🥰 re girlfriend. Nice when it’s someone you already know, too. Also yay for the -3kg.. I’m not succeeding in that area sadly

Celebrate the small wins 🏆

Nicely done on the weight loss and the gf!! Boyo and I had known each other for 7 years pre dating, it was nice to not worry about a lot of the early on getting-to-know-you things.

wonderful

so jelly, there are no waves like that where I go, just wide sand flats and a gentle yet relentless tide

I feel the same because the things I have done are things most people don't care about or think are worth bragging about, I don't care because I don't measure myself against them using their yardstick, I use my own

being a good kind person doing small things on a daily basis is a feat in itself and something worthy being happy about

and in this historic time not being awful is something good 👍

I know it sucks, especially if you’ve had challenges or barriers that others haven’t. But don’t worry about keeping up with the Jones and all the rat race shit. You may find that behind a lot of flashy things lies a lot of stress and hidden debt.

Don’t compare your life to other’s highlights reels. Don’t let unequal outcomes affect your self esteem.

Bah the Many Bugs. We don't Christmas, and really only Solstice in a very private way.

I understand how you feel 🫂

🥂🍾😘😘😘

I'm sorry Spud :(

In the same boat, applying to jobs, never hearing back. They must be getting many applicants.

Advertising pet sitting on Facebook could be one way? I know it's not consistent employment though :(

I’m so sorry you’re going through this - job hunting sucks and the rejections are horrible.

Further to Taleya’s comment, in my field jobs also get advertised even when someone has already been chosen, they just have to appear to be being ‘equitable’ employment-wise. Then, surprise surprise, the biggest suck or boss’s bestie lands the role.

Also, hiring managers are just people and some aren’t so great at their jobs, particularly when it comes to providing useful feedback or even being tactful with rejections.

Hugs and I hope you’re feeling a bit better soon

It sucks so much. I found going for volume of applications over quality and finding decent recruiters is the way to go.

hugs

Thing to remember, poor sop that it is: A large number of these jobs never existed. If you were ghosted, it was probably a pos that never actually looked to hire. So you can write those absolutely off as a "it's not me, its you lying cunts"

unfortunately this means the actual number of jobs is much much smaller, and you're competing in a much tougher pool. And yet, you're still getting to dice rolls, so it's nothing on your end that's not closing the deal, just shit luck and a bad market

job hunting is an exercise in humiliation and shitness and I fucking hate that you have to go through this.

When the the game is stacked against you unfairly it would be foolish to play by the rules of ethics.

Cheat until you can get to a place where you can hopefully influence the rules to make them fairer.

According to tons of studies our biggest assets are connections and class, this is what gives middle and upper class people an edge.

Go to student services at the college you studied at and ask for assistance. They might have leads.

So for now fuck volunteering, go join some clubs in posh areas. Join your local political party ( standard parties, not student activist ones )

see if you can use a friend's postal address if they live in a better area. A house might cost 1 mill in the west or inner north but it's still the west and inner north

and hugs, lots and lots of hugs

I get it. Personal info deleted but I get it.

I’m completely out of touch and my past experience no longer applies so this may be boomer advice, but is it possible to temporarily change fields to gig work or side hustles just to get some money up and regroup?

::: spoiler Long ramble of unsolicited advice if you wanted to read it

Elderly and disability care can be hard and emotionally confronting, and not easy if you have a disability yourself and/or lack a car. There may be tasks you can’t physically do or inappropriate or dangerous behaviour.

But there are clients who just need help with routine cleaning or need errands done. Lacking a car will go against you as transport to appointments can be very important but maybe sign up to something like Mabel and see if you can find some clients close by? Even if it just means picking up their medication, getting their shopping, or being some form of social interaction. I’m not sure what qualifications are needed or if there are any, sorry. You may need to get a ABN maybe, and have your photo on the site? But I do know you can set specific areas you will work in and you can choose what tasks you’re willing to do.

I’d suggest petsitting if you didn’t have a partner and your own pet. Drop in care could still work as some cats get very stressed in catteries and prefer to stay in their own homes. Dog walking or training could be another casual side hustle if physically possible.

Cleaning is a hard one as it could be physically exhausting and low pay. I don’t have experience but maybe check out work as an NDIS cleaner in case it might offer fairer pay and conditions (not sure).

I’m not sure if you’re handy at all but there are people who struggle with male tradies and would feel safer with a non-man/queer person in their home. However this is potentially a risk to you.

Doing art commissions is possible but people are arseholes and may not want to pay your worth, or may screw you over with chargebacks. Scams are rife. The stuff that brings bigger money has been regulated out by payment processors and using PayPal can give out your legal name so you get doxed. There may also be issues if you don’t report income. Also there is a lot of competition from other artists in desperate financial circumstances. I haven’t gone for it.

There are admin and transcription jobs online but I wouldn’t begin to know what offers were legit vs scams.

I don’t have experience but there could be occasional work as a life model. It’s long boring work but cash in hand. You probably could negotiate to be in shorts and a tank, and I’d recommend approaching reputable art teachers or schools for reasons of safety and dignity. I don’t know what the pay is like. I understand if you don’t feel comfortable. But all body types are welcomed. Just an idea.

I know the CAE used to do coffee courses and had an attached cafe to get work experience so there’s potential there to casually work as a barista? There used to be programs to help people who have had mental health struggles get into that work. However it involves long standing, loud noises, concentration and dealing with people.

There is getting your liquor license but bartending can be rough. Do not recommend with ptsd.

Same for gaming attendant, you need to get a license and work shifts at irregular and dangerous hours.

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I’m very sorry if this is poor and out of touch advice. I read it back and it sounds like I’m advising you to get a paper route… it’s just all I’ve been able to think up.

Bill Posters is a great dude. Yet more evidence of his innocence.

COOL 👍

I don't clean mine because otherwise birds brain themselves on the glass.

Tempted to try this this year. burned through so much paper toweling last year felt a bit criminal.

Obviously only for the outside though.

I feel like the official Xmas pud should be changed to choc ripple cake or tiramisu. Trifle. Or the classic Pav.

I want to take this opportunity to say a fucking mastodonic fuck you to Windows fucking 11.

Fuck you Microsoft you absolute piece if shit.

Hahaha a Kdrama I watched recently featured a guy who was soooo amazingly popular and hard working that he owned ten sets of the same suit so he could think about work instead of clothes. Well, thats what all the girls thought, but it turned out he was a tight ass and only had one suit.

Showering in a freshly cleaned shower, shower.

Foreplay shower before clean sheets intimacy.

Shower on LSD in the dark where you are sitting down and thinking about the warm moist universe around you

Hot day shower.

After sweaty exercise shower is always amazing. Also after chlorine pool shower (which I’m about to have). Chlorine is gross.

Damn hot shower that makes my neck crack!

A shower on a hot day and going outside to dry off.

Also, first shower after full week camping event that involves armour

Warmed fluffy towel shower, with new cake of soap.

Micron just announced they are dumping their Crucial retail brand to focus on supplying the AI circular financing bubble financial disaster. It is crazy. I hope our super funds aren't tied up in this crap. We will end up poorer than North Korea.

LLM shitfarms, Gonna get real fun now crucial announced they're fucking off their consumer arm

Holy fucking shit. Guess I won't be upgrading my pc any time soon.

For a sec there I thought you were talking about cars

Yes. Abusive men basically had a free pass back then and things haven’t changed enough

Not great. 😔

and also an indictment on how people respond to dangerous people

Gift of Fear https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_of_Fear https://archive.org/details/giftoffearsurviv00debe_0

I love raccoons lol that's so good 😂😂

Have you seen the video of the raccoon that ate weed chocolate? https://youtube.com/shorts/sf4e-ErfckY

Slays me everytime 😂

They put him in the drunk tank!

The suspect had one too many and ended up face down beside a toilet.

Haven’t we all

That picture is a new classic 😂

My dog has fallen off the back of the couch before. I thought he'd killed himself. I looked down and he's hunched like a rabbit, ears pinned back. Still treats my furniture like he's a mountain goat. Idiot.

Happy wrapped day DT people!

Last year you all called me an old soul. This year spotify beat you to the punch-

::: spoiler 'listening age' https://sh.itjust.works/pictrs/image/1580699f-dcb5-4db5-9acc-6227601e6aaf.png :::

Bonus points for the day I listened to 168 artists and 159 songs in a single day

::: spoiler 'most diverse day' https://sh.itjust.works/pictrs/image/bd20346d-5896-425b-b867-c99c8fe05402.png :::

I must've been going through something, but I have no clue what or why

More generally, glad to see this place is still going. Hope you've all been keeping well

I accidentally left a playlist on loop overnight a couple of times and it's cooked my Wrapped in a couple of ways. Bugger.

Apparently I listened to 1200 or so different artists, and I…don’t know how?

I only listened to 3 albums this year

I keep on forgetting to listen to Fear Inoculum. Still go to Lateralus and 10,000 days as my default

I've never listened to Heritage before now and it slaps!!

Great to see people still listening to Heritage. They played The Devil's Orchid when I saw them recently and it's always a great feeling when they hit the bridge.

Have you listened to the new album?

Our music tastes are pretty much identical lol

Don't know if it will apply, a million years ago I got a "automatic 50% unmarked submitted too late"

I failed digital programing 2 in 98 doing that. Late assignments are one thing. The end of subject and result submission are another. The subject has a deadline, without a prior extension I expect you'll be stuck with it. It sucked for me.

Hang it and beat it?

Hang, beat, wool wash then power spray.

(Applicable elsewhere)

Make sure "crazy dance break" is on that list!!

I got my kid his own account mid way through the year so his impact is less this year, but still apparent!

Compote de fruits, et un tasse de cafe, s'il vous plait chef.

A sanguine sandwich please

black tea and crumpets please chef

The Myer windows are Lego themed this year.

There's the Lego Star Wars exhibition at the museum as well

Isn't it free public transit? Sandringham Beach?

What are the kids into?

There’s the city circle tram, old Melbourne gaol, vic market, botanic gardens, ACMI (has a gaming exhibition), NGV…

Swim? Or the 3 litre glass of beer.