StudSpud The Starchy - 6day
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melbaboutown - 5day
Cats don’t have the same facial muscles but even so you can see he’s smiling
YarraByte in melbourne
Discussion Thread 🧃 Sunday 7 December 2025
The looming spectre of Xmas is fucking with me.
I fucking hate Xmas because it highlights what are already sore spots and amplifies them ten fold.
It doesn't matter how much you succeed, or how well you're doing. You cannot outrun not having a family.
Christmas was a sore spot until I realised that everyone has a different way of viewing Christmas and I chose to make my own. I have friends with those "picture perfect" families who are so dragged down by the day and appearances. Personally, my favourite Christmas is the one I can spend eating mac n cheese in my pyjamas.
No, you can't outrun not having a family. But you can choose to have your own traditions, with Gibson, with the strays, with the DT, with a favourite game or book or movie. With knowing that you are an AMAZING person who is treasured!
The world is a better place with Simon in it. We're lucky to have him here. 🙂
Xmas is one day, then it’s over. Totally understand that the lead up is so long but thinking of it as one day in a year helps me. I don’t have a close extended family or big family event like others, it’s much like any other day.
Oh shit probably shouldn't have written what I did above didn't see your post.
That's rough.
Maybe this year a DT xmas IRL meetup party is in order. Would be nice to put faces to names :)
That's a possibility - I still have to find out if my boys are coming here for Xmas. If not, I'd be open to hosting a DT regulars orphan get together on the fatal day. Will decide a bit later on when I know more about scheduling. Would be a 'bring a plate to share' and your own drinks. On the plus side, Thornbury is an eligible central location with easy public transport. Will keep the thread posted as info comes to hand.
No mushrooms allowed!
Only magic ones. Those are ALWAYS acceptable.
Amen
Yassss 🙌
I'm in 👉👉
This is viable. Used to do big Skout meet ups a zillion years ago.
I will bother relevant people for pokemon trades!
True, but friends are the family you choose to have, not the genetic lottery.
Much sympathy. Am in the same boat.
I'm sorry you have to go through it as well.
Whatever you end up doing, I hope you feel connected to the people around you ❤️
I plan to hide until it’s over
I'm very emotional today. Everything is going well but I feel like I'm gonna burst into tears anytime now for the smallest thing. Weird.
gentle hugs, it's been a difficult week
Thank you dear ❤️
I think sometimes when you go through something really difficult, you’ve got to hold it all together just to get through. Then when things get better all the stress and emotions come out.
Hugs
Worst and best description of this I've ever heard is - when you've spent so long being frozen up inside, and then you come into the warm and everything melts and leaks out of your eyes. Can attest to the accuracy of this.
I think you are absolutely right. Menopause doesn't help either.
Sometimes it do be like that. It’s gonna be ok
::: spoiler spoiler
:::
It will be ok. Thank you. ❤️
Sometimes you've just gotta cry.
Got a fair bit done over the last few days down here. Much easier when there's no one around. No silly arguments, not having to time / plan shit around dinner / shopping.
Very lucky to be able to use this place no questions asked. Usually over summer fam is down a fair bit and things can get a bit tense. So the idea is to remove a bit of that by getting shit done now in peace and quiet. This year there'll be SIL/bro's bubz in tow, ol' girl's in no shape so it's completely on me this year. Back in the day would've protested but these days after the last year and a bit sign me the fuck up, any excuse to escape lol.
I have spent many years trying to convince everyone I am not ADHD.... Looking around at the disaster in apartment today and realising I probably should not have embarked on a whole new kitchen reorganisation project complete with IKEA kits before I just stopped for ten minutes to do the dishes and put the bloody clothes away. Hmmmm
One of us! One of us! Lol
True. I’m very consciously forcing myself to deal with the stuff in visible areas before pulling out any cupboards or tackling the fridge
Was trying to take a piccy of dins but bestie rocked up and tried to pinch it.
It’s right there in front of him, so that’s clearly dins for bestie
Oh that eye is laser focused on borger
Want chocolate. Only have mandarin.
Edit: was given chocolate. 😁
2nd Edit: I'm back to only having a mandarin again, but with the addition of post-chocolate happiness.
yay for chocolate 🙂
What kinda chocolate did you get? 😀
Some random chocolates with no obvious branding someone at work had. It was much appreciated.
Random chocolate is better than no chocolate!! So glad someone was able to share!
sunday quiz
45/50 Yay mee!
35/50
Oscar has a girlfriend?!
News to me too.
35/50
30/50
25/50
40/50
35
was told that I'd be going to a mex place for dinner so I put make up on and took an allergy tab in case I couldn't avoid dairy
they brought home fish and chips instead 😐
Oooh that'd be irritating!! Why the change?! Going out vs at home is very different, let alone the cuisine!! One needs notice for something like that!
I dunno.
we had my home made mango coconut ice creams for dessert, which were very yummy 🐻❄️
I don't mind really, have things on my mind
Partner has man flu and has been binging Severance tonight. I've been watching some episodes here and there and he's into the second season now.
I do find it a bit slow in places. Not the slow burn part, I like slow burns, but just slow to move the story along. Other than that, it's a solid thriller and I like the realistic subtle sci-fi element, as well as its commentary on corpo life.
I hope you enjoy each episode equally.
Patricia Arquette and Adam Scott are fabulous. Loved Patricia since I used to religiously watch Medium back when it was airing 😂
I remember her from David Lynch movies, Adam is new to me. They are both so good.
I just said this to my bipolar friend. He wasn't amused
I think the shots of the landscapes are great but a bit slow. I watched Season 1 in 2x speed.
Put The Hobbit soundtrack on. Immediate smile. I needed that. 🤓🤓🤓
I have been listening to the Peter Serkis audiobooks of LOTR and they are immediately relaxing
I have been listening to the Phil Dragash LOTR and it can be so tense, or scary, or so sad I sit there crying in the train with my ear buds in
Yeah to be fair I am only up to the council of Elrond right now so I may have to find something else to go to sleep to as it moves further. I still have an emotional reaction thinking about some parts of the book (Sam Gamgee is my always hero). I will look up the Phil dragash ones next.
more sleep
King Parrot are doing an all ages show in Richmond today. I'd like to take the kids but it would be an expense venture for something they probably won't be into
Work Xmas party today and I'm running late 🤦🏼♀️Power at home was supposed to be cut off between 8am and 10am, but they turned up at 9:30am with a new power pole 🤦🏼♀️Had to cook the kids and early lunch because the gas oven is a bit tricky to turn on since the piezo broke.
Beautiful day for a market stroll, lots of cute dogs around!
late pic of the beach
and the clouds were so pretty
Sky pretty
huh.
I gotta say, the story of "Mickey" makes a lot more sense when you find out it's a cover and was written for a male singer feeling baffled and cockteased. I never did understand how she flipped from "Take me home, arsehole" to "I'll let you do me up the bum" without an intervening narrative structure.
Also I am not unfamiliar with Racey how am I just finding this out now.
Mickey is so fine:
::: spoiler spoiler
:::
Cats don’t have the same facial muscles but even so you can see he’s smiling
Well that was a rabbit hole!
beach
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I don't think I need to eat anything this morning chef. Just an iced latte please
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Prawn & bacon risotto please chef and tea.
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Thx chef