So he won't cook for his wife, who is wasting away, because why? It's women work?

If he's a traditional man who adheres to gender roles, then I would tell him "a man's work is doing what needs to be done". And he isn't doing what needs to be done.

I'm sorry you're suffering this as well. Managing all this by yourself with no help from your siblings is so fucking awful. I'm so sorry BR.

Oh man. Look this might be a bit scary for mum, but would she consider a temporary nasal tube to help her with nutrition? You can run an automatic pump for a slow drip so she doesn’t have to worry about mouth pain or remembering to sip.

I get the sense that she’s not a fan of sweets but Ensure does come in a neutral flavour that could be mixed into coffee or soups. MCT oil is basically a medium chain coconut oil that may help with weight gain (but may have uncomfortable or embarrassing side effects, I haven’t tried it).

She may need a review on her mouth pain, a check on why it’s not resolving and if it can be managed.

I’m so sorry that everything is falling on your shoulders and your old man won’t step up. I wonder if perhaps there could be a home carer to assist with the soup and reminding her to eat. (Or to make it with her if she insists on cooking.)

Edit: Also cooked pasta is fantastic for bulking, soft, and very blendable. Goes well with creamy fatty stuff.

Edit 2: Also for variety without spice don’t overlook a very slight sourness or acid (if her mouth pain won’t be inflamed by tiny amounts of lemon juice or vinegar or plain Greek yogurt, and it wouldn’t curdle her soup).

Tiny amounts of lemon zest, caramelised onion (can be bought premade in a jar at Woolies), and nutmeg in a savoury dish are all other options depending on type of soup.

Fat is both a great flavour amplifier and a dense source of calories so consider bacon fat or duck fat. These can go into a roux that can thicken the soup.

Gravy based blended meat stews may also provide some variety to the creamy or cheesy ones.

(Sorry, I feel like these tips are adding complications to an obligation that’s already wearing you out)

On very tired days you/she/home help can also buy store bought cans of chunky soups to thin with a can of water, heat up and blend. Campbells is legit.

You've been doing an absolutely incredible job keeping her well. But it does take a toll when it all falls to you. Convalescence/Respite doesn't work for a lot of people, they see it as a threat to their independence so become more withdrawn. In my humble experience home based support (although some are reluctant for that too) works a little bit more because 'normal' people will lift their game when someone is coming into their home. And I don't mean that your mum is not normal, I mean that most of the people I nurse in the community are not normal and they are happy for me to see them warts and all, and normal people will put in some effort because someone is looking in. Take some big deep breaths, tackle a big pruning job that will recover and sit under your weeping cherry to watch the petals rain down.

I'm curious to know what he's eating?

This sounds a like a lot for you to handle.

I’m sorry you and your family are having such a hard time. It sounds like you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place, and the help has to come from your old man.

It’s a tough situation and I hope things get better soon mate ❤️

I thought for a second you were making a post about Mel Gibson.

Posts about Gibson are much better.

Me: Void get off the kitchen bench stands up Void: ha ha! I stole your warm chair

Oh she's so pretty

Smart watches are ugly as but gee they are worth it. Have fun.

volume control and voice commands for timers and alarms are the shit

😁

I love him so much, he's a simple little soul, very easy, loves company and is happy just going outside or sleeping, he's curious and brave too

never complains either unless I have to brush him in sensitive areas and then it's all, whoa there buddy,

Nothing like a cat to ground you. I hope you managed to get some sleep.

Poor bubba! It’s ok, he understands that sometimes things are rough.

Perhaps both of you need some cuddles

The Bode

Call ahead and see if he wants anything, they're a bit cut off from the world. I used to take good coffee and weed cookies to my friend in care.

Damn. What a disappointment.

I can't see anything 🤷‍♀️

No walk just sleep.

I really with that excuse would fly with work. Sorry, can't come in the cat's sleeping on top of me. I guess I'd need a lot more sick leave if that did work, though.

I too think youse guys are the best and I love how we have a really good mix of different people

and everyone so kind and open in sharing what's going on

you're doing great, you are doing

that is the very definition of coping 😘😘😘

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A few wild guesses in there that didn't work out

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8/10 too much football

7!

Also 8/10

Hahaha it's funny how I see this view almost every day and take it for granted. Welcome to Perth. 😃
Don't get too used to our weather, it might make you cross when you get back to Melbourne.
Try also not to think about how that train is doing the equivalent of Southern Cross to Geelong in a similar time for $5.

It's very beautiful.

Pooh :(

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Probably not. Beer/mash has a lot of organics in it, and CLR is wonderful for removing stains due to non-organics but doesn't do so well with organics. Maybe oxygen laundry booster or washing soda would work better? Patch test essential.

EDIT: CLR is high risk of damaging the cement floor unless it's been thoroughly sealed with something non-reactive. Lots of micropitting which you probably don't want near the beer cos microbiology. Could wax lyrical about concrete/cement floors - used to work in the industry. Unless sealed, cement floors are VERY reactive to a lot of chemicals and stain/degrade very quickly. The worst is fats & oil contamination - does horrible things to concrete and very difficult to remove without damage. And beer is full of lipids, which crosslink easily with calcium carbonate.

You may be looking at grinding back and re-finishing the floor - I hope not but it depends a bit on what stage the beer was at when the beernami happened.

Love that. How much?

I'll have what YarraByte is having.

Four and twenty black birds

Same as Force please chef.

Fancy cafe breakfast please

beware of the child catcher!

This is one weird ass movie

You are doing such an amazing job but please remember to look after yourself!

hugs, have a warm shower if you can or a bath, something to help ease and relax

hugs,

( and yep, it's the lifting while leaning that can get a person, I've done it myself )